I started dating this girl from my town about a year ago. She had all the signs of a good mate for an LTR that is commonly discussed on the main sub (committed, always available for me, submissive, cooked, etc. etc. - really treated me like a King). A few months into us dating, she's asked for exclusivity and I reluctant agreed. I was trying to follow /u/HumanSockPuppet and /u/Whisper 's management advice on relationship hierarchies- but didn't do a good job... obviously. Long story short … I lied, and had plates on the side. I didn't want to commit but for a variety of reasons I said I would (I guess I wanted the best of both worlds; an LTR and the ability to act single) - and so I lead her on. She recently found out about this, and I ended up telling her the unfiltered truth in person - I wasn't dating any other women, but I had been hooking up with other women during our time together. This came as quite a shock to her, she asked me with how many women and how long and I responded with the truth - multiple women for months … in hindsight maybe I should not have told her the whole truth - it may have hurt her less... I don't know. She broke up with me immediately and had some very very harsh things to say - I didn't really say anything at this point since I knew I fucked up and should've just be honest from the start. I did apologize for how I made her feel in person, and was genuinely disappointed in how shit hit the fan - I did not beg, did not ask for us to stay together, and sort of just accepted whatever the consequences were.

In retrospect, uncle /u/VasiliyZaitzev was right, cheating was not the way to go, being honest and saying you're more an OLTR will save headache and heartache. She texted me more terrible shit the next day (she really is the victim in all this; she was very emotionally invested in our relationship as I was her first boyfriend) ... I haven’t responded to her since I know anything I say will only make things worse. Should I give it sometime and reach out, or should I just never talk to her again? I know our relationship is beyond repair but I did want to end things amicably (and at least be cordial if we ever run into each other again which is high a possibility) … but the exact opposite happened. I damaged this girl... badly, and regret doing this. My reputation is huge to me and I don't want her to resent me and try getting back at me. I'm overwhelmed with both guilt and deep sadness at how I treated her & broke her heart. This there any solution to this?