I've been dating a 21yo girl exclusively for 7 months. She liked me before she knew about my career or my solid middle class situation. We had grate compatibility so I told myself why not.

We have a 10 years age gap, and since the beginning I was clear with her that I saw high chance of failure in the relationship but I enjoyed my time with her and was willing to take the risk.

Around the 6th month I asked her to be my gf. Everything seemed fine from my perspective, but last week she told me I love you but I don't know if I want to keep this, you're hurting me too much.

This was her first non drunk I love you. Digging a bit more she told me that I project/make her understand that I'll leave her anytime, and that makes her crazy.

I'd already realized that she feels she's not at my level and might never be (feels non pretty enough, and college isn't going well) and I might not be the best at comfort game, but I never thought about ditching her so, to me, this came out of nowhere.

My reply was that I would analyze what I'd been saying that made her feel like that. But that it would be easier if she directly pointed instances of my behavior that made her feel like that (didn't seem to like my let's increase communication proposal).

I made it clear that ultimately this was her choice to make, but that it hurt my honor that my word and actions weren't enough for her.

So here I'm asking for experiences dealing with insecure girls.