Ex-girlfriend keeps contacting me, doing "nice" things after we broke up

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-04-04T00:27:19+00:00

She wants closure as well as validation

Continue to ignore, go full ghost

nastynickdr · 2017-04-04T01:58:45+00:00

"I thought maybe we could become FWB because of how forward she was about keeping in contact...but she seems against any attempt to escalate beyond making out. Will tell me no flat out."

She wants to keep you as an orbiter, for validation, for her emotional tampon. Yeah maybe she feels guilty, but who cares? Maybe to complain how her current BF fucked her ass so hard that she cant even sit today.

Ghost.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-04-04T02:49:56+00:00

"Obviously the best bet would've been to just ignore her but there are complicated reasons why I have to be "kind" to this girl (mutual friends, etc.)"

Who the fuck cares about these people and their opinion of you? The real and worthy ones will stick around if shit hits the fan, and that's exactly who u want around u. I'll even bet that these people aren't even your actual friends, but close acquaintances that you've hung out with In the past. None of these people matter. What's important is your well being and your peace of mind. I don't know where you work or what u do but you need to let your supervisor know that your ex can't be allowed on the premises anymore because she's stalking you. Delete her off all social media, delete her close close friends (she can use their accounts to snoop on you), delete her # of your phone. Don't block her though. You need to understand that this neither you or this girl have any respect for your own dann self. A lying bitch that hops on her exs dick as soon as she becomes single shouldn't have been able to put her tongue back in your mouth. Remember that she lied to you, and swallowed his cum post breakup. The very thought of her touching you should give u leprosy. The fact that u entertained her fuckery and even kissed her means that u have no self respect right now. Don't worry though, some of us have been there. Move on with your life.

RPBulletDodger · 2017-04-04T03:03:12+00:00

Obviously the best bet would've been to just ignore her...

Yes.

but there are complicated reasons why I have to be "kind" to this girl (mutual friends, etc.)

I see some hamstering sprinkled with some sort of sunk cost fallacy.

"Complicated reasons" means that you're letting external forces intervene in your thoughts and thus, influence your behavior.

No way to live bro.

saladon · 2017-04-04T09:17:40+00:00

She dumped you because the thought of having sex with you again or even keeping you around as a beta bucks disgusted her.

It should be even clearer seeing how she's keeping you at bay whenever you desperately try to fuck her again.

Title	Ex-girlfriend keeps contacting me, doing "nice" things after we broke up
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Date	April 4, 2017 12:25 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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