The past few years I've done a lot to get in shape, dress well, compose myself better and I'm at the point where most women desire to have sex with me. The past year and a half I've mostly been keeping casual relationships and hooking up, having some friend with benefits situations. I've been tired of that, the stress and worrying of preganancies, stds, and my town (even though college city) still has a small feel with places people congregate. There was a time when I was surrounded by 4 girls I hooked up with at once, I felt pretty cheap.

I've wanted a stable relationship and good sex. I slowly got to know a girl through my program over the past year and we've had great communication and chemistry. She left her boyfriend and we started seeing each other. I didn't think much about it but I realized I never really sexually fantasized about her. She's cute as hell and has a fairly nice body but isn't biologically an ideal girl for offspring. She's very short and tiny.

The sex started out pretty good, but she's anxiety prone. Even though she's on BC she still fears condom-less sex. I can't feel much with condoms, especially being cut. And at this point i'm more emotionally/pleasantly engaged with her as opposed to being sexually stimulated in a more raw animalistic kind of way that i'm normally used to.

So the sex isn't very good but we've become very close and she's probably in the very high ranges of an ideal partner for me. I however have a lot of women I could be having sex with and have started thinking about some of them while were having sex.

I suppose none of this sounds very good. I just don't know if it will always be this way for me. If I need to just live a life of casual sex and relationships. How in the world do people be exclusive to one person? People being shamed after cheating for years of being together, and its only been 3 weeks and I'm very tempted. I realize in life sacrifices must be made, but i'm looking for thoughts and advice from men who have an exclusive partner. I want to hear from guys with experience on this matter.