Quick summary, I'm 20 yrs old, pursuing a degree in a foreign country, fairly in good shape, 6'1" tall, 190 lbs at 15% bf. Found TRP around a year ago and I'm happy I did.
So, last Friday night I was in a club having fun, when an HB 8.5/10 (let's call her Maria) that I'm friends with comes with her friend group. I know them, so I kinda spend most of the night with them. Maria literally approached me, initiated dancing with me, talked about some BS stuff just to have a conversation, basically her interest level was crazy high. Also, I have to mention that she was quite drunk, let's say 6.5/10 if 10 is blacking out.
She even kissed me a ton of times, so we proceed to make out in the club. Fast forward, we're at her place and we have sex. I don't spend the night, so I left pretty quickly and she said in a confident tone "we should definitely see each other again soon".
I didn't even plan on initiating contact anytime soon, but she texted me the following morning some BS, we do some chit-chat and I ask her out for a coffee the same night (too quick probably?). She says she can't do tonight, studying for an exam, but Monday will be fine. So I text her again on Monday (mistake maybe here?), and she says she can't do Monday, but the next night will be fine. I just tell her to text me when she's free because I think that I have overpursued a little bit. She then kinda "ghosts" me and hasn't texted back since.
I understand that this is a fairly long post for one girl, but I would like some answers because I have been having the same difficulty (plating an ONS) multiple times. Where did I make a mistake here? Or maybe she was just too drunk? Thank you in advance.
TLDR: HB 8.5 goes crazy for me in a nightclub, we have sex, she then initiates contact and "ghosts" me.
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Your mistake was not confirming a definite time and place for Monday. You left it up in the air, she had an easy out. If she gave you pushback when setting the actual time and place for Monday, you'd then know she wasn't really interested and was using you for validation or because she was bored. If that had happened, you could have retracted the offer and told her to get in touch when she figures out her schedule. This way, you keep your power and increase her interest because you look like a higher value male with an actual life.
Keep in mind I'm making the assumption that you didn't set a definite time and place for Monday. If you did, then that means you got in touch to confirm the date, which would be beta as fuck.
tl;dr: Read Corey Wayne's book. You didn't majorly fuck up, but your game is not tight at all. Her interest level was half and half, and your sloppy game pushed it over the other side of the fence, the side you didn't want. You will likely never hear from her again. Sorry man.
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Corny title, corny cover, god-tier advice
https://www.amazon.com/Winning-Heart-Woman-Your-Dreams/dp/1411673360
You'll be glad you read it. Corey also has a really interesting life story. One of the few self-help guys in this genre who doesn't write shlock. Also a successful businessman.
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