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Dealing with Beta orbiters

2014-10-16T23:29:41+00:00

Looking for advice as wife has a lunch (did not mention this, I found out on own) tomorrow with an old friend. Guy used to work with her. The dudes first wife...

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October 16, 2014

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Title	Dealing with Beta orbiters
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	October 16, 2014 11:29 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2jgtg3/dealing_with_beta_orbiters/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/dealing-with-beta-orbiters.193790 https://theredarchive.com/post/193790

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[–]AskTRP Endorsed ContributorAlphaAsFAQ2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]newlifeasredpill0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]V_Virtus 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]newlifeasredpill0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

thank you for asking- I need help shaping my response (if any).

I came home unexpectedly at noon thinking she would just be leaving and I could ask casually where she is going. No one home. I called and she had rode bike to the neighborhood where lunch would be. I asked why there so early as I know she is there for school pickup and got some bullshit answer about checking out places for a friends baby shower. Now that is trickle truth as this place is a potential place for the shower but she clearly hid the lunch.

I say ok have fun

ten mins later she calls me and asks if I want to meet her.. Im like... No.. I have to go back to work. she hangs up

Guess what? in between the two calls to me she cxls the lunch with the guy last minute and asks him to come over the house to see me and the kids next week instead.

NOW... what do say/do if anything? Remember that she isnt cheating with THIS guy (or anyone for all I know). I dont want her to know I have her email hacked so I can continue to monitor things as I awaken from a ten year BP coma.

I think I just have to file this away as another red flag that I really need to focus on myself and not be afraid to pull the cord here if/when something serious does occur. I learned that she is deceitful for bullshit reasons so it was a good use of my energies. She has come around considerably in last two months as the RP circulates in my blood.

Thoughts? I am humble and willing to listen

[–]Rhyming_guy0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]newlifeasredpill0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Obviously I can do as I please but I am confused why this particular lunch remains undisclosed. Zero shot she has something going on with THIS guy (at least in years).

I suspect:

She is SAHM and feels guilty of having recreational time (then she cant bitch to me how HARD her day is!) OR

She fears I will "do lunch" and she cant moan about it.

Still.... I want to know if she will tell me these things truthfully. I am new to RP for a couple months and have been holding frame like a champ.

I fear asking openly about this seems needy and will wreck my recent gains. If it were an ex bf or a new guy from gym.... I'd be direct and tell her that this is unacceptable. This is a harmless lunch 90 mins before she picks up one of the kids at school. I cant act jealous and appear weak for this shit. But as AlphaAsFAQ says... red flag if she hides it

thanks for your help