Does TRP pander mostly to men with failed relationships in their past?

Meglomaniac · 2014-04-22T03:08:41+00:00

TRP is about breaking people out of the "brainwashing" of their expectations of how a relationship is told to them from birth by society and other women.

The people who come to this site pretty much universally are people who are frustrated as hell at their relationships for not going the way that they have been told works. They put women on a pedestal and expect that if they throw enough niceness and compliments, and bend over backwards that they will be responded with love.

The fact is, that this doesn't work and it just makes you a doormat for a woman to walk all over you. TRP doesnt require that people be frustrated by relationships, but by default the people who take the time to learn TRP are.

TRP seems to be mostly about the mathematical approach to relationships. IE: If I provide money/housing/a stable relationship, I should be rewarded with sex. I've seen a few threads of guys saying essentially "If I take out the garbage, that's a hand job. If we go to see a play she likes, that anal.".

This is taking a wrong approach to one of the fundamental core understandings of TRP. The fact is that relationships throughout history are based upon a simple exchange. A man provides his resources and protection, and a woman provides her sexuality and takes care of the children. The world has DRASTICALLY and FUNDAMENTALLY changed in the past 200 years, but that is not nearly enough time for evolution to eliminate the instinctual mating drives in everyone. That being said, what women are attracted too has not changed. Strong, Dominant, and sexual men who lead.

In my own personal experience, what works for one woman/girl will not work for the next, so I have to wonder if the true TRP'ers are looking for a more substantial or persuasive way to court/woo/fuck girls then what they have used and failed with in the past.

This is not true, The fact is that the majority of women respond to the same traits subconciously. Sure, there are some women who dont but those our the outliers. You cannot base a sexual/relationship strategy towards those outliers, its a losing strategy when the majority of women do not find them attractive.

TL;DR You either couldn't get and/or keep a woman, and now your logical brain is trying to find a sure fire way of getting pussy. Honestly tell me if I am wrong, or way off base.

The fact is this is EXACTLY the approach that needs to be taken. Why is analysing the world and trying to find a logical explanation for why women behave in relationships a bad thing? It isnt "a sure fire way of getting pussy" but more to figure out a way to have a strong and long lasting relationship with a woman of my choice. If I dont understand the basic mechanics behind a relationship, it is very difficult for me to maintain a relationship that I enjoy.

Edit: Honestly.. this post sounds like its coming from someone who saw a lot of the hate on TRP and gave it a quick glance and saw some stuff they didnt like on comments. You should take some time to read the sidebar and a lot of the stuff there and give TRP a GOOD IN DEPTH reading. IMHO the biggest problem with people who criticise TRP is those who dont take the time to give it a good reading. I am here if you have any questions, even in PM.

p3ndulum · 2014-04-22T04:43:41+00:00

The Yin is passive. Like a flower, it just has to look pretty to attract a bee. The Yang is active. Like a bee, it has to learn how to fly before it can pollinate a flower.

Yin isn't Yang. Yin can not teach Yang how to Yang.

"The Blue Pill" is Yin telling Yang how to Yang, and Yang is buying into it. Yang struggles to be Yang when it takes the advice Yin has to offer Yang on how to Yang.

"The Red Pill" is Yang teaching Yang how to Yang.

Yin will struggle to understand Yang from Yang's perspective, because Yin is not Yang.

TBP corrupts and pollutes Yang, TRP seeks to purify Yang.

When Yang begins to understand that it's been corrupted by Yin, it gets frustrated/angry and then projects its anger/frustration onto Yin.

Luckily, eventually Yang begins to realize that Yin was just being Yin and all is forgiven (once Yang realigns with Yang).

TRP is still in its infancy from a mainstream perspective, so there is lots and lots of Yang who are just beginning to "wake up", so there will be a flood of anger and frustration in the beginning until all of the corruption/pollution is cleaned up.

At the end of the day, whether TBP will accept it or not, Yin needs Yang to be Yang and Yang needs Yin to be Yin, and TRP is working to do its part to keep definitive contrast between the two.

Edit for visual: TRP wants this. TBP wants this, but the universe won't allow this.

raceAround126 · 2014-04-22T08:29:26+00:00

I fall into this category, but who cares?

I was in a relationship that failed many years ago, it just took me too long to kick it off.

After finding dead bedrooms, sorting out the psychological shit, I was ready to end. TRP was just the icing on the cake, confirming a lot of what I'd already worked out the long and hard way, but also enabled me to sort my shit out.

So if TRP has pandered to someone like me, I'm good with that!

RPSavant · 2014-04-22T13:08:05+00:00

Perhaps your choice of words made others think you were trolling? "Pander" generally has a negative connotation. Maybe "cater to" is more neutral?

Also, people who have perfect relationships are probably not going to be on the internet searching for information on failed relationships, assuming that is what the RP is about.

but the Troll meter IS registering a positive reading so I will leave it at that.

aaron_the_just · 2014-04-23T05:49:37+00:00

For me TRP mostly validated what I knew about women all along, and made me feel a lot less guilty for my behaviour. E.g., instinct always told me to tease a girl if I liked her rather than worship. Instinct told me when a woman is bitching, ignore her and go do something else because I listening to a woman complain is annoying.

Blue-pill society told me teasing a girl if you're attracted to her is immature/mean; and that if a woman is complaining, I'm supposed to sit down and listen and care about her needs. I tried that stuff and it was obvious it didn't work. I just felt guilty because at the time I was trying to be a feminist and do what was "right".

I have had no issues getting/keeping a woman. Every relationship I've had except one was ended by me. (Full disclosure: I am divorced. I am not angry/bitter about it.)

megatron37 · 2014-04-22T20:31:22+00:00

I tried treating the women I was with like princesses, as society says I should. The rewards were less than impressive.

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