Difference between ultimatum and setting boundaries?

TRPCops · 2019-12-13T15:38:21+00:00

3 day ban for basic faq and lazy ass question

antalpoti · 2019-12-13T14:31:53+00:00

An ultimatum includes a threat by nature in the case of crossing a boundary one more time. A boundary is simple, a firm affirmation of a certain limit.

"If you call X one more time, we're done".

"Don't call X anymore, I don't want you to talk to him/her."

See the difference?

Opperkech69 · 2019-12-13T14:17:11+00:00

Ultimatums can only occur when a boundary has already been crossed.

KirthWGersen · 2019-12-13T19:03:24+00:00

A boundary is for you. Knowing how you will respond if someone does something. It is your responsibility and reveals your true character.

Setting boundaries is making rules for other people. They rarely work. Or you become a controlling arsehole who wouldn't know a relationship from his elbow. It is the opposite of abundance.

Let people be how they are. Let them reveal themselves to you. Enjoy them for what they are. Then choose not to be with them if you don't like them. It is only way people can learn.

Title	Difference between ultimatum and setting boundaries?
Author	amninder44
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	December 13, 2019 2:06 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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