Hi,

For preface, I’ve really been striving the last 4 months in lifting and finally have made successful gains in my chest, arms, and legs to where I fill my shirts in nicely and have better posture overall. However, since I’m in a professional setting and have gained much more responsibility than people my age typically undertake I can come across as extremely business focused. I’ve been described by coworkers as being intense and intimidating both professionally and personally.

Nonetheless, I’ve been more socially active recently by pushing myself to approach while doing errands when given indicators of interest with the eyes and body language from women. From just asking for BS opinions on products, to introducing myself and chatting for a few minutes to gain comfort. So far I’ve been able to always number close and get a real number. However, my success to confirm and get to a first date is only 10%. Likewise, most of the women I’ve been pulling have been aged 45+ which I don’t mind, but I’ve yet to pull someone near my age in the mid 20s. Again, keeping in my mind that I cannot negotiate attraction toward me. I can only improve my value.

My question is two fold:

  1. What strategy or tactics have you seen success with in the younger age bracket of sub 30s all things considered equal.
  2. How can I better improve the first impression to parlay it into a first date?

My theory is that the younger women see my drive and focus as a turnoff which is a flag for not being outcome independent. I should pull back on steering the conversation to a number close and be more carefree.