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[–]gbizzle22 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
It depends on whether or not you care about coming off a desperate.
[–]spliferoooo1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Can you elaborate?
[–]gbizzle23 points 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Cold approaching in my opinion is equivalent to spamming. You know how spam in your email looks desperate vs stuff you signed up for? Id only go after the ones that are staring.
Ok, that’s good advice. So your choice is wait for a choosing signal?
[–]Prize-Thought-42051 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Well yes but my dude don't be afraid to just be walking somewhere and you look at a cute girl for a moment, if you see she looks back at you & smiles. That's a vey high sign to act immediately. don't think because you were the first to catch her eyes she isn't interested.
Since most guys will be to scared to approach & people love good quality social interaction (very scarce now a days) she will get even more excited and happy you actually walked to her & began a conversation. From then on you should be easily able to get her number & schedule a later meet up either while y'all are talking or through text later.
I regret missing out on these signs before the pandemic, but now it seems like masks have veiled that for everyone. The corner of the eyes also isn’t a good indicator, since it’s hard to see from afar. Or they could just be squinting at you.
[–]gbizzle21 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Study signals. You dont need to see peoples mouths to feel their energy of attraction.
Yeah, i'm obviously talking about before the pandemic... I myself haven't even cold approached since 2019 (fine not true I just haven't done it often this or last year). But back then I had been lifting weights for years but kept telling myself that I wasn't sexually attractive no women could ever be interested in me since I wasn't tall, was a minority and didn't think too highly of myself. But then besides some guys complimenting on the improvement of my physique I began thinking "hey, whenever I try to dress well all these pretty cute girls are looking at me weirdly... but in the past no one would look at me at all" and one day I noticed a girl look at me and gave me a very warming smile after I accidentally looked at her... at first I thought "wtf was that she is so out of my league" and it clicked to me all those girls looking at me weirdly gave me the same eyes as the girl who smiled at me.
And so, I got out of my head & my anxiety, began smiling at strangers & approaching the college girls smiling back at me, getting into day game - which I thought was impossible at the time. If they gave me good eyes I knew I would get a smile really quickly into talking to them, and then a number and in the night time if she's super interested & enthusiastic about meeting up, after drinks we could just walk back to my dorm room and hook up.
After you began achieving some success with pretty cute girls the confidence boost is gigantic. You start to believe in the process and all your lifting and putting in work in the gym actually mattering, you began caring about your diet more consistently and drop other toxic habits like smoking, wasting time watching porn etc (you can have real hook ups making out with strangers & feeling their asses so you must be able to escalate to blow jobs & sex with a little more work).
You eventually achieve abundance mentality and notice this thing even the most attractive guys in relationships with gfs seem to lack, drive. They became complacent and settle for one girl who might misbehave or w.e when you're having fun talking to 10 different girls a week and hooking up with a couple ones and possibly new ones all on their best behavior, super excited when with you.
Every guy has their oblivious moments but the huge thing to actually watch out for is not body movements but people's vibe they give off. I know guys who can't tell when a girl is dtf, in the mood to be escalated on or to laugh at your lame jokes & be bedded. They make the girls not into anything at all uncomfortable, creeped out... and pass up on the ones who would've definitely had sex with them if only they put any effort into making a move. Stop talking about nerdy **** and kiss her, move onto to bed she doesn't care & you don't need to do any convincing or waiting for shit test. I think one of the issues here is inexperienced guys assume no cute women could want sex that much or that badly that it would just be free.
I like the message you’re trying to send here; I’ve been lifting for about six months as well, so hopefully when summers out I can get some traction with it. I don’t have abs or huge biceps yet, but I have a muscular frame with good pecs and height as of now. The problem is that I need to study more choosing signals as another commentor noted.
[–]throwhawayyyy1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
not necessarily. with this ideology you’re treating cold approaching like tinder, where your appearance is the only thing that makes her give signals. if your frame is on point and you’re a confident and masculine guy, then approaching without looking for choosing signals would be good.
If your frame is on point, your life is on point, youre confident, masculine, you dress well, smell well, you wouldnt need to cold approach. You'd be getting enough signals from beautiful women to where all you have to do is select which one you want.
But for someone who doesnt get chosen on id understand why cold approaching would be a better option.
As for me im not afraid of rejection i just dont like the exchange that would take place in that scenario. You approach a woman, she turns you down, you get nothing, she gets validation, and then you rinse and repeat until you get a woman to "take the bait".
So on average you might approach 10 women and only get 3 numbers. So you gave free validation to 10 women in exchange for 3 numbers.
And now the woman that you had success with believes she is the prize because she "gave you a chance". The dynamic is different as you had to sell yourself whereas if you let her choose she has to prove herself worthy of you. And it is easier to lead her.
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[–]women_deserve_love1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I just say... “wassup?”
Basic girls are the easiest: they’re looking for anything that might excite them.
[–]michael1962-011 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Finding 'a common ground' is beta as fuck.
Tease. Be bold. You dont need her name or number. You need her vagina dripping wet.
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