Hey guys first post. Writing because I can be extreme with decisions and well...I could use some advice here. I've been with my LTR for about 3yrs now. We've been sexing off/on before then for about just as long. I lived with her for the last 2 years and recently moved to my own place this past summer. Our relationship is actually pretty good and we haven't had any issues since I've moved out. about 4month ago. Anyway before I moved out there was a situation with a "friend" of hers, I think they go back to high school and she gets weed from him also. She used to have this guy come over when I wasn't there to smoke weed. I found this out via her text messages and asked her about him. She admitted to me he comes over to smoke and thats it. She works part time and is home alone early in the day. I have not evidence or instinct that they are doing anything sexual. I told her he can't be over anymore and she apologized and said ok. Just recently I went over and found something that doesn't belong to her and she admitted she had the guy come over to do his hair for some money. So I confronted her with this and she said she was wrong and she didn't tell me because she knew she was wrong. After telling her how she violated my trust she went on about how she asks me for money and I tell her to wait until I get paid...etc so she did it for some cash. She goes to tell me that she didn't want to ask because she knows I'm spending too much $$$ trying to get a business off the ground. In my heart that's complete bullshit. The fact is I have been hard to get to because I am running a second business and so I haven't been over her place but only fri/sat/sun. My gut tells me that her and this guy are not having sex. As far as I know she's never cheated on any of her past boyfriends. I do believe that they just chill and smoke. She was on her period and we constantly have sex otherwise. Regardless she broke one of my rules and violated my trust. I'm not sure what steps to take without being too extreme. She needs a good shaking up.