To take plates / dates home?

If I say something like “you wanna come over and chill / spend the night /watch something?”

It doesn’t work often for me with some women.

To increase the success I would just make the circumstances ideal to have her really close to my place or go out so late the only comfortable action is for her to get to my place.

Should I just lead and command instead?

It’s hard and since am kind of a pleaser it doesn’t really come natural