Disciplining bad behaviour without calling them out?

SexySmexxy · 2016-09-03T06:59:17+00:00

You :Come over saturday?

Her :Possibly?

You :Yes or No so I know if I should make other plans?

Her : Yes = great job

Her : No = YOU DO NOT RESPOND, YOU IGNORE AND WAIT FOR HER TO NEXT TEXT YOU

Her : Maybe = IGNORE, UNLESS YOU'D LIKE TO BE STUCK IN A TIME LOOP

Unless she says she's coming over, make other plans. Your weekend does not revolve around anyone but yourself.

shitwiththatass · 2016-09-03T05:57:00+00:00

You're not being needy, quit toxic shaming yourself bro. Let her know in a courteous maner that you don't like it. If she fixes it, great. If not, consider your options.

McCoop_ · 2016-09-03T06:00:19+00:00

It's difficult to groom a plate if they don't really want to be with you. Usually you use dread game and withhold attention and affection but that only works if they care about your attention and affection. The point is you can't discipline a plate who doesn't respect you or seeks your approval. Improve your SMV and be a leader who doesn't have time to prod or discuss the details over and over till they warm up to the plan. You set a time and a place if she can't make it and doesn't counter offer you use that time on something better. She blew the opportunity and you have bigger fish to fry.

She knows she can jerk you around and settle for you if nothing better works out.

cynzia · 2016-09-03T12:19:21+00:00

She is a "plate" and thus doesn't owe you a fucking thing, including courtesy. LOL, you are her "plate" just as much as she is yours. You are the back up plan.

If you don't like it, then you move on.

PlansAndPlates · 2016-09-03T13:02:03+00:00

1. Don't 'prod' with a 2nd/nth text after the first. She ignored you, and you need to be willing to accept that. If you prod, you're saying "I give a fuck about you (not replying/as a person/whatever)" and that is not good, why do you give a fuck about a plate? Worse still, why do you give a fuck about a plate who ignores you?

So don't ever do that ever again. It's a good lesson to learn before you do something stupid like I've done before. Never send more than 1 text. If they "totally fell asleep" or "just forgot to reply" or "Were busy lol!" or any other excuse, just remember she would reply to Brad Pitt instantly and she doesn't value you that much.

That's not a big issue, she's a plate, but you still need to remember that she doesn't value you very much, so this is a very soft plate hanging by a thread. Don't become attached, it was or is your turn.

1. How do you punish her? You ignore her, as above.

She lives off and requires attention. Without attention she feels like she's going to fall off the end of the earth.

You ghost her, you don't reply to her, if you've built up a relationship where you contact her first - you stop contacting her first, you stop contacting her at all. When/if she comes back, she's going to be a pissy little idiot, she's going to ask you what's wrong with you, why'd you change, whatever.

You don't know what she's talking about, you make fun of her, you tell her what you want from her ("come over <now/tomorrow> bring <drinks/food/lube>")

So in summary you need to be willing to ignore her. Shes already demonstrated she doesn't really value you so don't get too cut up if you discover ignoring her doesn't cause her to run back into your arms, she might already be done with you.

Take it like a champ and keep spinning plates, or not, do you breh.

Title	Disciplining bad behaviour without calling them out?
Author	RP-Rocket
Upvotes	8
Comments	18
Date	September 3, 2016 4:47 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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