Could I have handled this better?

RedSkeller · 2019-03-31T00:30:09+00:00

Uhhhh sounds like some sort of scam or someone fucking with you. I've never had some chick off tinder come straight over, and the ones that did, well I learned quick to meet them out first because they showed up haggard. Second, yes meet them in public. It's easier for them to feel comfortable and agree to meet up and they feel less like whores when you take them back 30 minutes later to your place to fuck. Also, never double message. If you're left hanging in a tinder convo you can try to jumpstart it with a low effort line but if it's in the middle or end of setting up logistics - she's not interested = next.

gregoire_ · 2019-03-31T00:42:27+00:00

You shouldn’t tell people you never met to come straight to your house. Dangerous for everybody and you never know if you like who shows up.
Calling her out on flaking won’t make her want to come. It just makes you look hurt and weak. Not doing you any favors
You doubled down on it. You really made sure she didn’t want to fuck you.

Block the girl (?), read up on frame.

That said, a girl who gets straight to talking about business on tinder without testing you is a MASSIVE red flag.

RedLegendx · 2019-03-31T00:40:07+00:00

I would have stopped replying after he/she/it asked for a dick pic.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-03-31T00:37:29+00:00

In my tinder description basically I state that I am looking to fuck girls only if they earn it.

LMFAO She (He?) was trolling you guy JFC.

Thunderfin · 2019-03-31T00:59:26+00:00

Lol wtf, prob a bot. Kudos to you tho, if this was legit a girl that's longer than any convo I've ever had with my matches

entrep4 · 2019-03-31T09:45:16+00:00

Sounds like a gay guy just wanted to get some nudes

MilhouseShortPants · 2019-04-01T14:53:11+00:00

Let’s assume this was a real girl actually looking to do this for a second... you completely cocked this up for yourself. Why not meet this stranger for one drink in a public place to make sure she’s not completely insane/hideous before bringing her in to your home? Also I get the whole “commanding alpha no-bullshit” demeanour you were trying to convey here, but damn man, you can be a little nicer and still get what you want. I’ve had situations like this with girls online and they have worked out well, just maybe play it a bit cooler next time, rather than being so demanding.

Title	Could I have handled this better?
Author	drakehfh
Upvotes	3
Comments	20
Date	March 31, 2019 12:25 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/b7hwgm/could_i_have_handled_this_better/
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