dread game working more than it should...

Archwinger · 2016-07-04T13:09:04+00:00

Do exactly what you are doing now. Don't let her bullshit keep you from improving and attracting other prospects.

Continue to make it clear that as long as she measures up, she's in. But guide her. That's your job as the man. Don't just tell her, vaguely, to be awesome. Escalate constantly, have lots of sex, make it clear by your actions (not words) that this is an expected requirement of the relationship.

And when she submits to you, sexually and socially, ceding all of the power in the relationship to you, reward her with comfort. Make it clear to her that, of course, you could have others, but at least right now, you've chosen her.

But continue fucking her really good. Constantly. If you're acting like the man but not laying the pipe like the man, she'll shit test you over and over.

Kwantuum · 2016-07-04T13:30:57+00:00

And no i am not gonna break up.

I'm not saying you should but a woman starts having power on you the moment you need her. And it becomes a real problem once you need her more than she needs you, which luckily doesn't seem to be the case at the moment. If she complies and doesn't flirt around or question your authority, it's fine to comfort her and let her know that at the moment there is no reason for you to look for another girl.

creepyguy13 · 2016-07-04T13:46:42+00:00

I like what the first commenter said about comfort. Your girl may not be shit testing you. She's genuinely afraid to lose you. I've had several girls like that including the last girl I dated. She would say, "you don't even like me." Sometimes I let TRP get to my head and forget that once you're an alpha in her eyes you have to find the healthy balance of alpha and beta. So yeah keep improving yourself but provide that comfort as well.

[deleted] · 2016-07-04T15:11:07+00:00

It's a strong, textbook comfort test. You should respond to this by giving her comfort (ie: beta) when she does the things she should be doing. This rewards good behavior, gives her incentives to keep on the right path and keeps her from getting so uncomfortable that she blows the thing up.

The only real thing to watch for here is that you don't drop what you're doing to keep your attraction (alpha) up, and you don't come across as needy with how you give her comfort.

TheRedStoic · 2016-07-04T16:17:37+00:00

"No, but a more secure one is sounding pretty good."

Or just give her a hug, a slap on the arse, and tell her you're busy but she's good you'll do something x day together.

She just wants comfort/attention, or she's intentionally making a mountain from a molehill, you have more detail so decide which is a better course of action. (Since you've immediately cut out the best option. Find a less stressful girl)

RPmatrix · 2016-07-04T18:38:19+00:00

so what's the question?

Title	dread game working more than it should...
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Comments	12
Date	July 4, 2016 1:01 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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