I have been seeing this woman for about 9 months. For the first 8 months she was just a plate along with two other women and randoms that would come and go in typical fashion. Over the course of us dating or what have you I decided I wanted to be exclusive. My reasoning was not out of fear of loss or a need for companionship but mainly because I became very disinterested in the other women I was seeing. Anyhow. I am 32 and she is 25. For whatever reason I am somewhat paranoid that she is with me due to the fact that I am established and she is out of the party years. When we go out we always split the bills. She never asks me for anything other than time and we have a great no pressure sex life. She doesn't shit test me very often at all and usually when she does it something along the lines of " I don't like when you do X" and my typical reply is " you can always break up with me" and I smirk at her. That is usually followed up with her giving me affection. After TRP I want a woman who is with me out of general desire without other motives. This has become extremely important to me. Are there some tell tell signs that a woman I am in a relationship with is trying to pigeon hole me into a provider? Or anything I should look out for? Edit: Also have not been in an exclusive relationship for 5-6 years only plate spinning and occasionally going MIA when I get burnt out.