Distance after date?

CutLiver · 2018-02-01T07:53:11+00:00

Driving on the way back to drop her off I told her “so here’s what’s going to happen: You’re either going to get all embarrassed and start flaking; or we’re going to hangout this weekend.” She responded with “Saturday sounds good”

When you brought up flaking, you communicated that other girls flake on you (you're not a catch). You also showed neediness... basically saying "you're not going to flake on me are you?". And you showed even more neediness by setting up the next date while you were on the first date. Beyond that, you're showing clinginess by bringing up the snapchat thing and posting this on here. You just went on a date with her today, and you're asking us if you fucked up because she didn't watch your snap? Chill out man. You're going full-on stalker already. Take a deep breath and go do something else for a while. For all you know she had a great time but she just didn't watch your snap for whatever reason. She even said she wanted to see you Saturday.

In the future, never ask a girl out on a date while you're on a date with her. That shows over-eagerness and clinginess. If she asks when she's going to see you next or anything like that then you can set up a date, but you should never bring it up. You should be texting/snapping/whatever only for logistics. Wait an entire day at least after each date. If she doesn't reach out to you then text her the next day saying you had a great time and "we should get together". If she says she wants to then ask "when are you free?" and set up the date on a day that you're not busy.

beefthathasredmiddle · 2018-02-01T08:07:13+00:00

First of all, try not to worry about it. The outcome won't change.

Secondly, there isn't any fucking up. There is no special script that would have changed anything. Frame is what's important.

Wait till Saturday, then see if she wants to hangout. If she doesn't hangout with you, that's on her, because she said she would hangout with you.

PrepositionalChi · 2018-02-01T15:03:25+00:00

Sounds like you pressured her to say Saturday by the way you framed your question. You put her into an awkward spot.

Title	Distance after date?
Author	microgum
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	February 1, 2018 7:33 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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