Do you feel embarrassment?

TheLoneProspector · 2018-03-20T00:22:58+00:00

You’d be an idiot to not feel a little embarrassed after making a mistake you normally wouldn’t make. But you need to be able to laugh/shrug off and understand which mistakes are not worth any mind. I guess what I mean is, part of being a man is accepting you are not perfect and correcting yourself so the next time you don’t make the same mistake.

APtema · 2018-03-20T10:52:08+00:00

For example, I went to shake a guy's hand, and I guess my hands were dry because my hand slipped and I botched the handshake.

For stuff like this, no. Usually just make a comment/joke about it, laugh it off and move on.

also;

I guess my hands were dry because my hand slipped

Bullshit lol you just fucked it up. No other explanation necessary, you simply sperged out and messed up the handshake.

If you fuck something up, its always better to own it instead of coming up with some reason for why that happened. Even if there is a funny a reason for it happening, you don't need to actually say it. Just own it.

FieldLine · 2018-03-20T10:58:25+00:00

Of course. I just don't let it bother me, at least to the extent that other people can detect anything wrong.

It is no exaggeration when we say that holding frame is key to every interaction, with both men and women.

Unlucky_Leader · 2018-03-20T12:56:53+00:00

Feelings aren't bad. How you handle your feelings is bad.

alchamest · 2018-03-20T02:46:52+00:00

there is nothing wrong with feeling embarrassed. shit happens all the time which gives embarrassment.

Don't get stuck in your head afterwards going over it, that shit will drive you insane, and more prone to feeling more embarrassment.

Make a joke about it, move on, dont allow yourself to dwell on it, laugh at how imperfect and flawed you are. FYI we all are flawed and imperfect, we all stuff up things from time to time.

The longer you live the more chances you will get to stuff up. Dont take it too seriously.

If you cannot help it. mentally talk to yourself, ask how much you will care or feel embarrased in 1hr then ask again how with extending the timeframes, 1day/ 1week/ 1month/ 10 years/ 100 years/ 300 years. . . by the time im looking at 300 years not much worth sweating over,

mrHappyPotatoe · 2018-03-20T14:22:55+00:00

I used to get embaressed over such things but now I just chuckle on socially akward things.

Tho nowadays I get only emberessed when I act beta. When I let my frame loose and when emotions running amok. Times when I let this inner bitch out. When I trash someone behind their back.

You really shouldnt feel embaressed if handshake didnt came out as u planned.

oldslut · 2018-03-20T00:21:41+00:00

don't sweat the little shit. forget it. and, as far as the big shit, it happens to all of us at one time or another. the main thing is how you deal with it. sure, we all have had stupid shit happen to us, or were even the cause of, but roll with it. play it off like it was nothing and learn to laugh at yourself (with everyone else if need be).

midnight_metro · 2018-03-20T01:54:07+00:00

Absolutely not. Our modern society isn't exactly in line with our prehistoric instincts, so a lot of our fears and inhibitions are irrelevant. One of the biggest things I did to get rid of my social fear was to do absolutely ridiculous shut in public. No consequences, in fact people that witnessed it probably wouldn't even remember me. People are to egotistical, and don't think too much on their surroundings. To this day, I still sometimes break out into song when I'm in a store and hear Billy Jean playing. Who cares about what other people think, life's too short and civilization doesn't look like it'll last much longer anyways. "Let us over eat and drink, for tomorrow we die"

58021 · 2018-03-20T08:43:18+00:00

I was really fucking awkward in college, so I cut my teeth during that phase. Now, I rarely get embarrassed unless I say something really stupid, which I don't do much anymore. Practice, practice, practice.

Title	Do you feel embarrassment?
Author	lIIlllIIlIIllIlllIIl
Upvotes	16
Comments	13
Date	March 20, 2018 12:16 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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