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The book is obviously satire, but IMO it's meant to illustrate simply why mixing politics with HR policies is dangerous. You are effectively giving two supposedly equal people imbalanced tools at their disposal to handle what would otherwise be average office politics. Which is a point I bring up a lot to those when trying to explain that feminism is not inherently bad but that it's extremely easy to abuse in situations that have nothing to do with feminism.
/r/MensRights03/12/19 07:21 PM
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No woman is worth your freedom. Glad you are free of the "fog" of her influence.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/19 09:10 PM
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I think a "genuine connection" is the part we call irrational. What does a "genuine connection" even mean? To the average man it's just nonsense. "We get along. Great." To her, it's meaningful that things "clicked" like some Hollywood movie. Think tarot cards, star signs, etc. Sure, she'll make more exceptions for a high SMV guy but she'll still be looking for "the sign" that he's "the one" You can't manufacture that her favorite book is yours too, that you both listened to a particular album on…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/19 03:56 PM
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They always either get physical, or want you to get physical with them. Especially near the end. It's like the ultimate emotional high for them: violence. That's why if you ever hear about an abusive, fucked up a relationship you should ask yourself first how much you know about the girl. She could be Cluster B, and conveniently forget to mention all the torment she put the guy through mentally, the cheating, the lying, and usually the shoving/slapping and other crazy shit that follows soon afte…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/19 03:31 PM
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Branch swinging is when an LTR or plate moves on to a guy they view as higher SMV. To do this they are always auditioning dudes to some degree. Higher value women will let you know you're about to fuck up and lose them, lower value girl just cheat (and the whole spectrum inbetween). Cluster B girls just lie/cheat without a second thought, and not even with a higher SMV guy. Cluster B girls don't care whether the new guy is better smv, just if he will put up with her IE what they call "supply." S…
/r/TheRedPill07/06/19 03:30 PM
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Yeah, some will actually admit they have major issues...they will say they can get therapy/work on it...but at the end of the day, they are fucked. It's like being a psychopath, if they could help it they would have a long time ago.
/r/TheRedPill07/06/19 03:26 PM
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All Cluster B's are unique but they have some similarities: Lying. They lie all the time, even about stuff that doesn't fucking matter. Head over heels for you like...instantly. I'm talking days after meeting you, they're already saying the L-word. Within weeks they will talk about major commitments like marriage or kids. Instability in their view of you or the relationship. You'll have a great date and they're ready to get married. You have a minor argument and they're ready to never speak to y…
/r/TheRedPill06/06/19 09:01 PM
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What women want is not random and SMV is definitely more than just valuable habits, but they are a big part of the equation. Women want: High SMV. Some of this can be worked on, some cannot. For example, you can't change your bone structure, height, hair pattern. You can, however, lift weights, get a better job, develop a social network, start a company, create an annual event, be in a band, etc. Some degree of "Dark Triad" personality traits. The crazier (lower value) the girl, the more she nee…
/r/askTRP06/06/19 06:33 PM
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yikes...
/r/askTRP06/06/19 04:34 PM
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Aw, did that upset her?
/r/askTRP06/06/19 03:48 PM
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some dudes believe that if you achieve a certain look you get a harem full of girls Believe it or not, there are plenty of incel and nice guy losers that lift. The entitled manchild mentality has nothing to do with your physique and I'm glad you figured that shit out.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 03:45 PM
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You were intimidating, and instead of you approaching you just hoped women would approach you. First off, one of the main sidebar points is that women who aggressively pursue you are already lower value and showing a red flag. They are like the puppy in a litter that just want to fight and attack everything. They are showing masculine traits immediately and by LTR-ing one you are taking an unnecessary risk. If you are only getting with girls who approach/show interest first, I would guess that y…
/r/askTRP06/06/19 03:20 PM
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Losers: Probably charismatic, manipulative, and willing to hurt people to get what they want Student Artists: Creative, charismatic, mysterious Alcoholics: See "Losers" above, with an added benefit of "damaged" so women can try to "fix" him which provides the excitement and emotional drama they crave
/r/askTRP06/06/19 03:10 PM
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Everything you just said is wrong.
/r/askTRP06/06/19 03:07 PM
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You're not competing with orbiters, they're competing for you. You're the prize. If they don't see your value, go work on your value. this isn't PUA. TRP Is not about conning hot girls into thinking you're high value, it's about working on your value and letting shit simply play out as nature intended.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 06:38 PM
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I feel like you came to us when it was far, far too late. Not only is this woman probably red-flag city, but you've LTR-d her and y'all cohabitate? Why dont you come to us next time when you're still evaluating these chicks instead of when you're getting mayo jars thrown around. In the meantime, dump this girl and move in with either your parents or someone else. Stop thinking how you can run TRP game on a nutjob. The whole point of TRP dating theory is that you're identifying women on which TRP…
/r/askTRP05/06/19 06:35 PM
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It sounds like you have some PTSD-like symptoms from being cheated on. A lot of guys end up here in a similar situation: reeling from the intense pain of infidelity, looking to feel empowered again. Let me be extremely clear: if you have some kind of psychological scarring or insecurity from being cheated on, it's not going to get fixed by acting like a paranoid psycho. Nor will your relationship benefit from it. So what do you do? First off, learning to trust again is a slow process. Letting a …
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:49 PM
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Bro, have you considered that you're probably just bi?
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:37 PM
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I just fed her “I’m starting to feel not opposed to a emotional connection” because I know she wants to hear that to help keep the plate spinning. Dangle carrot if you will. I just feel I really fucked up disclosing my last oneitis. I dunno man, your story keeps switching up as its convenient. To me it sounds like you were in full post-sex bitch mode, admitting feelings and taking a slant route to feeling her out for an LTR But what do I know? I'm having to read between the lines of your BS. Do …
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:34 PM
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planting those sissy thoughts Like what? You just roll your eyes at all thoe horseshit and move on with your day. What "sissy thoughts" are you struggling with?
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:28 PM
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I think you just want to RP some edgelord sociopath on the internet. How do you not see the irony of asking for a diagnosis using terminology from the DMV IV while also claiming mental health professionals are a "scam" lol this sub is so fucking retarded sometimes
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:28 PM
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Oh, but this sub is the perfect place for a diagnosis? Are you 12?
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:11 PM
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Why are you asking here? Speak to a mental health professional.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:06 PM
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You aren't just over-investing in one plate...you have feelings for this girl. You keep calling this girl a plate, but that's utter denial of what she is. You caught feelings, she's not a plate anymore. You were clearly vague about your past relationship which just shows how much you are guarding this relationship. You were hoping someone here would be able to read through your own mental gymnastics, so hey...here I am. Obviously I was joking about dating her... All she can do at this point is t…
/r/askTRP04/06/19 06:04 PM
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The fact that you have to ask is the key to what you're missing: you've caught feelings for a plate, and are overly invested in spinning the plate. We have a term for that on this board, it's called oneitus. You thought it was gone, but it wasn't. It was just dormant, waiting for her to give you the slightest glimmer of bullshit feelings for you. She, feeling you pull away, tested you and you took the bait hook line and sinker. Now she knows she still has you. She may fuck you, who knows, but th…
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:51 PM
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Well listen, you know what you did wrong. You caught feelings and got pulled into her fuck fuck mind games.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 05:45 PM
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I like to explain it like this: even if she lives next door, it should feel like a long distance relationship for the first few months. See her a couple of times a week, stay busy at work, with friends, or other activities. Ignore her sometimes. Stop talking for a couple of days and then pick up like nothing happened...if she asks just say you got very busy at work. When you talk and hang out, have fun...but also make sure you're getting to know her. See how she reacts to different situations. S…
/r/askTRP04/06/19 03:48 PM
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train ufc
/r/askTRP04/06/19 03:21 PM
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I'm assuming you don't mean nudes? Regular selfies I ignore completely. Still, you met a girl from another city and you plan on meeting up? Either move quickly or use this opportunity to work on your texting game. You can't just ignore a girl for 3 months then try to show up in town and bang her. Bang her once, then you can start longer periods of ignoring her because you'll have that one experience to reference and keep things exciting.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 03:20 PM
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Well by that logic there is no replacement for a 500lb benchpress either...in which case your previous response makes no sense.
/r/askTRP04/06/19 03:09 PM
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Lying, no matter how small Tons of guy friends (she's definitely slept with all of them) Not enough solid friendships Obsessed with work/her career Dated or slept with friends (unless it is ancient history) Consistently argumentative/guarded/uncooperative Bad relationship with her family, father, or both Alternatively: no boundaries with her family Financially irresponsible Not smart enough/no chemistry Can't take teasing/too sensitive (usually these girls have daddy-issues) Not in touch with he…
/r/askTRP03/06/19 07:34 PM
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Yeah, of course, keep it short and walk away after a brief chat. Instead of "I'm running late" just say "hey it was great seeing you, ill catch you later" and walk away to talk with others, get a drink, etc.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 07:03 PM
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Cougars run TRP game on young men. She's basically negging him, establishing sexual dominance, and revealing herself up as "spinning plates" to you in case you might be interested. Note that beta but good-looking guys are often gamed by older women and are at risk of wasting their time/energy on endless cougars because it feels like they're getting somewhere, getting sexual needs met, etc. Be wary around cougars. They are usually liar, post-wall, CC riders who are finally bored with BB husband. …
/r/askTRP03/06/19 06:57 PM
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You just say "hey, it's been a while! You staying out of trouble?" Let he respond, and then immediately transition to "awesome, listen I'm running late to a meeting but I'll catch up with you soon hopefully!" Then never text her again. If she engages via text there might be a chance. If she doesn't you looked too busy for her and totally non-pushy.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 06:53 PM
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It still makes no fucking sense.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 06:51 PM
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If you're crushing it, you're a target.
/r/TheRedPill03/06/19 06:00 PM
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Uhm yeah, I dated a girl for 7 years. She started neglecting the relationship. I ended up cheating on her with some slut on a business trip and then breaking up with her the next week after getting a new apt. lined up. I definitely got her absolute best years. It's a shame for her, but in the end, it was her neglect that pushed me away. She still calls me on my birthday.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 05:32 PM
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Successful, good looking, and good frame control. Charisma is preferable, but I know plenty of strange awkward guys with high-value women. Women aren't dumb, and they know charisma only gets them so far. The real issue is creating tension and chemistry with a woman which has nothing to do with his charisma and everything to do with how he perceives her actions and whether he reacts "correctly"
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:38 PM
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Disagree completely with high IQ. Plenty of low IQ dudes are natural-born manipulators to the point where they don't even realize what they're doing.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:35 PM
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Of course I went inside corralled my friends and we fucked off and bounced on the cheque but I just don't understand this guys deal I was with you until this dude...what the fuck does the check have to do with the bouncer? Once you're inside, you talk to the manager about the bouncer. You don't fuck up the servers night.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:26 PM
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It sounds like you handled this break-up in a way that is now damaging your status and has the potential to fuck up your social life. Instead of making excuses about why you've fucked this up so bad, why don't you ask a good question: How do I break up with my LTR of 7 years and maintain my social network and status? Now that I can answer easily: pretend you are a business with a reputation to manage, instead of a man-child with commitment issues.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:20 PM
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Agreed, but it's an issue easily solved with kettlebells.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:10 PM
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If a girl cheats on you, it probably is your fault. You've either chosen a shitty LTR, or you've turned into a man-child mid-relationship and she's recoiling in horror. Still, the idea that you should apologize is hilarious. They're living in a man's world. If they cheat, they are whores, whereas a man is a player. Never forget that this is man's world, even if it sometimes feels like the feminists are making progress.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 04:09 PM
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Do I have to be with multiple women at once to keep my head on straight? Not if you've committed to a relationship, which is probably why you shouldn't commit until you've processed this: There was so much chemistry between us and it felt like I was losing my mind. When we met, everything was so real. Until this goes away, play the field. You need to see her for how she really is, and the only way to do that is spin plates and spend time with her commitment free. The moment you could let a girl …
/r/askTRP03/06/19 03:55 PM
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Exactly. The pathetic person is the one who sits around pouting, judging, and accusing others of being "pathetic" while the whole amazing variety of life passes them buy.
/r/askTRP03/06/19 03:44 PM
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My crude understanding of the science behind this feeling is that your body is flooded with oxytocin, estrogen, and endorphins. It's basically a feel-good cocktail. The feeling that is generated is the primary reason we pursue not just sex, but also deeper relationships that provide reliable access to sex (and the type of good sex closeness can bring). Is it interfering with your life?
/r/askTRP03/06/19 03:41 PM
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I've noticed something about my life as I've gotten older: the way I look at failed dates is with a sort of amused apathy. Sure I try to learn, but I've also accepted that to some degree I'd rather have a genuine rapport build with someone rather than trying so hard to seduce. The fact is, the right woman is EASY for me to seduce and I shouldn't be doing anything that isn't easy when it comes to dating and women. The hard part is building a cool life people want to be a part of, not some PUA non…
/r/askTRP03/06/19 03:32 PM
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If you can only pick one, probably boxing. If you can pick two, BJJ + boxing. Boxing first because honestly, most fights end very quickly from a couple of punches and against multiple attackers you'll want to be moving, punching, and keeping your guard up. BJJ because if you survive the first few punches, it will turn into a grappling match.
/r/askTRP30/05/19 01:18 AM
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I think there's just a mental hurdle with women where if they let you fuck them without a condom, it has psychological meaning to them. I think the reckless abandon of raw-dogging it with you can be intoxicating and arousing to them. That added arousal will definitely help with the so called "pair bond" That being said your post is all about absorbing cum which IMO is completely the opposite point of raw-dogging. You shouldn't cum in a girl even if she says she's on the pill.
/r/askTRP29/05/19 08:39 PM
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I do, believe me.
/r/askTRP28/05/19 03:38 PM
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Cardio. A lot of it.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:51 AM
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This sub has become 90% MGTOW bullshit and the rest are just dudes with a massive chip on their shoulder from not getting laid enough still in the anger phase.
/r/askTRP23/05/19 01:49 AM
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Learn to process emotions instead of letting them overpower you. As the emotions fly by, try to grab hold of specific ones and the thoughts they're associated with. Use logic/reason to begin to tease each one apart until you fully understand your emotional response. Compare/contrast that to what you would like to happen from a situation...work backwards. Your emotions are useful, and you shouldn't ignore them. They are instinctual repsonses that alternatively tell you a lot about yourself, but a…
/r/askTRP22/05/19 05:24 PM
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I agree. Put her on an allowance that actually makes sense, but give her the option of taking that or going back to work after we hire a nanny. See how she feels after a month of some bullshit retail job. In some ways this feels like a failed test. Instead of handling his wife with humor and amused mastery, he's playing the cranky old miser complaining to her about money and spending habits. Talk about drying her up instantly. As always, the MGTOW shit in the comments is a distraction. It's not …
/r/TheRedPill20/05/19 10:48 PM
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k dude, do you
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:20 PM
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I do think successful people have to be self-centered, but not assholes. Many of the most successful guys I know never say a shitty thing they're thinking out loud. In fact, they stay pretty quiet most of the time. They might privately, one on one, say something about someone else or be a prick...but rarely out loud. They use it as a tool for leverage and reserve their honesty for people who deserve it. If you go around being a prick to everyone, you are just generally painting a target on your …
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:19 PM
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You need to read the sidebar bud lol Look up pairbonding and why high n-count has nothing to do with insecurity and everything to do with you future fucking happiness as a man. If you're just spinning plates she can be whatever she wants, but don't come on here with your pseudo feminist shit about how men are insecure if they don't want a woman who sleeps around.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:16 PM
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Quit making excuses for the sluts you fuck
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:03 PM
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Nymphomaniac. Fucked up.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:03 PM
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The sad reality for most men is that if a girl is willing to be your plate, she has a high n-count. Especially if you're not a 9/10 dude...that's kind of the whole point of TRP to me: learning how to be very aware of what you're actually in possession of in life and appreciate the true value of it. A high n-count 20-year-old has to be evaluated for what she is: a CC reject, thousand-yard stare, alpha widowed party girl. My take away: evaluate where you are meeting these girls, and make sure at l…
/r/askTRP10/05/19 05:03 PM
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Yeah, no worries. Stay grounded
/r/askTRP10/05/19 04:57 PM
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I agree you can learn a lot about being funny from Patrice, and a lot about being charismatic from Brand as long as you know their limitations. Both are successful as comedians, but you really need to figure out who matches what you want from life in general, not just people you think are great talkers.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 04:52 PM
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I would suggest a role model that's doing exactly what you want to do in life. So unless you're becoming a comedian, I'd avoid them.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 04:51 PM
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I feel like you're making excuses for a dude because you like him. I'm not saying she gets a free pass, I'm just saying AWALT. His reaction to her should be instant dump, while simultaneously being the best possible dad to his kid. But then, my guess is he has side action going on and doesn't have the balls to call a double standard on her.
/r/askTRP10/05/19 04:50 PM
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His wife just publicly admitted to chatting up other guys while pregnant with his child lol
/r/askTRP09/05/19 09:01 PM
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Real conversation skills are far more about give/take, push/pull. I would listen to a guy like Joe Rogan before Patrice or Brand. Think about Brand and Patrice's life. Patrice was abrasive and a classic "failure to launch" case that many notable celebrities have said was self-sabotaging. He was great at pissing people off, but not good at building relationships. Brand is a sort of classic example of a dude who does well with women but not with men. If you want to succeed in business/other areas …
/r/askTRP09/05/19 08:54 PM
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I ask her if she does it to self motivate herself You gave her the answer you wanted to hear, then reassured yourself when she just parroted it back to you.
/r/askTRP09/05/19 08:48 PM
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Given enough time, groups of men often develop bitterness and jealousy. I broke up with my HS girlfriend and within a few weeks, she was dating my best friend. I was already sleeping with someone new, but I do remember feeling more anger towards my guy friend. The way I looked at it, he was choosing a woman over our friendship. That being said, I moved on with my life and so did he. My life hasn't been any less amazing because two people weren't in it. Sadly over time what I've realized is that …
/r/askTRP09/05/19 08:29 PM
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Why are you so angry about some friend of yours banging a girl you dumped? You were done with her. You should tell him what she likes done to her in bed. Listen, I remember the first time a buddy dated a girl I used to date. It sucks, I get it...but you really need to remember that they are not YOURS. It's just your turn. Girls are by their very nature bound to move on, and likely much quicker than you will. That's okay, and you need to stop acting like someone just murdered your dog. You will d…
/r/askTRP09/05/19 08:12 PM
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All money does for men is allow them to live more carefee lives. SOme men need it to stop caring so much...so if you're one of them...make as much as you need to stop comparing yourself to everyone. But a little protip: you shouldn't be a slave to all the things you aren't
/r/askTRP09/05/19 07:52 PM
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People who endlessly take self-help classes are usually either mentally ill, or lazy. The former will never get better, no matter what they try because of there's something wrong with them. The latter get the same feeling from the class as they would for actually doing something proactive, but for 1/10th of the effort (or less).
/r/TheRedPill08/05/19 11:13 PM
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At a pub, order a fish and chips, beer and a pint of water to chug while I wait for my food (i'd been drinking since like 8 am). Some guy at the bar tried taking the piss in an aggressive way, stepped up, and said I was a pussy for drinking water at a pub. I just disarmed him with the conversation and moved on with my night. Still, it was hilarious that some low-class loser wanted to fight and the reason he chose was ordering a glass of water. Something that would literally only happen in Englan…
/r/askTRP08/05/19 11:09 PM
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Brexit, in general, is another major point to consider...even the best situation is another few years of unknowns and political/financial turmoil. I think SE Asia is a great place to be a contractor or consultant but if you really want to build something bigger you should consider the US.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 10:38 PM
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UK is really depressing IMO. It's saddled under decades of policies that make everyone dependent on the government. There's no upward mobility, and the general culture seems to want to keep people down rather than raise them up. I've never been given shit for drinking water until I visited England where someone tried to start a fight over it. I swear to god, if I grew up there i'd try to get out ASAP. It's better than some countries, but still terrible. My two friends from the UK have a rough ti…
/r/askTRP08/05/19 10:21 PM
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It only bothers you because you're still taking everything personally instead of laughing and moving on. Work on your mental-state because obviously, this shit is getting to you. It should be a big joke to you.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 05:37 PM
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Maybe you don't like her anymore and should go spin new plates? Either that or your mental state has changed from work, school, etc.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 05:33 PM
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They were, because you were a harmless loser they didn't want to fuck. The higher you go up the food chain, the more shit-tests you get.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 05:32 PM
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Or maybe you're just on step 1 and others are on step 5? The ideal male life (chad) is like a limit on a graph. Your life is the graphs line, and it has an asymptotal relationship to this ideal, which means that your current existence is simply a point on a line. Every day you do things that either bring you closer to that limit, or further away from it. Therefore, it's more important to focus on the proactive daily routine that gets you closer to that limite. Much more important than than tryin…
/r/askTRP08/05/19 05:27 PM
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Narcissism is the most over-used term on every self-help subreddit, including the non-redpill ones. Narcissism is a pathological disorder, and the people who have it often have very unhappy lives. The underlying logic of referencing narcissism within the red pill framework is because women are attracted to the so-called "dark triad" personality. That being said, you can't just fake the indicators of a dark tried personality and expect it to make your life better. It's unfortunate that so many gu…
/r/askTRP08/05/19 05:16 PM
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I want kids. If I think a woman would raise my kids well, I would consider marriage but only if just having her as my baby momma wasn't an option. Furthermore, I accept that the price of marriage is lose half my shit etc. It's a financial decision that comes down to...if I am rich/successful enough kids are like i get to finally buy the ferrari. There's a reason rich celebs get married late, have kids late. They know what they are worth and having kids is basically like deciding to finally get a…
/r/askTRP08/05/19 03:38 PM
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So she was basically hoing it up at a party, and now basically ignoring you.... 100% move on
/r/askTRP08/05/19 01:30 AM
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Learn to process emotions, and meditate. You aren't suppressing them, you are processing them with the skill of a chef processing a chicken to make stew.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 01:25 AM
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If your reputation is at stake, because you have a close circle of friends Definitely be aware of the fuck-fuck games girls will play in the days, months, and even years after you date. I dumped my long-term HS girlfriend to play the field and was made a social pariah because I just didn't handle the break-up very well at all.
/r/askTRP08/05/19 01:16 AM
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IMO alpha behavior is simple: aggressively test women for their real personality. The only way to get at this is basically by treating them poorly. I hate to say it, but that's kind of how women are wired. The better you treat them, the easier it is for them to keep up the facade. A truly good woman will put up with a bit of disrespect because she knows that in the long run her goals are a stable life, kids, and probably to not work nearly as hard as her man. A truly shit woman thinks that you h…
/r/askTRP03/05/19 05:08 PM
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You haven't gotten nudes in 9 months?
/r/askTRP28/08/17 09:09 PM
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sounds liek u have onitus with ur group of friends - get shit treatment n u keep hangin around? why?
/r/askTRP16/08/17 02:43 PM
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actually, no wow i guess ur just a special snowflake who only dates other special snowflakes. never felt a temptation in your entire life get real and you were married for 7 years, want to tell us why that all fell apart?
/r/askTRP11/08/17 01:25 PM
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ur willfully ignoring everyones point while harping on and on about what "creepy ass" this guy was no one is disagreeing that he wasn't a fuckin loser. What they're tellin u is that your respons eis that somehow TRP is wrong because guys with no game strike out you are desperate to believe its because ur gf is some special snowflake and that men should universally stop cold approaching women jus because 1 guy was a creepy loser and bombed on his approach to ur gf
/r/askTRP08/08/17 06:42 PM
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I'm sorry someone hurt you I just think if u truly believe that a guy with better game would get shot down by your gf then u just arent payin attention. go to /r/relatoinship or /r/relatoinship_advice /r/advice or /r/survivinginfidelity if u want a real mindfuck Page after page of the same old stories. It's not just me, its PEOPLE bruh. Human beings pull this shit. If some unbelievably hot girl starts hitting on you and you two get along real well and all that? you might be tempted to dump ur gf…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 06:35 PM
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if his game was tight, if he was insanely attractive, if they just 'hit it off' then i doubt you would have even heard about this story bro she'd have a new text from some rando guy in her phone, and you'd be none the wiser Does that make sense? There is no such thing as being a "pushy fucking creep" except for jus bein ugly, uncharismatic, or bad with women. A better man than you, if duly motivated, could steal ur girl. ur not so special that she'd turn down the perfect guy for u bruh! So stop …
/r/askTRP08/08/17 01:40 PM
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cant you just say u were drunk too and dont remember shit?
/r/askTRP07/08/17 08:10 PM
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bc ur into them and they can tell u said it urself, they appeal to u and ur wearing it on ur sleeve cuz u think ur safe since theyr ugly nerds without remembering they have 10000000000 orbiters makin them think they are models
/r/askTRP19/07/17 02:15 PM
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kno ur goals, kno wat u want and def. kno the risks literally wat i said get married if u kno wat ur getting into, that simple
/r/askTRP07/07/17 06:58 PM
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u write like a little whiny bitch lol
/r/askTRP07/07/17 03:51 PM
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ur asking the wrong questions my frend wat u shud be askin is y u give a fuck
/r/askTRP07/07/17 01:21 PM
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divorce rates r actually at all time lows 50% of the population finds marriage to work out so yeah i think monogamy is not for everyone kno ur goals, kno wat u want and def. kno the risks
/r/askTRP07/07/17 01:19 PM
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I used to get around 10 matches everyday in Europe within 100 swipes with young good looking women homie found out he's a NYC 4 even tho he was a bulgaria 8 u were a big fish in a small pond Is making 4 times the money working as a software developer in NA worth it y r u askin us to set ur goals for u? I'm breaking down, feeling anxiety, feeling my testosterone is dropping and i'm losing motivation for everything u mean ur depressed because everything in ur life changed and is in turmoil and ur …
/r/askTRP07/07/17 01:17 PM
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lol muhfucka were all u have? no wonder she left dude...get ur shit together
/r/askTRP07/07/17 01:14 PM
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u already know the problem so yeah stop dating unti lyou can look inthe mirror and love your life with no women, no sex in it until u can live without it, ur a slave
/r/askTRP06/07/17 07:40 PM
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special snowflakes becuz not evry single TRP truth about women applies to them, thy are pissed about being 'lumped in' not only that but some people here are hella fuckin bitter and say fucked up shit that we all get blamed for also i kno this girl who found trp and would quote shit from TRP to me and id laugh and say 'hey these guys might be onto something...isnt that wat u did to ur last bf?" drives her insane but obviously amusing to fuck with her a bit bottom line: u know when like the bigge…
/r/askTRP06/07/17 07:38 PM
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lol how broke r u that u couldnt let ur fuckin jacket or some gas money go ur learning the hard way y u ghost women and dont get invested in crazy fucking bitches
/r/askTRP06/07/17 07:34 PM
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yeah sure, there are girls u have friendzoned but are still good friends/cool to be around and have ur back
/r/askTRP06/07/17 07:30 PM
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bruh ur getting push pulled/gamed
/r/askTRP06/07/17 07:27 PM
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Because they do feel used. This is probably going to get a lot of controversy here by the "alpha dogs" of this sub ya cuz its just plain inexperienced if u rly think women sayin they feel used has to be actualy based in reality for her to say it. sum people get actually used but most women just casually drop "abusive' and 'used me' as if they're no big deal to say i remember datin a girl who was super controllin and jealous then when i broke up with her she told people i was absuive and sneaking…
/r/askTRP06/07/17 07:26 PM
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I'm going to get married and have kids and accept the risks associated with making that call can't spend my whole life in fear of what ifs and maybes you know? too many people on trp live in crippling fear and regret
/r/askTRP29/06/17 09:17 PM
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of muscle
/r/askTRP26/06/17 06:54 PM
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lol its physically impossible to add more than like a pound a week I think. Unless you were on steroids of course 20 pounds of muscle in a year would be possible but difficult. you'd have to have a killer diet, 5 day a week dedication, and that assume no injuries.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 02:59 PM
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Own ur insecurities. Talk about them (agree and amplify) pretty soon u find they have very little power over u https://youtu.be/ZGIU0FtXr9o
/r/askTRP22/06/17 11:16 PM
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ask urself - are you being a jealous bitch, or is her pat behavior an indicator of the girl u kno? in other words, how was she in past relationships? loyal, giving, caring? or was she a cheating whore because asking how people were when they were single is a stupid way to predict how they were when u guys are dating nah mean? stop looking at her single party days to see how she gon act when yall are together unless of course shes like 30+ n count and some kind of crazy whore...but this girl soun…
/r/askTRP22/06/17 11:11 PM
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Sounds to me like you're bothering people and they're trying to make a joke out of it rather than directly tell you to stop
/r/askTRP22/06/17 11:04 PM
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Noticed this in europe. Many bald guys rocking the buzzed head and many with very hot girlfriends.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 04:07 PM
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confident men don't give a shit enough to establish pack order with you. Insecure men are testing your place in the pack, and their relative position in it.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 02:36 PM
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Instead of AWALT I just think "trust but verify" To me it's just remembering that most women were raised to be people pleasers and have gotten very good by about age 20 at saying the right things, doing the right things when they're being watched, etc. Men aren't raised to be people pleasers (mostly) so you can take what they do at surface level. With women you just need to verify that they are who they SAY they are.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 06:58 PM
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You'll have to tell us more about this supposed conversation she had first. For half the guys in here I swear they think if their girl looks at another guy she's some sort of CC riding whore.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 06:55 PM
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Honestly it depends on what you want. The sacrifices you will make to have a monogamous relationship and a family are not easy. As far as whether monogamy or polygamy are somehow more "natural" well most research I've read suggests that BOTH were valid sexual strategies for our forefathers. Much of your happiness might be determined in your genetics.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 06:52 PM
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Congrats, now men are actually accepting you as part of the pack but now you have to earn your place in the pack. You were probably so omega last time they didn't even bother with banter
/r/askTRP13/06/17 01:12 PM
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My experience is that I wouldn't wait forever to date again. It's a shitty process but it will accelerate healing way better than just waiting to feel perfect.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 01:08 PM
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Okay, so the trick to being around high SMV people is simple: become high SMV yourself. The rest will just happen, trust me. You want to work in the burgeoning private space business? Okay great. What are 5 things you're doing this summer to work in that direction?
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:38 PM
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I believe this is all caused by the "fear" that I wont connect to someone in such a honest way and share really personal stuff with and just letting my guard down. After trp I feel like I will have filtered experiences with girls and I'm always gonna be aware and never let myself be disrespected. What are your guys' thoughts on this? I wrote this in a hurry and hope u could make something out of it to give advice on. If you want me to elaborate on something let me know in the comments. You don't…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:37 PM
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Slow down. What are you aspirations for your career and what are your 3 favorite hobbies?
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:34 PM
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You didn't listen closely enough if you're still here asking questions: @2:02 Try believing it seriously, and see what happens there's always a price you decide which of those things is more terrifying It's all in that video for my friend, everything you need. And so I go back to my original point - do whatever you want. No one can, or should, care about whether you find the "existential courage" to go out every day and experience life on your own terms. This is your choice to make.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:31 PM
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You're drowning in post-modern nihilism, and your whiny apathy is gross and it should gross you out like it grosses others out. watch this and read the sidebar
/r/askTRP12/06/17 08:53 PM
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Because you have feelings for her, which she knows and likes. unfortunately it ain't going anywhere, certainly not anytime soon. So just stew in the shitty feeling of WANTING to talk to her because that's part of growing up and being a man. Unrequited love happens to everyone. Almost everyone gets fucked over by at least one nutjob (whether you're a man or a woman). Almost everyone gets strung along at least once in their life, and most likely much more than once. Everyone falls in love with som…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 08:47 PM
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Giving up and not doing anything isn't incorrect. Looks like you've figured it out then.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 08:42 PM
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It hit me: why should I improve myself if there is a significant size of the population who are born at the top regarding appearance, mindset and intelligence? You shouldn't. Live a miserable, basement dwelling existence. Leave the good living to someone else who is dumb enough to squeeze enjoyment out of life despite not winning the genetic and sociological lottery.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 07:55 PM
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none of your fucking business
/r/askTRP13/05/17 06:24 PM
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as Han would say, don't get cocky kid. If you discover SMV later in life it can be tempting to flex that muscle. Some of my worst decisions in my 20's came from that excitement when I realized I was the AMOG and all the women in my social sphere were ultimately vying for my attention (sexual or otherwise). And I know a few guys who fucked all their girlfriends, then fucked all their friends romantic interests. Almost all of them have like 2-3 friends now and those 2-3 friends are shitheads, soci…
/r/askTRP06/05/17 11:19 PM
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Consider this a lesson in abundance mentality. You'll have plenty of opportunities to fuck where there is no risk of damaging your relationship with them. Be comfortable walking away from sex that doesn't fit into the awesome life you're building for yourself. Believe me, that attitude will only make you that much more abundant.
/r/askTRP06/05/17 11:05 PM
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Exactly right. You shouldn't sacrifice your male group of friends for one night of fucking a (by all accounts) whore. They always tell. It always gets out. You will be isolate by your guy friends completely when they find out.
/r/askTRP06/05/17 11:01 PM
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I never had a bratty younger sister. I don't have a great concept of what that means. Just dismissive?
/r/askTRP03/05/17 03:33 PM
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It's a long path. First things first, I think you need to uncover the underlying sources of your self shame and hatred. If you can't afford therapy, I would buy some self help books. I can personally recommend "Feeling Good' and "no more mr nice guy" I can also recommend writing down each epoch of your life with as much objectivity as you can muster. Trying to not self blame, but simply catalogue your experiences and understand them. This will give you a solid foundation for sensing "who you are…
/r/askTRP01/05/17 06:13 PM
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You're deeply insecure. All the other shit basically doesn't matter.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 04:16 PM
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U cant have it both ways: you cant advocate for the red pill and pretend there be women ready to fall for your alpha traits and be fucked and dump AND at the same time pretend your female relatives are special Have you ever read Dale Carnegie's book "How to win friends and influence people" ?
/r/askTRP29/04/17 05:09 PM
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I wanna prove everyone wrong I can improve Do this for yourself not for them. but hey, whatever gets you fired up I guess. People just drain me I can't control i Introversion and extroversion really says nothing about charisma. Some very charismatic people are introverts. So what is it really? Bro by the sounds of its you have social anxiety because you don't feel you are equipped with the skills you need to have a normal social interaction with a girl or anyone possibly. Skills are developed by…
/r/askTRP29/04/17 05:07 PM
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The corporate world has always LITERALLY ALWAYS rewarded savvy men and punished idiots like op is describing. Tell me a time or place where shitting all over your coworkers or BOSS was considered a good idea? What you're describing is blue collar nutfuckery. There's a reason some men rivet ship hulls together and make shit money, and some men make big bucks climbing the corporate ladder. If you want to shit all over people around you, better hope you're smart enough and driven enough to be an en…
/r/askTRP29/04/17 05:02 PM
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Bro, you really need to work on your reading comprehension. Not even trying to be an asshole, slow the fuck down, stop talking and READ what people are saying. MEN AND WOMEN ARE INHERENTLY DIFFERENT WOMEN HAVE A DIFFERENT SEXUAL STRATEGY THAN MEN DADS TEACH THEIR DAUGHTERS TO PURSUE A SEXUAL STRATEGY THAT WILL MAKE THEM HAPPY DADS TEACH THEIR SONS A SEXUAL STRATEGY THAT WILL MAKE THEM HAPPY YOU DONT TEACH YOUR SON TO WIFE A PUMP AND DUMP SLUT YOU TEACH YOUR DAUGHTER HOW TO NOT BE SOME GUYS PUMP …
/r/askTRP29/04/17 04:58 PM
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Two different parties have two completely different desired outcomes. Just like most of life, you are rarely going to find a situation where party A is going to just selflessly put their needs on hte backburner for Party B. So in this case, the dad wants his daughter to find an alpha provider who will not use her for sex and leave her. You want to find a woman to pump and dump. Your desired outcome is different, so you'll of course see tension there. If you want your daughter to get pumped and d…
/r/askTRP29/04/17 04:50 PM
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I dont think its the fucking that's the issue, its the pump n dump or the fear their daughter is going to get alpha widowed because most men innately understand that's a fucking death sentence for their daughters safety happiness and mental well being
/r/askTRP29/04/17 03:41 PM
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because most men know how other men are
/r/askTRP29/04/17 03:37 PM
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Again, this is moralism. You're implying that because the guy who got fired was a "good guy" that the others "enjoyed" that he is somehow safe. Macchevelli teaches us pretty simply that if someone is making your life miserable, you deal with them. Sorry if you feel it's unfair or whatever that he got outplayed by a "low t" guy (whatever the fuck that means)
/r/askTRP29/04/17 03:36 PM
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life is gray area buddy. There was no magical time where "manly men ruled the earth" the entire history humanity is littered with the corpses of men who used only one strategy. If all you have is a hammer I guess everything looks like a fuckin nail huh? Use all the tools as your disposal. Be ruthless to people who impeding on your happiness. If you can't remove yourself from their life, remove them from yours.
/r/askTRP29/04/17 03:10 PM
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if you read enough asktrp you'll be able to decipher that OP used to be a bitch and when he started standing up for himself other people didn't like him shaking up the established order.
/r/askTRP29/04/17 03:07 PM
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You know what's actually a bitch move? Talking shit on all your bosses and coworkers at the lunch table like a clucking hen trying to win imaginary cool points with "ya boys" This guy got exactly what was coming to him.
/r/askTRP29/04/17 03:05 PM
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You need to read The Prince and get off this moralist bullshit.
/r/askTRP29/04/17 02:20 PM
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I want to work abroad in a city abroad, doesn't matter where as long as I can find at least 3-4 men also interested and so we can support each other while we get on our feet. ...
/r/askTRP27/04/17 03:43 PM
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Totally normal. It can take days after some break ups, months after others. Just roll with it, don't force anything and enjoy yourself. Monk mode is a good way to cap a relationship. It lets you re-center yourself. If you rush into things and it isn't the right time, it's just going to make you feel worse.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 05:45 PM
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I mean, guys here talk about how LTR's require a mix of alpha and beta behaviors. It's just about the "right" beta behaviors. There's a whole sub about that.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 05:37 PM
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I was completely against it, and the first time I experienced it was both unexpected and uninvited. you gonna tell us this story or what?
/r/askTRP21/04/17 03:33 AM
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Ait but what next?
/r/askTRP21/04/17 02:47 AM
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You're going to screw up either way, so why not aim high and hit medium
/r/askTRP21/04/17 02:33 AM
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The problem is that guys have this retarded assumption their girlfriend has never acted like a slut before. Almost every girl has completely slutted out at least once. Even if they regret it, they still did and would probably do it again if they were in the right mindset. They have dick flying at them every fucking day. That's why you see how a girl treats you and try not to get hung up on the fact that IT IS JUST YOUR TURN
/r/askTRP15/04/17 05:10 PM
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You don't need to KILL your feelings, you just need to master them.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 03:55 PM
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"why are so many people really badly fucked up?" This is like the classic thing that fucked up people think that keeps them from actually identifying their own issues. For example, if you're so NOT fucked up why are you constantly surrounded by fucked up people?
/r/TheRedPill12/04/17 01:32 PM
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let me guess you are the seal that killed bin laden too
/r/TheRedPill11/04/17 09:34 PM
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Listen, if you're going to hate women for their nature, you gotta hate men for their nature, too. Hating men for their nature is "Nice guy" shit. You're not above acting like a fucking prick, so why expect her to be above acting like a slut? Stop hating people for just being human. Look at yourself and realize you're as broken and fucked up as all of them. Instead of putting so much energy into fixing women and maintaining "superiority" to other men, just accept what you are - a guy. And they're…
/r/TheRedPill11/04/17 09:25 PM
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What is your actual question?
/r/askTRP11/04/17 05:07 PM
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Pretty standard red flags for BPD and covert narc. They reel you in very quickly with ever-escalating demands on your time/energy. Then they push you away HARD and make you feel like it was you keeping them from their social life (newsflash: it wasn't). Expect nothing but nutty from this girl. Plate her for fucking but don't catch feelings. Mental defenses must be up. Do not commit to anything. Do not expect the truth or loyalty. For real, she saw an opening with you and she's going for the thro…
/r/askTRP11/04/17 05:06 PM
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they're almost all covert narcissists.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 04:47 PM
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If my girlfriend would have had just a little more patience, I would have my own apartment since I work for the university now
/r/askTRP11/04/17 04:40 PM
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My experience has always been that if two women are beginning to grill you, they are not respecting you. They see you as a plaything, and they're egging each other on to see who will fuck with you more. All those questions that seem harmless? That was all just a bunch of nonsense. Just walk away from it. Stepping up to the plate and trying to go "toe to toe" just makes you look desperate. They were drawing him into their frame, and by even sitting there talking to them it confirmed their own shi…
/r/askTRP10/04/17 07:36 PM
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Eh, your girl sounds honest and straight forward. If she started hiding texts or hanging out multiple times a week maybe take a closer look. Maybe one of these days organize a get together with all 3 of you plus a few others. See how they interact together, see if he seems like just a friend.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 06:56 PM
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How often do they hang out?
/r/askTRP10/04/17 06:47 PM
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Chill. All women have guy friends, most of which are orbiters or just genuinely not interested in fucking her. They like the validation and doesn't say shit about their feelings towards you. The line will be if they start hanging out consistently, texting, snapchatting, etc. Then you might need to set a boundary and see how she reacts.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 06:37 PM
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It's lose-lose for them. The only difference is whether the men involved are happy with the arrangement.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 06:34 PM
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The sidebar materials extensively cover desperation for validation. It confirms even moreso that she desperately wants you to orbit. She isn't interested in you but sees an opportunity (probably because you keep hanging around) to get you to give her the feel goods.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 05:33 PM
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Alpha =! asshole Asshole will get low value, low self-esteem girls. Some of those girls may be nice and cool to be around, but they're still damaged goods. There's a reason they're drawn to your bullshit.
/r/askTRP10/04/17 04:46 PM
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I bailed as I'm not going to orbit but then Later with friends she was seeking validation so hard So you're not going to orbit, but then you appear at some other social situation where you are clearly orbiting. Why would you even be in the position to get grilled by some sort of nutjob and her friend. Fucking bail dude. What are you even getting out of this?
/r/askTRP10/04/17 04:44 PM
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Dude, you were bullied. You need therapy. Redpill is not a replacement for legitimate mental health professional. Group therapy, one on one, maybe even a support group for victims of bullying. Seriously, nip that shit in the bud. Don't fuck around with past trauma or you'll wake up at age 35 wondering why all your relationships last a year and then fizzled off
/r/askTRP09/04/17 11:01 PM
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I'm in a small town. Again, OP is talking about being 30 sucking. It doesn't suck. The shit towns you live in suck. Pretty simple. We can stop talking now.
/r/askTRP08/04/17 07:00 PM
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Cute passive aggressive answer. Why are you acting like you agree with the premise that shit goes downhill at 30 while simultaneously acknowledging that your frustration comes from being in a shit town and nothing to do with your age
/r/askTRP08/04/17 06:40 PM
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So in college you bought your friends with a frat pass, the older guys brought in fresh sluts daily for everyone to bang and now that you finally left the nest you're panicking because your social life isn't set up for you like some sort of perpetual high school?
/r/askTRP08/04/17 06:03 PM
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How old are you and what is your life situation
/r/askTRP08/04/17 06:02 PM
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I'm in a small town Why are you in a small town in your 30s?
/r/askTRP08/04/17 06:01 PM
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Eventually, and it make take years, your responses to them become automatic and you will stop giving a shit. Most of it is just age and working hard at understanding the underlying insecurity that drives your old responses. Fake it until you make it, and don't give up. This is the hard part. The pay off is later
/r/askTRP08/04/17 05:37 PM
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What I would do is consider the real underlying issue here - you keep wanting/needing to keep them chatting with you. You're afraid they're going to POOF disappear if you don't remind them you're there. I know it's weird advice but consider texting the girl every single time you feel like it. Text every time you're insecurity says "wat about dat girl" Really play into the behavior and you will CLEARLY see how it's affecting these relatoinships. You are coming across as needy and infinitely acces…
/r/askTRP07/04/17 05:05 PM
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light text game can build urgency, sure. But here you are kind of waffling. Did you come here because texting ISNT working? Because it seems like you can't see that you are losing these girls and keep claiming you are actually somehow helping with these superfluous conversations...
/r/askTRP07/04/17 04:47 PM
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Listen my gf was "willing" to get one, until it happened. Then she said she loved me and wanted the baby, said we could be good parents, said she would do anything if she could keep it. I kept frame and pushed through it, but emotionally it's very taxing. Even for two willing people it can tear a very strong couple apart to lose a child (even as an abortion early on) Take it from me - there is no easy abortion for the woman. Even if you got through it okay she would always associate you with tha…
/r/askTRP07/04/17 03:53 PM
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I see - do you think this could be a type of OCD? Are the negative thoughts really that intrusive? Also, perhaps consider that this is a SLOW process. you are looking for a quick fix. You may need years of this CBT-type work to see changes.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 03:51 PM
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What do you mean by "keep connected"?
/r/askTRP07/04/17 03:33 PM
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When I was horny with the right girl, my lizard brain was just screaming at me to knock that bitch up. Literally in the moment i was ready to put a baby in her. Thats why barebacking turned me on so much. Then I went through an abortion with my girlfriend. It fucked me up, it fucked her up. It killed the relationship in a lot of ways by planting a lot of drama, doubts, resentment. It brought us very close together but also pushed us very far apart. Now, I am religious about using a condom. I sus…
/r/askTRP07/04/17 03:26 PM
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Most basic advice is have a positive internal dialogue with yourself. Notice when your internal monologue is being a real asshole, and tell that voice to stfu. Literally out loud "Listen, you're being kind of a dick to me right now. That's not how I feel, or what I need. I can do this" There are tons of books and self-help section is overrun with suggestions but the bottom line is identify the negative thinking, and reframe it in a very deliberate way with yourself.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 03:22 PM
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In other words, don't text anything but "hey want to hang? time/place. okay cool see you then" then text to follow up on that day. When you are in person be your cool self, but otherwise withold that until you are in an LTR. Even in an LTR you should be unavailable. Never become their validation machine.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 02:37 PM
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Even if you felt bad about what you said, you don't back down if you believe in it.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 02:33 PM
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stop texting if you get weak answers focus on logistics, then be the cool guy irl. not some validation machine connected to her personal phone (hmm let me just press the feel good button) if you aren't getting any, stop talking to her. I'm sure some people can have girl friends, but i know from your description what you really want is to fuck this chick.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 02:29 PM
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Why are you relying so heavily on text? Is your in-person game weak?
/r/askTRP07/04/17 02:25 PM
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If they don't ask, they are fucking other people, and your SMV is not the highest in the pile.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 01:56 PM
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No, if she doesn't ask I don't see why you'd tell her. That being said, they always ask.
/r/askTRP05/04/17 10:40 PM
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google 12 levels of dread
/r/askTRP05/04/17 05:07 PM
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Have you read "No more Mr. Nice Guy"?
/r/askTRP05/04/17 05:05 PM
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Is it possible you are ready to move on, but somewhere deep inside you just think you'll regret missing out on this "catch" If she isn't responding sexually to dread, then she is mentally checked out of the relatoinship and slowly moving on. The honey-moon, so to speak, is over. Maybe beta behavior is slipping in on your part too because you're afraid to lose her?
/r/askTRP05/04/17 05:03 PM
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As many, many people have commented in the past - monogamy and polygamy are both viable sexual strategies from an evolutionary standpoint. There is a reason that some people seem simply incapable of long term committed relationship while others can be married their whole lives and enjoy it.
/r/askTRP05/04/17 04:52 PM
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I've always been honest about seeing other women. Just simplifies things when they inevitably get tired of being a plate. It kind of sounds like you are actually convincing multiple women they are LTRs instead of being clear to each they do not have your commitment. Plates fall. If your first plate falls then you should have multiple to replace her. Honestly, it sounds more like you are dating one girl and met someone new and now considering a switch. I don't think that really jibes with plate t…
/r/askTRP05/04/17 02:24 PM
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It's not about them knowing it, it's about him knowing it.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 09:55 PM
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A chad is usually just one of those people who is blessed with good looks, enough brains to get by, big enough dick, body, and most importantly a good personality/temperment. Chad's are created by solid family life and good genetics. You can't fake the type of easy-going confidence they have because it was acquired over 25+ years of good treatment from nearly everyone around them. If they ever had "doubt" its was quickly reassured by healthy parents that raised them right and a life that just se…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 06:43 PM
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Here is your reminder to watch waht she does not what she says. If shes fucking you like crazy, taking care of you, etc. then just keep up the a+a, amused mastery, and generally being you the second you stop being you, you're toast
/r/askTRP04/04/17 04:25 PM
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As I said, it's complicated. She knows work people, including some who impact my job. My well being and peace of mind is important, but I can be an adult and compartmentalize. It's not a big deal to act kind to someone, even someone who hurt me, when my job/career is intermingled. I do have low self respect right now. Our relationship had good moments, but you're right - I need to do better by myself and treat this as a learning experience Thanks for the input, i need to hear this shit
/r/askTRP04/04/17 01:17 PM
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Are you saying he got alpha widowered?
/r/askTRP04/04/17 01:11 PM
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I'm an indian kick lately. I've hit up most of the indian places in my neighborhood. but to be honest I usually use uber eats or seamless.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 11:50 AM
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you have nothing else interesting to say except on the subject of money, sex or food? Well, okay. Start with food. Ask guys about restaurants they like.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 11:38 AM
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How long were you together? Honestly if the girl left you for another guy the relationship could not have been perfect. remind yourself of the those things she contributed to the relationship. Keep in mind she was probably also emotionally cheating on you for a portion of the relationship Honestly it may sound stupid but you have to choose to stop putting her on a pedestel. You need to get realistic about the type of person she is. Furthermore, blockk her on social media. the fact that you have …
/r/askTRP04/04/17 11:29 AM
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thanks, that actually makes a lot of sense. If I keep responding, she feels "in control"
/r/askTRP04/04/17 12:44 AM
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Closure? How do you mean? She never brings up feelings, and tries to avoid talking about her lying, or the incident with her ex.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 12:28 AM
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Who fucking cares? People show off their lives. Set boundaries and dump the ones that don't respect them. Pretending that people are going to live without wanting or needing validation is going to lead you to very bitter, unhappy places.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 01:44 PM
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Essentially, dogmatic rules in TRP, much like most rules in life, can be sparingly broken by a man who is fully aware of the consequences and why he chooses to break it this time. Good point. My problem is that when feelings get involved I still struggle keeping my boundaries. Dogmatic rules really are helpful in situations like that...but that doesn't mean we always follow them. furthermore, i think people here see vulnerability as interchangeable with weakness. To me vulnerability is just putt…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 03:06 PM
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maybe waste less time responding to people who are so beneath you
/r/askTRP29/03/17 08:52 PM
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Every failed relationship is a new opportunity to learn, to discuss what works and doesn't work, to test hypothesis and read more. If you want to take ad-hominem attacks, go for it. Otherwise, why not just respond to what I'm saying?
/r/askTRP29/03/17 08:24 PM
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I've read it, and don't get your point. Active jealousy kills relationships. If you don't trust a girl to go out with her friends, why even bother dating her? Setting boundaries works within reasonable limits, but you aren't going to take a party girl and train her into a stay at home mom. I've tried to make a clear distinction in my post, but maybe I need to re-read it and look to see where I'm missing something.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 08:11 PM
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I'm an open book, go through my whole post history and quote literally whatever you want.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 08:09 PM
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at some point you have to train your bitches to be better Sounds a helluvalot like captain save a hoe. I have done a pretty good job of finding girls who don't go hang around with ex boyfriends and party/go clubbing nonstop. In fact I don't even think girls like that are that rare.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 07:56 PM
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A covert contract would be: "If I love you and am vulnerable to you, you must love me and be vulnerable back" But just giving something freely and with no expectation of reciprocity doesn't mean there isn't emotional risk involved. It just means you have the courage to give it out knowing it may not be returned. I really like and appreciate your point about how love and vulnerability exists within your own frame. It's really smart and perceptive and I hadn't ever thought of it that way
/r/askTRP29/03/17 07:13 PM
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No, it isn't mate guarding Yes it is. There's a word used to describe men who are in exclusive relationships with women who go out clubbing and partying If you truly think she is out there cucking you - again, why are you dating her? If she's a plate, then why do you care? Do you see my point? You don't tell a girl how to act, you pick a girl who acts in a way that you like to begin with.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 06:58 PM
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You're right. Insecure people can't tell the difference. People can start throwing around insults at insecure women, get their dick wet...and then spend 4 years spinning their tires as relationship after relationship falls apart, their job is dead end, and their friends have abandoned them.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 06:53 PM
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I would say the truly vulnerable father will say "Everyone get's scared sometimes, but we have courage and we can get through it" This keeps the child feeling secure, while still accepting that all humans face fears. If you're talking about vulnerability in the sense that you want your woman to emotionally support you, forget about it. Women crave emotional connections, that feel authentic. Again, you can share emotions without making her feel you are weak. "I lost my job today, that makes me fe…
/r/askTRP29/03/17 06:51 PM
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I have no idea where you are going with this. Love? Vulnerability? Do you mean open and honest? if you are saying "I don't need love, just loyalty" then I'd say that sounds a lot like guys I know who have PTSD and came back from Afghanistan really changed people. Many of them struggle with their friendships, jobs, and especially romantic relationships. Lots of toxic relationships (EG: gangs) also revolve around loyalty versus love or vulnerability. A friend who loves you wants the best possible …
/r/askTRP29/03/17 06:47 PM
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Remember when I ignored your last comment? that must've hurt. If these are triggering you so hard, you're probably exactly who needs to read them 3-4 times each until they actually sink in.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 05:41 PM
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Agreed. Oneitus while ignoring obvious redflags AKA captain save a hoe posts. But most of those get sorted out really quickly here in /r/asktrp The issues I'm writing about are consistently dealt with in the most ass backwards way. I've seen top upvoted posts about all of these subjects with answers that are just plain confused/wrong.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 05:28 PM
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So basically rather than work on yourself, your own issues, you just intentionally hurt the women you are with for no other reason than to prevent your own weakness of "taking them back" Therapy, dude.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 04:56 PM
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You don't have to be very vulnerable to get everything life has to offer. Completely disagree. I would argue that if you reject vulnerability you are likely a fragile, ego-worshipping, omega male. Obsessing over power will put you in the role of the supervillain, the outsider. Those around you will sense this, and you will never really be able to respect you or integrate you into the pack. And furthermore, risk-taking is a well defined characteristic of being an alpha male. In fact some of the m…
/r/askTRP29/03/17 04:30 PM
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RE: your goals - getting laid is not an end. It's but one means to an end. If you isolate from other men, you are not an alpha, you are an omega. An outcast. Male bonding is insanely important for recovering from nice guy syndrome. Need to find a balance there, my friend.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:53 PM
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Good answer
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:37 PM
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I think I would focus on concepts like confidence, assertiveness, and putting your own needs first. Assholes do well with insecure women, but don't necessarily find a good long term partner. Insecure women don't make great LTRs. If all you want is to get laid, try asshole at a club and notice the "type" of girls you pull versus dating and simply being calm, assertive, funny, and outgoing.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:34 PM
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Then I'll give you my honest opinion: just because a girl got cheated on doesn't make her an automatic alpha widow.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:25 PM
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If this is your takeway from TRP, you aren't going to find the success you are looking for. Alpha is not synonymous with asshole.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:24 PM
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She's not an alpha widow... She's a chick with low self esteem who happened to get cheated on. How do you spot the difference based on what we know?
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:23 PM
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if you are this fucking fragile, your little damaged goods girlfriend is going to leave you. I'm not even trying to be a dick. It's just a fact.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:21 PM
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I've seen alpha widows break under the weight of their past relationship, and move on permanently. I've also seen them cling to the ex "as a friend" despite the horrible treatment they were recieving. but it's a gamble, a big one. If she talks about him with heart shaped eyes and makes excuses for his past behavior, she hasn't gotten the therapy/growth she needs to fix her shit. That means you'll have to deal with most of it, and maybe at best fix 10% If you marry her, or LTR her...god help you …
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:19 PM
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because I'm a sensible mature adult I'd understand EXACTLY WHY it could seriously put my current gf in an insecure position Do I really have to say AWALT to you? Listen almost every girl I know and have ever dated, quality or not, had friends that made me uncomfortable. When I ignored it, the relationships sorted themselves out if my game was good and if we were a good fit for each other. If we weren't a good fit, maybe they drifted back to some ex but you know what? That's just an indicator we …
/r/askTRP28/03/17 01:34 PM
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Go to therapy or stop messing with girls you legit think are trying to get knocked up by you on the sly you fucking nut
/r/askTRP27/03/17 09:02 PM
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honestly, I suspet you would benefit from real therapy before coming to trp for help. TRP is filled with a lot of insecure guys giving other insecure guys advice. I really would be careful abou tthis sub if you're are deeply impressionable person.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 07:56 PM
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It kind of sounds like you are obsessed with coming out "on top" in every single relatoinship/interaction.
/r/askTRP25/03/17 04:54 PM
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I haven't party hopped since my early 20's but the bottom line is make conversation with many girls, then disconnect for a while. Follow up with the ones where you feel emerging chemistry. Seal the deal with the one you like most by bringing them home and not going all weird and lovey dovey. Just get to the sex while they're still revved up from the good flirtation and game. Wahtever yuo do don't zero in on one girla nd corner her all night and make her feel weird and trapped.
/r/askTRP17/03/17 06:55 PM
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Here's the thing - there is no way to tell if the advice you get here is coming from a complete loser or a guy with his shit together. You can't tell the guys goals and dreams, his past, his family, his intelligence. There are generally helpful things in this sub, but you are right- at the end of the day you need to get out and see what works FOR YOU and for YOUR GOALS. You can borrow concepts from this and there is wisdom here...but so much of what gets posted is trash and it hurts and hinders …
/r/TheRedPill17/03/17 06:51 PM
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Everyone's different. Some people have entrepreneur brains, some people don't. The first hint you might have an entrepreneur brain is that you actually don't need the "easy corporate life" Don't shit on the guy for trying.
/r/askTRP17/03/17 06:43 PM
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What is your actual question?
/r/askTRP14/03/17 01:07 PM
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Redpill basically tells you not to get married in the first place. You will take endless shit if you ever suggest here that you are interested in a "traditional" relationship.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 12:56 PM
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You're not aware of what your feelings actually are. You are in denial. iF you are even remotely upset at your friend, she wasn't a plate and you caught feelings. Move on.
/r/askTRP02/03/17 08:07 PM
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fell into butthurt ego worship, grow up bro
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:51 PM
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Cops get off on this shit, nothing you can do except MAYBE ask who their duty sarge is and try to play it off like you know people. Maybe they get a bit spooked and tell their bitch to calm down, who knows. Ultimately there is societal/smart move stuff that has nothing to do with alpha. Take care of yourself first
/r/askTRP27/01/17 08:48 PM
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I won't go into it, but I'm in a unique position to envision both situations pretty clearly. Believe me, its awful. It's awful to know every week you send a check it's going to some other family, another guy and a woman who could care less about you and talks bad about you at every opportunity to your own kid while paying for her lifestyle choices. Every day you're at work you know that 50% of that days labor is spent not on your child, but on a woman who made her decision knowing full well you …
/r/MensRights27/01/17 08:33 PM
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this is a troll post right?
/r/askTRP19/07/16 08:30 PM
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What to do? Find ways to be of value to her. Be a social connection for her. Be the best sex she will ever have. Be the most attractive version of yourself that you can. Be the most educated man you can. Be the most confident. Basically, you need to just get past the money aspect and still bring value to her. This is so far from what TRP teaches it's not even funny. Be a valuable person. you arne't trying to win her, you're trying to win a good life FOR YOURSELF
/r/askTRP19/07/16 06:47 PM
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Like with most things in life, you need to learn how to own your choices. Just the other week a friend openly admitted in a group his "gay experimentation" in highschool. I'm not going to lie and say we were all like "OMG THANKS FOR YOUR BRAVERY" Nah, it was awkward. But you know within a few hours it was forgotten and we're all over it instantly. IMO he is a brave dude for just admitting it and not caring. He sleeps with women now, gets hot ones all the time and they know about it too. The thin…
/r/askTRP19/07/16 06:23 PM
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So you pull some passive aggressive bitch shit, and you're worried about her response? Get your own shit sorted out.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 02:23 PM
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I've had 2 terrible, next level awful managers that were women. 1 good manager who is a woman. One awful manager who was a man (gay, super flamboyant). No truly bad male managers. This is all completely anecdotal, but basically just keep everything pleasant/light. Never get into any real in-depth conversations. Never flirt, never be inappropriate (even if they are being that way).
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:37 PM
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Well, they may see it as lower SMV, but other things clearly override that.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:29 PM
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People just generally take the path of least resistance. Your life as a man has been to prepare you to change/adapt/grow when you face hardship. Most women were not raised that way, unfortunately. These women revert to something they already know (20's partying when they were still getting laid) trying to emulate the feeling and excitement and entitlement they got as hot chicks. They may be able to squeeze another 5-10 years out of it but eventually it will hit them like a ton of bricks.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:28 PM
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Ask a doctor. Most people don't even qualify for it. You have to have a fairly stable rate of loss or it's going to look weird as fuck when your hair balds away and the transplants are still there.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:26 PM
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Good answer. I've noticed the same. Lower SMV girls are easy to make cum. They feel like they're being taken on a ride and cum quickly and hard. The closer to me the girl is, the more work it is. That's okay, but eventually in a relationship it's easy to stop wanting to work so hard to make them cum. IMO That's always the risk of dating/marrying a girl who is hotter than you or has doubts about your SMV
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:17 PM
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You sound like one of those guys that never rose to the challenge of other men. You just made a joke or explained your mental illness one more time, or blamed it on your overbearing parents.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:12 PM
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honestly - many men do not revolve their world around women. A true abundance mentality brings peace of mind they will just come. You get that mentality by working on yourself and furthering your own goals.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 01:09 PM
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Eh, the CC has many victims, mostly female. They end up post-wall, unable to really emotionally bond with any one guy, constantly wondering where their next source of validation/dick is coming from. Even worse some of them have kids with people who won't pay child support or don't help them raise the kid - just in general I don't envy women. Men ultimately have a better life. That being said, almost all of their issues can be avoided with just a modicum of self-restraint and that's always going …
/r/askTRP18/07/16 12:55 PM
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Good response. Prepare yourself with a response to bad news or bad behavior, not constantly worrying/snooping/wondering about shit that probably isn't even true.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 12:50 PM
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Yeah. Plus I think many women secretly find it sexy even if they deny it.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 12:48 PM
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LDR is literally the definition of oneitus. The human brain on the best of days is not wired to deal with long distance.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 03:45 PM
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Accept that no matter the consequences of your choices, you can deal with them There are few truly wrong choices It is your life to live, wrong choices or not. Other peoples opinions mean little or nothing Even a base line of analysis and thought should be enough to make a good decision. Most peoples intuitions are decent enough, you don't need to agonize about anything.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 02:38 PM
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internalizing self-help work is more important than reading it. Internalizing means putting it into practice. A summary, the full book - doesn't matter. Just start practicing the concepts.
/r/askTRP15/07/16 12:41 PM
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you're hamstering about your own onitus. This wall of text should be deleted
/r/askTRP14/07/16 08:00 PM
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They just look beat. A lot of them have health issues that are sort of vague/mysterious but basically it's because they never took care of themselves and certainly don't plan to start at age 30
/r/askTRP14/07/16 03:58 PM
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Either that or she's more prone to hormonal swings, or a new dude has come along. All possibilities.
/r/askTRP12/07/16 08:43 PM
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Yeah and the basic starting place is always agree & amplify. Your own digs will come later, once you have a certain level of confidence with the basics
/r/askTRP12/07/16 06:41 PM
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You are out of the honeymoon phase. AKA the newness has worn off and your relationship has a void where once intense passion and feelings were. Men are less affected by this, but still affected nonetheless. All of the butterflies are gone and there isn't anything there to sustain the relationship. Unfortunately in some relationships its the girl that figures it out first. She's doing you a favor by sending you clear fucking signals. Be smart enough to identify and interpret them.
/r/askTRP12/07/16 06:00 PM
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You're just in a resentful early stage. You'll get over it, grow up, mature.
/r/askTRP12/07/16 01:26 PM
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I don't think she views him as a stalker, but definitely think she's just keeping me in the loop. I do think this guy was the "major love" of her 20's who dicked her around, kept her in a constant roller coaster and then bailed. I think he sort of threw the baby out with the bathwater, and didn't realize that most people have a breaking point where they are really difficult if not impossible to get back (PUA/TRP claims this doesn't happen, but I have seen it multiple times) Anyways - thanks for …
/r/askTRP12/07/16 01:00 PM
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Any suggestions to be proactive?
/r/askTRP12/07/16 12:52 PM
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Well for full disclosure - this guy dumped her, and is a typical alpha male. I wouldn't say he alpha widowed her, per se, but she engaged in those long-standing on again off again relationships that seem indicative of "I just can't quit the dick" He's an airline pilot, lots of partners, "tall dark and handsome type" . You get the picture. I'm no slouch, but he's probably better looking than me in some respects. Yet after he broke up with her, she moved on but never completely since they were FWB…
/r/askTRP11/07/16 09:45 PM
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Eh, breaking up is part of life. Mistakes like this don't mean to never take a risk or that nothing will ever works out. Did you really not see it coming would be my real question?
/r/askTRP11/07/16 07:10 PM
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It's a heavy weight to honestly feel (therefore believe) that the entire world revolves around you. Seriously. The most unhappy people on planet earth are narcissists. Not sure if that's specifically a female thing, although they are more likely to want to discuss it. All the self-absorbed guys I know just ignore you unless they want something. The girls need to "chat" about it.
/r/MensRights28/06/16 02:10 PM
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At the gym there's some guys more buff some less. I don't obsess over it because I believe you must guard your mind. If you find yourself in a body dysmorphia loop - stop thinking about it before it becomes obsessive. It can take years to retrain yourself if you let it take over.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:41 PM
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Yeah. The older I get I just can't really fucking find it in myself to care. I used to paranoid but these days I think of cold sores as literally a non-issue and I think of genital as "do your best to avoid but meh" If you have a bunch of partners you're bound to catch one form or another. Also my doctor told me if you get cold sores, you develop antibodies that help fight off other types. In other words, you kind of want to get HSV-1 early and just let your immune system do it's thang... Course…
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:40 PM
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Exactly. This is part of growing up. You aren't here to avoid these missteps, you are here to get help analyzing/learning/growing from the missteps you make.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:36 PM
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Plus you know, some people just hit it off better than others. SMV is about 60% and about 40% is just natural chemistry. That's my opinion though, I'm sure most TRP practitioners would like to believe that game and smv is everything.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:35 PM
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Great post. Processing your emotion in a healthy way is the only real answer. Anything push down or disregard will grow stronger in the shadows and will eventually defeat you. Strength comes from facing emotions head on.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:34 PM
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You should want to spend time with the girls you date. Why else would you date them? If they are hot, fun to be around, and you enjoy each others company - that's the ideal. The point is to realize that you can't force her to stay with you. You may have found a life-term partner, you may have found a 2 weeker. YOu can gather evidence and make a good guess at what she's going to do but you certainly can't forget that she will leave if it's her perogative. Practice dread game, push/pull, and make …
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:33 PM
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Girls can be special, interesting, unique - that has nothing to do with "shes not yours, its just your turn" The thing is, there's a nearly infinite supply of special, interesting, unique girls out there. Learn to enjoy the time you have, but don't cling to something shitty just because it's easy and there.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:31 PM
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It's not about trying not to feel things, it's about controlling what those emotions make you say, and do. Get out there again, meet more girls and realize this isn't the end. There is a whole world of people out there and this girl just wasn't for you. AWALT.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 10:29 PM
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Special date, small gift (even if its just an inside joke/gag), write her a ltter telling her you care about her
/r/askTRP16/05/16 12:35 PM
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It's not that they are good in men and bad in women, it's that you probably shouldn't date a person with too many dark triad traits (whether you are a man or a woman) That being said, women seem attracted to a healthy dose of those traits in a partner which is likely biological. Men don't seem to have that same attraction template en masse.
/r/askTRP15/05/16 01:39 PM
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So you've taken two years to realize that you still worship your ego, despite every core element of TRP trying to push you AWAY from that. Deal with your core insecurities now - before you get too far down the path you're on.
/r/askTRP15/05/16 01:37 PM
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So if I'm not fucking or making money, I'm not valuing my time? Please.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 05:02 PM
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Can you link me to his post about the anti slut defense? Literally sarcasm. take it easy
/r/askTRP13/05/16 04:48 PM
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want free shit? wat? I usually just sit around talking art, politics, whatever. Find some quality women bro.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 04:47 PM
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"blend in or something and like...be a wolf in sheeps clothing or whatever and then girls wont feel like sluts and they'll beg for your cock and everyone will like you" -Dale "get-em-soaked' Carnegie
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:52 PM
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I have female friends...they are girls I genuinely don't want to have sex with because they're CC riders. Lots of fun to be around, but hell no I'm not fucking one.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:50 PM
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I think a concerted political movement for men is a ways off. Rich/powerful men don't feel threatened or at risk, so ultimately it's a middle-class and below man's problem. IE not much will probably ever change.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:39 PM
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"Oh yeah, About 10 girls at once." "are you?" "I see people all the time"
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:38 PM
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She's probably frustrated you no longer give her the tinglies. She's trying to cling to the relationship by injecting drama into it. That's why her BS makes absolutely no sense and why nothing you say or do will fix it. Let her go.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:36 PM
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HPV can give you warts dude...so it would definitely affect you
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:34 PM
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lool best of luck in bschool or wherever you're picking up this dale carnegie horseshit
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:32 PM
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agreed they have a fundamental disconnect with reality due to obsession with naive/immature fantasies of "fairness"
/r/askTRP13/05/16 03:31 PM
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You're talking about blending in. Not every guy getting laid did it by "blending in" If it works for you, great. I get plenty of pussy without having to run everything I say by a PR department.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 02:04 PM
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How could you confuse '/r/MRA for "blue pill male-feminists" MRA is more like MGTOW - they don't care if women want to come along for the ride, they have a set of values and go for them. Many are really fucking whiney though, and they are making their lives harder for themselves by spending all their time complaining.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 01:54 PM
1

Good for you. I did the same early in HS, lost all of my friends - had to rebuild my entire social life from scratch. Everybody has to do this a few times in life, but it's necessary if you're going to be your own person and live a good life.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 01:53 PM
3

Yeah I'm a total weirdo. I'm fine narrowing my friend pool, fuck pool, LTR pool, etc. Not everyone has the same goal to be some dark triad fortune 500 CEO. Many are comfortable with the harder path, but one that feels true to their core. TRP has taught me to temper that "true to the core" - making it more precise and guarding myself. I would never feel right outright ignoring my core completely.
/r/askTRP13/05/16 01:52 PM
1

At the end of the day, you have to be yourself. TRP is a take what works, leave the rest approach. I for one see plenty of issues in the long run for someone who practices 100% TRP all the time for the rest of his life. Things like obsessing over partner count, seeing everything as a shit test, gaming women and avoiding ever being vulnerable are all basically taken overboard by people with fragile egos. When TRP mentions them, it's a "hey these could mean __." When someone with deep insecurities…
/r/askTRP13/05/16 01:50 PM
2

LTR's are different. You are not always alpha, or always beta. You are a mixture which is neccessary for a monogamous LTR. If you've had a long, successful relationship with a girl you can trust her to support you. That's the whole point of the elaborate vetting process for an LTR.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 02:24 AM
1

Well said.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 02:22 AM
2

His game is tighter, most likely.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 02:19 AM
3

Women fear they won't be liked. They want to be friends with every guy they break up with. They can't stand the thought of him hating her. Not only that, but she wants to come back to you after she's either fucked someone else or at least fooled around with/attempted to.
/r/askTRP09/05/16 02:18 AM
1

"Let's take a break" is just millenial for "I'm too much of a pussy to outright break up with you"
/r/askTRP09/05/16 01:28 AM
4

You fucked her so I dont see the problem. If you like eating pussy, do it, otherwise why would you?
/r/askTRP09/05/16 01:20 AM
1

She should celebrate! It's important to celebrate life's achievements. But if she's going to treat it like some sort of bachelorette party then there's nothing he can really do. I had plenty of friends in Grad school opt out of crazy partying entirely, even for graduation. The truth is that only a fragile ego feels the need to worry about it. The flip-side of this is that she may not cheat. She may not have a single inention to cheat, and she may love her boyfriend. That's why it's not worth wor…
/r/askTRP02/05/16 10:04 PM
1

So you want to be TRP in every aspect of your life, except the bedroom?
/r/askTRP02/05/16 09:18 PM
1

Yeah see - she's 28 and still going out and partying? Come on. What's he expect. Don't get all up in a relationship with a 28 year old still trying to act like she's in college. Her actions speak miles more than her words. Who doesn't want their cake and eat it to? People make choices about their values.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 09:18 PM
1

Eh, you need a few months to make those kinds of decisions. You can always demote her later but you don't promote 2 weeks in.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 09:09 PM
1

You can't really know. Can't really do anything. You trust as much as you trust anybody, and keep an eye out. If she cheats, he'll probably find out eventually but the truth is that the best girls don't put their dudes in that position. Sometimes I wish this sub made people tell their ages. It would help me tailor my advice.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 09:08 PM
1

Okay yeah, so this is a classic case of fetish and probably porn addiction. The time is now. Stop watching that shit.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:51 PM
2

You're just so deep in the bitterness stage dude. For your sake please realize that everything you think bad about women is a direct result of your shitty choices about which women you are with. Yes AWALT, but jesus christ you must have terrible taste if this is the end result. Truly alpha males never need to feel that way about a woman because he has properly vetted the women in his life, like any sane person would do. If the women around you truly make you feel that away about women, or people…
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:44 PM
1

Is it a fetish, or something kink you occasionally enjoy? Know the difference.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:35 PM
2

Because ugly chicks used to being treated like a human being rather than a special snowflake (hot chicks). That's why many alpha men are not even that traditionally good-looking.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:34 PM
3

Attractive Takes care of me when I need it rather than shit-testing (within the limits of maintaining an alpha demeanor. I can't expect to get babied all the time, but she should damn well know those rare occasions when I do) Can be trusted with reasonable expectations (IOW as much as any other human can be trusted) Submissive with me (respect)
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:33 PM
5

lol, and prepare yourself for the shitstorm.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 07:31 PM
1

If you feel you aren't meeting quality women, then refocus to yourself.
/r/askTRP02/05/16 06:31 PM
2

To me outcome independence isn't a lack of caring. Lack of caring is beta or omega behavior. Aloofness is more about delivery, and maintaining the 2/3 rule than it is about not communicating expectations. You don't get all angry and show them you have a "feeling button" that they can press when they need a reminder that they are loved (with most women, they want it constantly and like most drugs it will wear off and send them to some other dude soon enough). It's okay to give a girl you like an …
/r/askTRP24/04/16 08:25 PM
3

When I enter an LTR, I am outcome independent so I feel free to set boundaries and monitor behavior. If they step over boundaries, you just move on. For every 1 girl calling you "controlling" there are 9 others happy to be with a man who doesn't mind sharing his expectations. Many women in fact quite like boundaries being set for them. It keeps a relationship happy and healthy, but only if the girl is quality and your boundaries have to be realistic. That being said, if a girl tests boundaries r…
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:58 PM
1

There's two things that are key to do early with women you are interested in: Set boundaries and be willing to walk if they're broken be sexually decisive and forward. Better to be told no than to hit their "I feel unattractive" button and be friend-zoned forever
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:49 PM
1

Enjoy her. Not everything needs some chess grandmaster maneuver.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:33 PM
1

How is it limiting yourself to break up with a girl and enjoy life as a free bachelor?
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:25 PM
1

You simply refused to accept the minor signs, and waited until you saw the glaring flashing lights that she wasn't into you.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:23 PM
3

She points out hot dudes while you're together?
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:22 PM
3

Nothing. Wait. She'll text you.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:17 PM
1

He didn't set a boundary to begin with. He's not leading, he's watching her from a distance and getting pissy like a petulent child. This is why omegas =! alphas. An alpha sets boundaries for his LTR and see's if his woman is worthy by seeing how she reacts to them. An omega shrugs and send his woman off to be fucked by other men and then gives short, passive aggressive text messages about it and then bails on the relationship. Or turns in Omega status for beta status by letting her back in his …
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:15 PM
1

Best way to break up: call her and say "it's over" and break contact Why? Because this girl is not worth all the time and explanation. It's self evident to you, your friend, and every person who read this story that she's worthless. Only someone who worships their ego needs the validation of "getting closure" How to move on? date other women asap. Fuck other women asap
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:09 PM
4

What the fuck kind of thought should we have? TRP doesn't profess women can't love cars, or be good at rebuilding one?
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:06 PM
1

"I don't know I was too drunk to remember anything as well!"
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:05 PM
3

You let your fragile little ego control you, and got rid of a chick who was going to let you fuck her.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:04 PM
3

Every presentation/public speaking course I've ever taken has said roughly the same thing: be yourself, be confident, and connect with the audience. Don't rely on some dumb gimmick or joke that may bomb. Just deliver a competent and engaging talk by speaking at a good volume, make eye contact, use your whole body to speak (no weird hands in pockets) and don't look at your slides the whole time.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 07:03 PM
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A red-pill guy who has deemed a woman worthy will do some of those things for the right woman, just not all the time. This is a self-loathing post by women who realized they weren't the right woman for a man and took it personally.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 06:58 PM
8

You're mad because you're looking back at your old self. Don't punish those around you for your own past. Have compassion, and don't proselytize. They may come around someday, but only they can make that decision for themselves. Also - why are you worrying about people? A year on the pill is nothing. Keep focusing on yourself.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 06:55 PM
3

He's asking the questions you and your friend should be asking. By telling you the right questions to ask, he's teaching you how to think rather than just telling you the result of his thought process. You can use thought processes multiple times, a solution handed to you is single-use and practically useless.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 06:51 PM
7

because like w-what if s-she doesn't l-like me a-after? A-and if i don't explain in agonizing d-detail every reason I need to break up then i won't g-get emotional closure! But seriously, I find a balance between the two. I say "We aren't compatible." If they ask why, I flip it on them "Did you think we were compatible?" It gives them a little out which they usually take and things go smoothly from there. Breaking up isn't a huge deal
/r/askTRP24/04/16 06:49 PM
0

Not at all. You don't try to out-maneuver a savvy boss. You play their game until you can either get out from under them, or get to their level with a promotion.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 06:45 PM
1

Level 1: Tease them about annoying trait. Level 2: "I don't like when you _____" Level 3: When they do it, dread them hard. Level 4: Goodbye (dump/hard next)
/r/askTRP22/04/16 11:09 PM
2

Find what's right for you, and keep what you know about 'the wall' in the back of your mind. Don't ignore red flags. In my experience 25-30 pussy is great - they know what they're doing. They're more mature, they have been around long enough to know that if they don't play by the rules they'll get dumped. Other guys have helped pre-train them not to be awful. That being said, know what you're getting into.
/r/askTRP22/04/16 11:07 PM
1

All girls have different ideals. I can attract women even when I was skinny - it's just easier to find high quality ones when I'm built. I shoot for a mid ground. Too big/too ripped can end up attracting more gross skeezy women. Too skinny, and you get low quality women who feel good around you because you're looks don't make them consider theirs.
/r/askTRP22/04/16 04:46 PM
3

lol this is your problem. You view not settling down as a burden...
/r/askTRP22/04/16 04:43 PM
1

Your boss is just playing fuck fuck power games. It's your boss, your livelihood. Ignore it. Your dedication speaks for itself, this is just their way of asserting dominance and trying to bully others into not using sick days (obviously part of your company culture, which is really fucked up IMO)
/r/askTRP22/04/16 04:26 PM
1

My gay friends have told me that straight people have it good in dating. There are still decent people who want genuine connections, etc. The gay dating scene is a meat-grinder.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 09:37 PM
5

take some fucking initiative for christsake
/r/askTRP20/04/16 08:12 PM
1

lol not if they're gay, but TRP is somewhat insulated from the gay community.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 08:10 PM
1

You need a mental readjustment - you can only get that from meditation, reading, music, and a few other tools. IMO even fucking other girls may not help you, everything on this one has to start on the mental plane
/r/askTRP20/04/16 07:28 PM
1

Plates fall, what are you worried about? This well has dried up - move on.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 07:26 PM
2

Wish I had a friend like you who was proactive as well. It's not hard to chat up girls in a club. If anything the only problem I relate to is wanting to find cool/interesting girls and often times that's a struggle.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 07:24 PM
1

good point
/r/askTRP20/04/16 06:17 PM
1

Of course. Once you realize women will cry at just about anything, it's a lot easier to ignore tears. A woman will cry if she stubs her toe.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 06:11 PM
2

UPDATE: Applied dread, she broke down crying saying she didn't want to see that guy anymore and was sorry for even considering it. Whether she's telling the truth I don't know, but in terms of her behavior to me everything was as expected and I'm a much happier camper. She is definitely on watch-list though, and I will downgrade to plate if anything like this comes up again.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 03:25 PM
3

You're either gay, narcissistic, autistic, or around the wrong women. Take an honest look inward.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 05:14 PM
5

"im not a romantic guy" She's not trying to turn you into a beta dude, she's trying to make sure your interested in more than sex. This is a comfort test you're treating as a shit test or possibly even just have trust issues from prior mindfucks. No one here is going to advocate becoming beta, but there is a reason there is a TRP sub for people in marriages or LTRs
/r/askTRP15/04/16 05:13 PM
1

This is one of the more interesting/better threads I've read here. My two cents: all this does is let you know that she's probably somewhat of an oddball. Being aware of social paradigms usually allows people to operate more-so outside of them. I'm not saying AWALT doesn't apply, but she may push back in ways many women won't
/r/askTRP15/04/16 01:06 PM
1

I'm going to buy a pedestel for my front room, and i'm going to put her pussy on it
/r/askTRP14/04/16 08:13 PM
1

Running is great, just don't need it much of it and be careful to avoid injury. Biking/spinning is better for it IMO. Less risks.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 04:12 PM
1

It's not comfort. This is about creating drama
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:58 PM
1

I have a family member who struggles with food - she recommends "When food is love" even though it's for women, it might have some gems. The core message is that you're replacing a need for intimacy, human connection, success in job, life, etc. with food. But food can never provide all those things.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:56 PM
1

Make a joke out of it, or flip it around on them. Giving them a compliment should be a special occasion, not every time a woman get's insecure about her body (literally every 5 minutes)
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:54 PM
1

A. You don't need to do anything. He's your friend, but not your responsibility. Bring it up once, that's it. If she cheats again, and he bitches - just remind him you weren't onboard in the first place.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 06:25 PM
1

She's trying to establish the power dynamic. Let her. In time, the real relationship will evolve and it should include mutual respect and working together, not just under here (especially in a 2-person department). If that never happens, next the job.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 03:12 AM
4

Whatever woman turns you on is the one you should pursue. It doesn't have to make sense, be socially acceptable, or anything.
/r/askTRP11/04/16 02:57 AM
5

A little roleplay/casual exploration is fine...but you don't want to be in some kind of permanent domme lifestyle, trust me. I didn't really read your post carefully by the way. It's a fucking wall of text - all to get at a pretty simple point. Experiment and have fun, but at the end of the day don't settle for a woman that's going to slowly try to control every aspect of your life. You'll wake up someday and be too deep in to realize it was all just worshipping pussy/sex.
/r/askTRP10/04/16 11:05 PM
3

Put up with it like a big boy, and don't fuck anyone at work unless you're actually interested in dating them. Work is not a place to spin plates.
/r/askTRP10/04/16 02:13 PM
1

So you've addressed a core weakness in your life (porn) and so your character defects are coming out in other places (women/relationships). That's good. Remove the bullshit outlets for your issues, and actually confront them. You are acting needy because you think you might not get any pussy. You're getting desperate. Why are you desperate for pussy? Why are you letting sex control your life.
/r/askTRP10/04/16 01:02 AM
3

Having emotion and feelings isn't weak, but the way you express it either does or doesn't get her panties wet. Women love men with emotion and mystery, danger, fucked up pasts, etc. Just don't give her too many details. Keep it very vague.
/r/askTRP10/04/16 12:59 AM
7

Re-read the entire sidebar, then come back and tell me if you really needed our advice on this one.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 09:11 PM
2

Not your job.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 05:23 PM
1

You're 18. Dump her. Focus on yourself for a year. You have a lot of growing and maturing to do.
/r/askTRP01/04/16 05:21 PM
4

jesus, so much energy wasted on an ugly chick but I bet it felt pretty good
/r/askTRP31/03/16 02:43 PM
1

It's not the end of the world, but it's going to change your life majorly. You might enjoy being a father, and good for you not staying with a chick you don't care about. You're going to be a bit miserable, so you may as well be miserable on your own terms.
/r/askTRP29/03/16 02:25 PM
1

Unitl you've slept with one you won't see it. It's usually a morning-after look.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 06:45 PM
1

It's like asking if you're really good at kissing, do you need to be good at fucking? You need both to be well balanced. That guy doesn't need to lift 5 days a week - but everyone should be on a 3 day a week excercise routine at the least.
/r/askTRP28/03/16 06:40 PM
1

Push back to the point where it's getting a bit awkward for both of you if they say no and see what happens. Just try it. Lots of girls need to feel "convinced" they went home with you.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 08:20 PM
1

Maybe you're not properly choosing women, hard to know without getting to know you myself.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 07:54 PM
2

Did you abuse drugs? Did you experience childhood trauma? Some of what you're describing sounds like autism spectrum or disociative disorder. Women want to feel like you're "connecting" with them, and you are obviously struggling to give that feeling to them.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 06:43 PM
6

When a girl starts to treat you like the lowest level of her bitch-pack, you done fucked up somewhere along the way.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 06:40 PM
5

Extreme version of why women rally behind a family when someone passes away, even when they didn't know them. They have both biological and social ingrained tendencies that tie their self-worth to external validation. Many women get this validation through kindness, generosity, being understanding/forgiving.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 06:26 PM
1

Unlike with a regular date, just get her to go to drinks with you a few different nights and test the casual touching boundaries before initiating kiss. Maintain flirty rapport/push/pull throughout the day.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 06:24 PM
2

If you're going to do something everyone tells you not to do, my advice would just be cover your ass. Have text messages of her saying she enjoyed sexwith you/wants it. Hell, if possible let people see her flirting with you and you acting uninterested. Maintain plausible deniability, or if thats not possible as much evidence as possible that everything was mutual and concensual. It will still affect your career if she goes full psychobitch, but it won't ruin you (especially not in film world)
/r/askTRP22/03/16 06:21 PM
1

This is the sign you're on the right track. Your old clothes, so to speak, will stop fitting. It may be awkward and uncomfortable to leave these people behind...and they will fight you...but it's the sign you are no longer capable of being around losers who don't respect you or themselves.
/r/askTRP22/03/16 06:17 PM
1

Sure, talk to them...but why would you pursue a woman who doesn't excite you. Arousal templates are mysterious things. I've been attracted to plenty of women that others might not find attractive, but they are to me and that's all that matters.
/r/askTRP17/03/16 05:05 PM
2

This is /r/asktrp, not /r/politics. Yes we stereotype. Successful people stereotype. They develop models to understand the world and rigorously test those models. Those models save us a lot of time and energy. This is no different. Boxers and MMA bros are often cool guys but huge fuckups in life. Being into martial arts doesn't make you type A anymore than waking up early does. There's a lot more to broad success than simply being a physical alpha male. It's why I scoff at guys who spend 5 days …
/r/askTRP17/03/16 05:03 PM
4

530a Wake up 600a Gym or Meditation/Reading (3/4 split) 730a Shower/Dress 830a Work 600p Home (Dinner first, Chores, reading, catching up with friends/family which I view as really important to being successful) 830p Run/Hobbies/Fun 1030p Internet cut off. I don't go online past 11. This helps me avoid netflix dependence, porn, beating off, or getting caught up in work or personal drama as I wind down for bed. 11p Bed
/r/askTRP17/03/16 04:56 PM
3

His breakfast is all strawberries. Always strawberries every.fucking.single.morning.
/r/askTRP17/03/16 04:44 PM
4

Agreed. Some people need time to feel comfortable. While you work on getting comfortable quicker (takes time and lots of self improvement worK) just be honest and spin it as a good thing. Or take half a viagra. Or stop beating off/watching porn.
/r/askTRP17/03/16 04:33 PM
1

lol why are you even bothering? Are you enjoying the drama/manipulation or what?
/r/askTRP17/03/16 04:31 PM
2

I'm doing fine financially, but should start saving more aggressively. I'm donating heavily to a 401k but should also be saving money on the side for starting a business or going to grad school - or hell even travel. I eat out too much and I love cool clothes. I'm getting too old to not have a stricter budget. That being said, I always thought I'd be making 100k by age 30 and that doesn't look possible without a career switch or getting my MBA. That's sort of a depressing realization - althought…
/r/askTRP08/03/16 05:34 PM
3

To be fair - living outside your means can look just as great on IG as living within. Plenty of people curate their social media presence to look cooler than it is. I have a friend who rents maserati's and posts pictures from it with no explanation. He's up front with me about renting it, but to bitches he says it's his. My point is we live in a world where marketing is fucking weak people in the head and leaving them bitter and angsty and feeling like life fucked them over. As I tell many, mayb…
/r/askTRP08/03/16 05:31 PM
3

Turn it around on her "Are you married?" "No." then tease her for asking such a dumb question.
/r/askTRP08/03/16 05:28 PM
1

This is a long post, IMO and not a clear question. There is plenty of reading about dread game that covers it. For me to go point by point would be beating a dead horse. So "do you need it?" Yes, you do. One thing I picked up in your post: Beta Bux shit. Why would you buy her a gift because you got something. IF you treat her to something, make it a part of treating you to something. For example go to a nice dinner, and sample from her plate. She doesn't get a fitbit because YOU did well in bett…
/r/askTRP08/03/16 05:26 PM
1

Gut reaction: she's trying to pull him into her frame. He's resisting and trying to be clear about what his expectations from his woman is. If he breaks frame and becomes her "dominant alpha" she's just "domming from the bottom" as it's called in the kink community. The world still revolves around her needs, but on the surface things look like the guy is in control. If this isn't natural/by choice for this guy - he is breaking frame 100% IMO trp isn't about just being alpha, it's about defining …
/r/askTRP07/03/16 10:17 PM
3

thanks for the heads up
/r/askTRP07/03/16 10:04 PM
0

If you masturbate, why wouldn't you want to pursue those fantasies in the real world?
/r/askTRP07/03/16 09:57 PM
3

You're taking shit tests personally which just indicates a weak frame, and an ego that can't take even playful criticism. When people tease you it usually means they like you, if you're not getting teased the person probably doesn't give a shit about you.
/r/askTRP07/03/16 09:45 PM
1

You truly have no desire for sex? Are you working out regularly? Do you masturbate?
/r/askTRP07/03/16 09:42 PM
17

When people bring it up, just laugh it off and say "Is that how she's telling it...interesting."
/r/askTRP07/03/16 09:06 PM
1

agreed. even a thick girl who's in the gym non-stop is more attractive to me than a skinny girl who doesn't do shit.
/r/askTRP07/03/16 09:00 PM
1

Agreed, this is more in line with my thinking. You're getting off, enjoying your time with her, and not getting oneitus. Maybe if this goes on for weeks, but when you're finally sick of it just next her. Don't see the problem, and don't see the preoccupation with sex if you're still getting off and enjoying it.
/r/askTRP07/03/16 08:58 PM
2

it rhymes
/r/askTRP07/03/16 08:55 PM
4

He is toxic, has his own issues. Stop trying to connect with a man that will only disappoint you and who obviously wants to control/hurt you.
/r/askTRP06/03/16 11:47 PM
-2

It's not worth it, sorry. No chick is worth the risk of getting called a rapist. If your plate views ignoring her cues as "foreplay" find a chick who isn't batshit insane. All you people advocating to go "harder" on her are just advocating chasing her and falling into her frame. Suddenly she sees resistance to you as the means to an end. The idea is to get her to come to you so wet and desperate for your cock that you don't have to do shit. But enjoy your backwards pseudo blue-pill thinking on t…
/r/askTRP06/03/16 04:27 PM
1

Yes, but it's not the trp approach. Remove/ignore people who are toxic. Engaging them is fruitless, and losing frame Your life is as fucked as you've made it. Read the sidebar, stay in 12 step meetings, get a sponsor, etc.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:55 PM
2

Develop the big 3: mind/body/spirit Mind: read a book a week, start learning a new language, pick up a puzzle game like chess or othello, watch documentaries, pick up women with your charm and wit Body: Lift, Run, Fuck, Yoga, get your motorcycle license, martial arts, build something Spirit: Fuck, Yoga, Meditate, go to museums/galleries to see new works of art, watch movies from the Criterion Collection, write,
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:35 PM
10

If you see her again, quit dicking around. Go for the kiss - and if it doesn't happen then move the fuck on.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:25 PM
2

What the fuck did I just read dude - way, way too long. No clear question, definitely you haven't read the sidebar enough. There's also too much addiction nonsense mixed in to tell what's your actual blue pill issues versus just being an addict and around other addicts... I mean I could go line by line picking apart all the problems but I don't have time for that. Edit this down to 1 paragraph, and a clear question and I will gladly answer you.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 06:23 PM
1

Yeah, it's not abundance mentality to put up with endless shit-tests. Lately that's been a problem. Can't tell if it's because I haven't been properly holding frame or because my game has been weak.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 10:57 PM
1

Word. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 10:26 PM
1

She normally is - but the follow up of her teasing me was definite indicator that she is no longer being "well behaved"
/r/askTRP02/03/16 09:58 PM
1

You're young. You just don't really see how good you have it yet.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 09:55 PM
1

Yeah, you'r etotally right. When she teased me, I wonder if it would've been better to just drop the bag and walk away? seems butthurt. I really lost the battle when i took it to begin with Furthermore, this is an ongoing pattern with this chick - neverending shit tests that leave me feeling more annoyed than interested in conquering her. I've been fucking this chick for a while - maybe this is a sign I'm just not interested in spinning her much longer.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 09:50 PM
3

You fucked up by stopping when she told you to. You basically went right into the friend zone when you did that.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 09:24 PM
1

I think it's both. It's a shit test in that she's challening your frame that you should be able to sexualize her body and be dominant. That being said, if she A. felt comforted in other areas and B. full wanted/respected you this shit test would likely not pop up in this context.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 09:08 PM
1

the number one advice I give for a successful interview (I've been offered every single job I've ever gotten to the interview stage for - 4 jobs and counting) is not to give a shit about whether you get it. Also speak more slowly and with more purpose than you think you need to. Adrenaline is like drinking too much coffee - you won't be aware of how fast you're talking or how intense you seem so make a conscious effort to overdo the deliberate, confident qualities you naturally possess (you do p…
/r/askTRP02/03/16 03:36 PM
2

Trades do well during booms, especially in states like Texas. They do poorly when building slows down. Smart trades guys save up and live frugally because when it hits, it hits hard.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 11:04 PM
1

Always been pretty redpill since about junior high. I remember being a "nice guy" in elementary school and seeing it got me nowhere. The worse I treated everyone, the more people liked me and wanted to be around me. Just responded to that success. I just used /r/asktrp to expand my understanding and center myself during the ups and downs of life. It just reminds me what my values are when it comes to women.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 10:27 PM
8

Manwhore just clues you into their feeling about you. I find a girl that's into you calls you a player, or avoids the subject entirely (even though they know). A girl who is jealous you're not giving her attention or just isn't into you for whatever reason will call you a "manwhore"
/r/askTRP01/03/16 10:24 PM
1

"just hung out" change subject.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 10:18 PM
5

Own my own company doing something creative (design of some sort). Own a nice house in a major city. Have kids. have a hot wife who supports me in what I do..
/r/askTRP29/02/16 12:54 AM
-12

She either wants a chick and is in denial, or wants a dude she can treat like a chick. Obviously she is just not for you. Move on.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 11:56 PM
1

If you're just tracking progress internally, I've found journaling helps. You can revisit your honest thoughts at a prior time and see how far you've come. It also helps to confirm consistently "Ah yes, I tackled that obstacle. There was no reason to stress." Those journals are certainly something I'm proud of. Step work may also be helpful, and you should do it with an experienced sponsor with the help of a workbook, if possible. Online sites? Not sure for CODA or Al Anon, goodle will know. Kee…
/r/askTRP25/02/16 08:37 PM
1

Look for someone who maybe wouldn't mind sponsoring you as well. A meeting every once in a while will not be that effective for you. Also getting numbers of men in your position may be helpful, so you can call and check in occasionally. Online meetings may be an option as well. As for tracking progress? I wouldn't look at it that way. It's not productive, and it becomes a feedback loop into your particular set of issues. Why stress yourself out thinking if you're "progressing as fast as others?"…
/r/askTRP25/02/16 08:25 PM
1

All of the above. Physical traits and behaviors that telegraph alpha mental state
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:26 PM
1

Nah, she's not.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:15 PM
2

but does "don't shit where you eat" factor into whether I next this plate?
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:00 PM
4

You can come in with freedom/flexibility to set new policies and you have no awkward prior relationships with former peers to juggle. Similarly, you bring new fresh ideas from other companies. It's a bit like asking why people don't fuck their cousins.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 08:30 PM
1

That's good to hear, but lots of my friends say 35 was the beginning of the end for easy access to the under 25 chicks, plus the women your age are past their prime. Granted, very few of my friends are TRP
/r/askTRP24/02/16 06:15 PM
2

Everyone I know includes the barbell weight. Why would you exclude that? You're lifting it too....
/r/askTRP24/02/16 04:03 PM
1

There is no cure for lapses in discipline. I tend to think it's best to just lean into them. If you're feeling like you DGAF, then act that way. Embrace it. You have a value system, and it won't collapse under the weight of a few lackluster weeks (I mean, it is winter dude - humans are supposed to be basically hibernating right now)
/r/askTRP24/02/16 04:02 PM
6

She thinks because she knows the game, she's entitled to insider information. She thinks if she can get "on your team" she'll be that much closer to LTR. I actually briefly hooked up with a girl who got off on knowing all the details of my other plates, but eventually the truth destroyed her. It always does.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 03:32 PM
3

I don't pay for sex, and won't until I'm older and getting laid becomes difficult. If you just want to nut and you're finding that difficult without paying, I posit that you're refusing to improve yourself either in terms of game, job, or body/mind. If you're over about 35 then I guess I can see it filling in for the downturn in sex most men see at that age. Still - make sure it fits into your financial goals. I've seen guys blow way too much money on scorts, and honestly a number of them ended …
/r/askTRP24/02/16 02:52 PM
3

Let me add to this, because it's a bit narrow in scope: Decide what your needs are from a LTR Spin plates being very clear those needs (including sex) are the conditions that need to be met for an LTR Pick the girl that best meets those needs.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 10:58 PM
3

This isn't PUA. You aren't here to find out how to seduce every single woman you meet. You're here to improve yourself, and find women that are worthy of YOUR time while keeping frame even if shitty women pass on you. And protip, party girls can smell a dude who wouldn't put up with their shit from a mile away. you wouldn't be a provider for her, you'd be an impediment to her party, CC lifestyle. Get over her.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 06:03 PM
9

And don't forget that during the court proceedings it will be a given that you mentally abused her. She will be the shaking, hysterical abuse survivor - you will be the bad guy no matter what. If she cheats on you? Proof that you were abusive. As said above, marriage is not a good deal for men anymore so most of us abstain.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 06:01 PM
1

It'll come back. Men get comfortable, they start to slip into a boring routine, they tire of the endless mind games women play so they stop fighting back, etc. This is something men struggle with. I just got out of something and within 6 months I've come around big time. Sometimes we just need a kick in the ass to remind us of who we are.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 05:58 PM
1

the traits that society had told me would make her a good girlfriend, and realized that many of those were traits that would just make her a good friend instead Very key. Understanding what you need in a relationship is a major part of future happiness.
/r/askTRP23/02/16 02:46 PM
1

Sure - it's why just because someone smells strong, doesn't mean they smell bad. Plenty of people anonymously comment on the internet that they love their BF/GFs "body odor" and ask if it's weird. IMO it's why some people just have crazy sexual chemistry and others just don't (despite both being attractive people). I've met girls that were 6/10 but once I smell them and taste them and fuck them they become a solid 8, and the other way around. Sex and chemistry are magical shit - that's why I nev…
/r/askTRP23/02/16 02:36 PM
2

Soft-nexting for the tough nuts to crack: if they still don't then hard next. Why spend so much effort on one girl?
/r/askTRP23/02/16 02:14 PM
2

It helps, but I've had the same problem even when no porn/no jack off. It's a fight/flight response that's extremely hard to control. The only thing that really fixed it was increasing number of first time sexual encounters. eventually you just get used to them and your dick is like "meh"
/r/askTRP22/02/16 11:32 PM
2

This is a woman you dated...
/r/askTRP22/02/16 11:30 PM
1

Fair enough, but it's 100% the quickest way of getting over your old gf.
/r/askTRP22/02/16 11:22 PM
-1

Maybe you should go seduce, pump/dump her.
/r/askTRP22/02/16 06:04 PM
1

Height is not your actual problem. Stop letting numbers define who you are. Everything you want in life is attainable regardless of your height.
/r/askTRP22/02/16 05:58 PM
5

No. Never.
/r/askTRP22/02/16 05:56 PM
6

I have ADHD. when I do ritalin, coke, etc. I don't feel like superman, I feel like a normal person who can full concentrate on everything in the way that I imagine most normal people feel. The "superman" shit you're saying makes me think you don't actually need it. People who really have a concentration problem don't feel "high" on those stimulants - they feel peace and calm. It centers them in a way that's very different than a normal person doing the same drug. I choose to suffer through becau…
/r/askTRP22/02/16 05:50 PM
5

Honestly? Ignore. If it's important she'll actually bring it up. If it's not, she'll see she doesn't get anything for playing fuck fuck games.
/r/askTRP22/02/16 05:47 PM
3

All the truly independent women I know don't feel the need to mention it. I'll be the judge of how independent they are. IMO this is something that women who are called domineering, controlling, etc. tell themselves they are. "Oh he just couldn't handle how independent I am." But alternatively, she's definitely waving off men who value her independence. She wants to be teased about it. To be honest, all cheesy shit in tinder profiles should be teased unless they're some sort of cancer survivor.
/r/askTRP22/02/16 05:18 PM
1

You're probably laying on too much dread game. If that's not the case? She's got a naturally overactive hamster and you may need to use additional comforting.
/r/askTRP21/02/16 10:50 PM
4

If a girl shit tests me about my height I simply figure her to be entitled or alpha widowed by a tall guy. Value plummets in my eyes and I agree and amplify while getting ready to pump and dump. exactly Disagree about tall girls though. Just maintain eye contact and be that much more dominating.
/r/askTRP21/02/16 09:45 PM
5

Totally. IMO if you're receiving shit tests this strong, she's about a hairs breadth from telling you to outright leave her alone. You should have been reading signs way sooner that she wasn't interested. A good girl who's into you will give you backhanded compliments, not insults. ("You're kind of an asshole, you know that?" -You don't give a fuck which proves you are alpha "You're a high maintenance guy you know that" -You are discerning, and by choosing me it validates that I'm high value, I …
/r/askTRP21/02/16 09:44 PM
3

Describe the beta behaviors
/r/askTRP21/02/16 05:39 PM
4

Read the sidebar. The CC is not about sex for women, it's about validation. Girls who need endless validation will never be happy in a relationship. Men who get plenty of sex from their LTR stay happy, as long as their sex needs are met. Men and women are different, and AWALT. If a man cheats just because he wanted some pussy, then I would argue that he's not getting enough hot sex from his main bitch and should be back to spinning plates. If he cheats for emotoinal validation then he is acting …
/r/askTRP21/02/16 05:33 PM
61

Yes Yes Not only did she cheat on you, but she cheated on you in order to get validation from a bunch of guys who were likely watching.
/r/askTRP21/02/16 05:28 PM
1

You can bring a horse to water, I truly believe that. But you can't make it drink. I truly believe that too.
/r/askTRP21/02/16 05:27 PM
2

He smelled blood dude. He realized two things very quickly: 1. The dude didn't know his own games well enough to play them and 2. He could articulately describe the guys bullshit to him quickly and effectively. He led him right down the rabit hole and ended up at "you're an asshole" The guy's look when he realized that HE was the one being a "cunt" was priceless.
/r/askTRP19/02/16 03:14 PM
1

No joke, just fuck with him right back - or ignore him (if that's even possible). Do you want to do well at your job, or do well with the bitches who come through looking at work? He's made his choice, you make yours.
/r/askTRP19/02/16 03:05 PM
2

Sure, I'd date one if she took care of me and we enjoyed each other's company - but it would be a given that I'm fucking younger, hotter chicks on the side.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 08:58 PM
1

I've known so many women who look for the most abusive guy they can find, then get off on not just the abuse but then later the sympathy they get from everyone around them. It's actually pretty twisted. Learn the signs of a nutjob, boys.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 05:08 PM
1

We don't have less to offer the opposite sex. I think it's almost the opposite. Almost everything women want has to be provided by men. The difference is that every woman has several men by and large willing to offer her those things.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 05:06 PM
1

Its not about the difficulty...any idiot can go to the gym 7 days a week. Gym rats are the type a version of video game nerds.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 03:40 PM
1

I misread. My point still stands, and is correct - why would anyone on here advocate being in the gym 7 days a week? If you do: lol
/r/askTRP18/02/16 05:23 AM
1

I'm not saying stop working out, I'm just pointing out that you're looking for ways to UP your time in the gym. Maybe up your time taking advantages of the benefits the gym has earned you.
/r/askTRP18/02/16 05:20 AM
1

"Kiss me here" (point to body in desired place)
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:30 PM
1

Within a range, probably not. If anything I'd think a nice car just makes you work double time filtering out the chicks lookin for those betabux
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:29 PM
4

No problem. The reason tinder is nice/popular is because apps like that are wired to turn men into bitches (craving validation) or gamblers ("maybe THIS pull on the handle will pay off...r-right?!"). it feels nice to get swiped - but we are goal oriented men. That's why were here. We want to see results. Just stay focused on the things that get you real results. If somethig isn't getting a smart guy like you results fairly quickly - it's probably not the tool you need. Go find a different one. L…
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:17 PM
1

You bench 280 already bro - you're doing this to get laid and keep your body healthy to build your empire. Maybe spend your free time those things, rather than putting more into the fitness.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:13 PM
10

Listen - you are investing way too much in a 50/50 at best. Say you work for 4 days "building comfort" (whatever the fuck that means) and they finally meet you. You think a chick like that is just going to suddenly decide to fuck you now? Nope. IF she even has any intention of sleeping with you, you are still looking at another 10 days or 2 weeks of work to get her in bed. And that's still a big fucking IF. The work you're putting in is so rarely going to bring returns on a girl who's too scared…
/r/askTRP17/02/16 10:04 PM
1

I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with that. IMO TRP is about finding out what you want and getting it, while protecting yourself from terrible women and terrible ideas (marriage)
/r/askTRP17/02/16 09:45 PM
3

protip: elton john has a baritone, very limited range. Almost any guy can sing one of his songs and every girl remembers them from their childhood.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 09:38 PM
2

One of my plates also has a metric fuckton of beta-orbiters that she hangs out with; anyway I can start to manipulate them to do shit for me too? They literally do ANYTHING for her and don't leave her alone for 5 minutes of any given day. Not related to your post, but people reading: take note. This is why the most successful women pre-wall become the most bitter post-wall. They go from the center of 5-10 men's universe to literally a nobody. They have to start with nothing and rebuild their ent…
/r/askTRP17/02/16 09:36 PM
1

File it under "I don't give a fuck" Somebody in the story is either nuts or a liar, so who fucking cares which it is.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 09:32 PM
3

"I'm such a big awful asshole aren't I" and then kiss her
/r/askTRP17/02/16 09:30 PM
2

I would recommend starting strength, yes. I know very little about greyskull but a quick look makes me think it's actually not that great for beginners. Go buy "starting strength" - read it and let it soak in. Then try it for a few weeks and see what happens. Eat more, much more.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 03:23 PM
1

I tend to subscribe to the belief that diet and a hard rest (like 3 full days off, lots of sleep) do wonders. Some people say deload and do a 5x5 rather than 3x5 (or whatever you're doing) Anyways wish I could be more help, but I'm still doing the "starting strength" routine and still seeing gains, so haven't needed to look elsewhere.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 02:37 PM
1

A combo of: the girls you know suck, and AWALT (more or less) Just start looking for the less ones.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 02:30 PM
1

Great run down. So fucking true.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 02:20 PM
2

Early 30's broads are desperate to find out how much you make, what your career prospects are, your take on marriage, etc. It's actually pretty sad.
/r/askTRP17/02/16 02:19 PM
17

Well, a few options: Adopt Save + freeze some sperm Don't get a vasectomy and wear a fucking condom/pre-select bitches and look for red flags
/r/askTRP16/02/16 09:13 PM
1

Interesting thanks man.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 08:55 PM
1

Basically I take this to mean that once you establish that you're a desirable dude, you can say things that reference your sexual desire for them.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 08:48 PM
2

Honestly? I've always been pretty TRP because of childhood trauma. The main thing TRP has helped with is the concept of maintaining frame in ways that are more positive. I used to just be a huge asshole and alienated women who were actually pretty cool. Now I can maintain frame in a way that gets them in my bed consistently rather than just the low self-esteem chicks. Also TRP has helped me with my spoken and texted game. Less is more, not getting drawn into feelings, and of course just generall…
/r/askTRP16/02/16 08:46 PM
2

So last night I went to sleep early, gf was having drinks with coworkers and boss. We were texting and when I went to sleep she told me that she would text me whenever she got home. I received messages at 5am, she ended up in a stripclub having to take care of her boss, and that she almost got in a fight with a prostitute, she said she did not have any more drinks after 1am, told me boss asked about me , she then messaged me that she loved and that I should never forget that. So she gets trashed…
/r/askTRP16/02/16 08:36 PM
2

Why would that be a smarter approach? This ruins any future replating possibility.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 07:23 PM
3

Additionally, if you absolutely insist on being picky, at least be picky after several successful LTRs that made you happy so you have a frame of reference. If you've never been happy then don't come on here and pretend it's everyone elses fault (read: hers) when it's in actuality your own inability to enjoy the intimate company of another human being if sex is on the table. And if that's your gig, cool - but don't pin it on the woman's shitty dad or occasional schlick session to some porn
/r/askTRP16/02/16 07:05 PM
1

Depends on the type.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 07:03 PM
0

Is this a psychological thing? Do you regularly experience performance anxiety...are you trapped in a worry cycle? Are you ashamed of your body/weight/how good you are in bed? If you say yes to any of those, you should start working on that issue. Otherwise they'll come right back after you stop with the viagra
/r/askTRP16/02/16 05:30 PM
1

you're still worshiping your ego, focusing on performance because you want to look "good" in their eyes. get them naked, focus on kissing and enjoying the feelings. Then when it feels right, get on top of them and put it in.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 03:19 PM
1

The honest truth? You like his fuck fuck games, and the sex is probably good. He's looking for a woman like you who is turned on by the extreme approach to living he is into. He's probably been in plenty of relationships where his own needs take too much effort to get fulfilled due to his own narcissism. Most hotter women will compete with him with their narcissistic because of how they are raised and how society treats them. He doesn't want to compete with that. He wants you around because you …
/r/askTRP16/02/16 03:15 PM
1

You're way too young to think this is "the end" dude.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 02:42 PM
1

Ender's Game - Orson Scott Card A Confederacy of Dunaces - John Kennedy Toole Art of War - Sun Tzu The Chocolate War - Robert Cornier All books I read in junior high that began to open my eyes about success, people, and why nice guys always finish last.
/r/askTRP16/02/16 12:39 AM
4

the only way to win sometimes is not to play
/r/askTRP14/02/16 08:59 PM
1

Well said. I have felt "love" despite leading a TRP life. Perhaps OP simply hasn't found a woman worthy of his feelings yet, or perhaps he's still in an acceptance phase that may in time pass. Either way, the truth is that men love with a loyalty that most women don't possess. They may physically be drawn to many women, but it is much rarer for a man to love multiple women. It's a wiring issue.
/r/askTRP14/02/16 08:32 PM
1

Recovery programs are great for injecting order into a life of chaos/impulse. Good on you for sticking with it
/r/askTRP14/02/16 07:51 PM
1

Remind yourself what you can, and cannot change. Write a list of the things you literally have no effect on. It's amazing what a sense of freedom you can get by just stopping to consider how much is truly out of our control. It allows us to focus on the important things that we CAN control
/r/askTRP13/02/16 10:15 PM
1

And if you're social leader of other high smv people, just be ready for the backstabbing and talking behind your back to kick up - yes even from grown ass men.
/r/askTRP13/02/16 07:35 PM
1

the bpd who was in my life is now in treatment and doing much better, she's far less abusive than she was but we'll always just be distant distant friends. I could never trust her back in my life after what she pulled.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 07:29 PM
1

Been there. BPD's will break you down until you're begging them to be in your life. They get off on power and control - they don't want to give it up easily which on the surface feels like caring and love. But it isn't. Good luck.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 06:22 PM
6

Everything you could ever want to know about coding has alreayd been covered in greater detail somewhere else than /r/asktrp You talk about aggressively guarding your future to your wife, but you don't seem very aggressive about one of the best possible escapes you could have from the hell you are in, n'est-ce pas? You're so focussed on how to get your bitch to take care of you that you've literally never googled "best work from home jobs" and seen "coding" right at the top? My point is that thi…
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:51 PM
1

why do you care what these guys think about you?
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:48 PM
2

Or at least put her hand on your cock to see how it goes bro - i mean otherwise you're blue balling yourself
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:46 PM
1

Key point though, don't assume she wants to save it because she's into you. She just doesn't want to feel like the bitch you showed her she was being. You caused emotional discomfort to her which she is trying to pacify by making amends. this is one of the best descriptions of AWALT i've ever read on here. kudos
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:46 PM
6

enough spoon feeding. Today begins your journey. You want to learn to code? Google it. And everything else.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:43 PM
4

I can't think of anything worse you could do than sit down and try to proselytize about how each of them should act towards the opposite sex. Just be alpha, let your son mimic those behaviors.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 04:41 PM
2

Long chats are always sappy. Dread game her, start working out, get into a few hobbies, and start using game on your girl if you expect to keep her - but TBH i don't see how a relationship started as a beta can ever transition with you to a knew outlook/alpha
/r/askTRP12/02/16 01:59 PM
-1

Why do men have sex with women far below their SMV? Because we're wired to want to get off more than we are wired to seek high value partners. Women are just the reverse. It's not black and white, but men are 80/20 sexual drive/partner selection, women are the reverse.
/r/askTRP12/02/16 01:58 PM
10

How did you read all that sdiebar material, and yet still end up back at "well i just need to sit down and have a nice long sappy chat with her..."
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:56 PM
0

Hate directed at women for trying to better themselves? Or for being sexually involved with multiple men? your wording is a bit ambiguous. Assuming the latter: Again, this goes back to a fundamental belief which is that women have sex for emotional validation rather than purely physical release. Emotional connections/investment is something TRP values so highly that we work our asses off to find appropriate women to give our emotional investment too. IF sex=emotional validation and a woman is ha…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 10:00 PM
-2

No, because he isn't spinning multiple plates for sexual variety or emotional validation, he's doing it to find a woman that's right for him or for sexual release.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 09:55 PM
2

No one here is pissed at Chad, we're just trying to help you understand what the concept is/means. People here know, and accept they will probably never be that guy. They found their way here precisely because they aren't him. Getting lost down the rabbithole (to use your term) of why Chad isn't an important concept is blue pill thinking because it's not focusing on the important part: stop worrying about how easy Chad has it, and work on yourself. Your dismissal of the concept insinuates that e…
/r/askTRP11/02/16 07:39 PM
1

Why does it concern you particularly? Are you worried it's going to impact your enjoyment of life? IMO that's a very un-psychopathic concern, but of course I'm no expert.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 07:22 PM
1

"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things" I know you're kidding, but I think it's clear there are some guys who just never outgrow fantasies and it holds them back from actually accomplishing what they want. That's why a ton of sports fanatics are blue-collar losers.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 06:33 PM
3

New posters: we make it easy for you by offering you advice on AskTRP, you can choose to follow our advice, or not. Ultimately we don't care, we are being altruistic. exactly
/r/askTRP11/02/16 04:39 PM
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First off, there's a clear divide between watching something, and obsessing over it. He said sports fanatics. I agree with him - it's not drastically different than some Star Wars fanboy wishing he was actually a jedi instead of going out and actually becoming a jedi (or the closest thing possible)
/r/askTRP11/02/16 04:24 PM
2

I don't think the objectives of TRP are that open ended, and for most beginners they need to learn what they should want. I'll make it simple for those new here: you want your ex-gf to see that you have an abundance mentality and that she is missing out on being part of your exciting, fulfilling life. Simple.
/r/askTRP11/02/16 04:20 PM
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You do not create a feeling of connection by communicating endless amounts of drivel about your arbitrary beliefs about the world. Show a girl what your values and interests are by having an active, participation-oriented life. If you're into art, don't tell her how much it means to you - take her to a gallery opening. If you love movies, take her to the latest film. If you love sports, take her to a game. (Assuming she has any interest in those things). Women love men for who they are, not what…
/r/askTRP10/02/16 08:16 PM
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take it to /r/MensRights
/r/askTRP10/02/16 07:10 PM
2

For future people who read this thread, an UPDATE: The next day after ignoring her, I just texted "RIP girls name, oh well...will have to find someone else to bring to dinner Saturday" And she spent the next 3-4 texts apologizing profusely and explaining why she was freaked out (and then apologizing more) So i just played silent, then made the segue right into logistics and setting up the next date. E-Z P-Z
/r/askTRP10/02/16 03:33 PM
2

Just so you know, there's a reason "monk mode" is advised to lots of newcomers. No women, and focusing on yourself is the real foundation to self-taught happiness.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 08:06 PM
1

Because emotional manipulation works, and you were a victim of it.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 04:19 AM
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It actually sounds like you missed out on two opportunities because you coudl've texted just a bit and kept their little endorphin pump running - instead you went completely cold and it just looked kind of like you only cared about hanging out. IN an odd way it might come accross as dsperate. Like casual flirting over the text can actually seem more abundance mentality IMO. If you just want to hang out, it looks like you're so obsessed with seeing them that nothing else matters. just my .02
/r/askTRP09/02/16 04:08 AM
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I see a bunch of red flags in her personality, and she doesn't respect me - how do I change my behavior? I don't get how people get through all the sidebar materials and still don't get some basic tenets of this approach to life. You're still thinking about what YOU need to do for HER. Dude - you don't need to change who you are to control her. You need to fucking ditch a girl who is obviously too dumb to take your vastly better experience/advice, and who doesn't respect you. Do you want to spen…
/r/askTRP08/02/16 10:37 PM
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Just getting them to kiss you doesn't really mean anything. Having a fun time at the bar also doesn't really mean anything. Dating is a numbers game. You're doing the right thing by focusing on just getting out there and doing it as much as possible.
/r/askTRP08/02/16 06:49 PM
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I would look at /r/SocialEngineering . Your question is slightly beyond the scope of TRP
/r/askTRP08/02/16 03:21 PM
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Not everything about TRP is about spinning plates and dating advice. I've told friends of mine from both TRP and PUA that plate spinning is not really an end game. It's just a tool we use during the meantime to grow as people, learn new skills, expand our social networks, and experience life to the fullest so that somewhere down the road we are in better control of our lives. We are getting good at aligning what we want, with what we get. But that being said a lot of dudes are so focussed on get…
/r/askTRP08/02/16 03:02 PM
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I remember a dude telling a freshman in highschool "if you're lucky, tonight I'll let you suck my cock" She acted to fucking pissed, but then that night at a party, she sucked his dick and he told everyone about it.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 08:41 PM
5

Truth + Helplessness = Anger Truth + Empowered = Amused Mastery/Wisdom We strive to be the second. I pity those stuck in the first permanentely. We all struggle from time to time though.
/r/askTRP05/02/16 07:39 PM
1

Attention doesn't have to be controversial, but the more attention you get the more love/hate you will become in people's minds. That's unavoidable. Besides, you can have a great reputation as a businesman (for example) even if people think you are an asshole. I was always regarded as an asshole in school, yet people went out of there way to be part of my group for group assignments.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 07:23 PM
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either have more sex until it means less to you and you're doing it more for the physical gratification, or accept that you just want sex to be with people you connect with. Then it's just harder to find plates because you need the connection, but still doable. I myself am somewhere between the ideal TRP guide (fuck every hot thing that moves) and you (shes got to be special)
/r/askTRP04/02/16 07:21 PM
2

Just focus on caring for yourself, putting your needs and wants first, and developing strong independence from others. If that's all you achieve in your first year of redpill, then consider yourself miles ahead of most people. All the little nitpicky "was this alpha/beta" is just horseshit. Take care of yourself. Improve yourself. Put your needs before those of others.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 02:52 PM
1

You can set goals for yourself in fitness and other things, but honestly if you are setting goals that ultimately make your life a more boring and less-rich one I would question whether it's the right set of goals. I have friends who stumbled into this while pursuing a career in finance. They had worked literally their entire life for a singular pursuit, then realized they were boring people with no experience with the world, women, etc. A lot of them had to work quite hard to pull themselves ou…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 02:11 PM
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In my opinion sex is so much more than friction. I've been with really tight girls that make me feel huge in size, but mentally just wasn't as hot as girls where the friction was less but the mental attraction was off the charts. Sex is truly a mind game. Ideally you'd have a bigger dick, obviously, but it's far from central to the thing.
/r/askTRP03/02/16 09:44 PM
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I like the juxtaposition. I was once speaking to a rabbi who told me that a wise man once said "You must always carry two pieces of paper with you, one in each pocket. On one write "For me the world was made" and on the other write "I am but ashes and dust" In living well we struggle to straddle the competing notions of being the center of our own worldview, and being part of a large complex system that can make us feel very small. Both perspectives are true, and both lend themselves to an enlig…
/r/askTRP03/02/16 09:43 PM
2

I'm insecure about my size, my dick, my thinning hair, yeah. I obsess about them. I practice a lot of mental excercises to combat them, mostly positive self reinforcement and being meticulous with self-care habits.
/r/askTRP03/02/16 07:04 PM
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All these posts are really great. The thread that connects them all is this: you are in control of your life and you set your own destiny, your own values, your own actions. The number one thing I saw with omegas in my high school was this overwhelming sense that they felt they had no choices or decisions to make. The helplessness made them angry, resentful, and anti-social. They were men with nothing to lose, but that sense that they had nothing to lose was a total illusion. They all had plenty…
/r/askTRP03/02/16 02:51 PM
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The simplest explanation I can give: if you are victimized at a young age, it sets you up as a target for victimization later in life because of learned behaviors of early childhood abuse. Survivors of childhood abuse have to work hard to identify and alter those behavior patterns that allow others to break their boundaries, and to not cross others. Their whole understanding of interpersonal relationships is simply deeply altered from a "normal" person.
/r/askTRP03/02/16 02:17 PM
1

Thanks for your insight. Proper setting of boundaries and all that is definitely something I struggle with.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 09:40 PM
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I've realized that while ultra-positive bullshit may seem cheesy to some people, it's absolutely what I need and want in my life. I've been through some bad shit, and there's plenty of cynicism and evil in my own head without being around it in my life. So yes, you're totally right. I'm using what happened to me as an engine for my life rather than a weight dragging behind me. And furthermore the therapy and really addressing the issues has helped me gain the self awareness I need to "beat the g…
/r/askTRP02/02/16 01:31 PM
2

Once a week for 5 months so far. Plan on doing a full year of it.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 11:40 AM
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The woman wasn't a family member at all. The other was not blood related to me.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 11:40 AM
1

Keep making decisions is one key piece of advice that a lot of successful people have given me. Never freeze up, never let indecision stall you out.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 01:40 AM
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I'm actually just leaving a LTR and did monk mode for about 4 months. Just starting to dabble in dating and nothing serious at that. Getting into serious, long term committed therapy (I'm doing a full year once a week) has been a major help to me. Reaching out to some support groups and 12-step groups for some of my particular issues also helps. Thanks for that website I will check out. Sounds like the general concensus is keep that shit to myself.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 12:34 AM
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If you truly believe they will just respond "if they want" no matter what you say, then just forget about TRP because honestly one of the core tenets of this mindset is that how you act, and what you say DO matter.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 12:31 AM
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Pick up your phone, cancel the subscription. Uninstall the app. Go to a bar. Chat up 3 girls before you leave. Even if it goes miserably, you will be on your first few steps back into reality.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 12:17 AM
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In other words, shit they do to see if they can tease a beta response out of you.
/r/askTRP02/02/16 12:00 AM
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time to end it buddy. The relationship, obviously, not your life. If she's not feeling the "passion" anymore, then she's losing interest in you. She wants the comfort of you while she waits for the next dude to make her cunt tingle to come along. Why be her tampon in the mean time?
/r/askTRP01/02/16 11:58 PM
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"That's what dates are for. What days are you free this week?" She's trying to do additional pre-selection and recon which is a shitty game for idiots who don't value their time. She's the one with the ticking clock over her head, not you. Why are you even bothering?
/r/askTRP01/02/16 11:36 PM
1

Time, consistency with your new mindset, and removing the toxic influences on your life if need be.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 11:32 PM
1

And just a tip: pick something that will make you decent money. Don't be that asshole chasing some fantasy like "rapper" or "actor" . You don't gotta be rich, but at least make enough to have a relaxed life that you enjoy.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 11:30 PM
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At some point you just need to choose something, and go after it. If you're waiting for some eureka moment where you come to jesus about the best most important thing in your life - stop waiting. It ain't coming.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 10:06 PM
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Plenty of people out themselves, men and women. But honestly? It's because women's sexuality is more valuable. They believe if they explain their mistake they will be forgiven because men have less options and they're used to getting a free pass for a lot of their messups as women. Men simply don't, so we treat the world as if admission of guilt will royally fuck us over (as most of have learned)
/r/askTRP01/02/16 10:03 PM
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This is terrible. Don't say that to a woman, ever. edit: Let me give a better answer rather than juts shit on you. Instead of opening up with some horrible line that makes you sound desperate (real men just go focus their time elsewhere, they don't need to WARN women they're going to do that), ask her on a date. "Grab a drink with me tonight. 830 at Bar."
/r/askTRP01/02/16 09:33 PM
1

Can you give an example? You should avoid ultimatums - but carefully phrased this could work.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 09:25 PM
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So make a rule that you won't reply until a full day has passed, never break that rule unless it's to plan a date. Easy.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 08:29 PM
1

A. Why do you continue to watch that shit? It's toxic. YOu shit what you eat. B. No - you're desensitized. As most humans get when the repeatedly submit themselves to something.
/r/askTRP01/02/16 12:48 AM
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It's over man. She doesn't respect you.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 10:05 PM
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honestly, unless you're competing it's totally unnecessary. Focus on your career and hobbies with the time you save researching, acquiring, and woryring about gear.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 09:12 PM
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SASTO - some are sicker than others. if red pill has caused to lose zest for life, you've missed something.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 05:27 PM
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I don't get it either. I assume it's becuase people see the worst possible version of what like 1% of people get and think that could happen to them. For me, the cold sore has been just some litle red bumps that tingle a bit. I've put abreva on them and they haven't grown in size in a day. I assume they'll hang around a day and then go away. With any luck I'll be one of those people that only gets them when I'm sick (which is rarely)
/r/askTRP31/01/16 11:34 AM
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fair enough dog, two different paths on this one.
/r/askTRP31/01/16 12:08 AM
0

a lot of this shit is kind of cheesy but hey, know your woman
/r/askTRP29/01/16 10:40 PM
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Other languages really help. Laid back, but upbeat. Check out El Guincho - Pop Negro
/r/askTRP29/01/16 10:40 PM
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You should be both sides of the coin for her. Being aggressive and sexually dominant is important. Never be just one or the other with a LTR or potential LTR With a plate, just focus on sex. Otherwise you get friendzoned quickly.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 10:36 PM
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There's this little field of study called "sociology"...
/r/askTRP29/01/16 10:34 PM
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You're showing you aren't threatened by not treating him as a threat. You are amused that he thinks he can chat up your woman because the thought of him succeeding is preposterous. Furthermore, you see him as a beta male who could be one of your followers. If you get standoffish and defensive it just confirms to the girl that he's a threat and worthy of her now divided attention. Pulling your girl away is not exhibiting the mentality of man with many options. If shes weak enough to prefer a beta…
/r/askTRP29/01/16 08:43 PM
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I think it's great when girls start orchestrating dates but believe me it becomes that much more important to maintain frame.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:42 PM
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Best way is just to say you aren't looking for something serious. "busy tonight, sorry" is better than dropping hints you're with other women. believe me they get the message, but that minimal layer of effort to not specify actually works in your favor. It shows that you don't answer to her. Reminding her all the time there are other women eventually looks sort of pathetic and you will lose a plate over it.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:40 PM
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Immediately engage with the guy, be forward but amused. Allow your girl to speak briefly with him and even join in. Don't act threatened. If he makes a move to stick around, suggest bringing the girl to another bar and tell her very clearly that "the atmosphere has gotten a bit boring" Then take her somewhere else. If he follows he'll be a creep.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:36 PM
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First off - they may always be in your sexual template but you can "top from the bottom" as they say. Controlling the relatoinship, sexual or otherwise, is still your job as a man. the content of that sex is your call. If you want it, you orchestrate it, and you make sure your woman knows it's part of your needs if she wants to keep you then you are still alpha. TRP is not like one of those gay camps where they try to beat the gay out of people. You are what you are. Understand where those desir…
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:33 PM
1

Can you be clear what you mean when you say women live in a "world of lies"
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:29 PM
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Yeah, less is more with texting but I've had girls literally bring up texts I sent them later as a "moment they knew when they were into me" so again, if your game is tight then the delivery system doesn't matter.
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:21 PM
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It depends. I find that most TRP advice simply weeds out women that aren't head over heels into you or extremely insecure. The former is great and leads to less wasted time, the latter is scary and can lead to shitty relationships (nutty girls). And before someone says AWALT, it's all a sliding scale. Yes all women want what they percieve to be a catch and yes "alpha traits" can be telegraphed that make women feel this way about you - but ultimately your own happiness relies on you being with a …
/r/askTRP29/01/16 07:20 PM
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Agreed. You can't always be teasing/amplifying. Sometimes just play it cool and let it settle in that you it's no big deal to you. Agree/amplify is really not as effective once you get to know women tbh.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 09:21 PM
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I've done it. Dated two different sorority girls, not in greek scene at all. The thing is, I'm a creative type. Makes it easy because I represent the "other" type of dude. If you look and act like a fratdaddy but you aren't in one, they just aren't going to see the point and you're going to be behind the guys who hang out with her regularly.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 04:38 PM
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what advice do you want? chat up a girl, if you're getting the proper signals, ask if she wants to go out, get number. If shes being a cunt, move on to someone else.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 12:49 AM
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dude - you don't make crude sex jokes about someones mom as you're trying to woo them to a date. A better answer would've been "well don't tell mummy" or something like that but I digress, at this point just say "wow you sure brought that to a weird place, I was just going to introduce myself so I wouldn't be a stranger anymore ;)"
/r/askTRP24/01/16 12:23 AM
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Why do you even have a facebook?
/r/askTRP23/01/16 11:20 PM
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Seems like lying only makes sense if you're a little bit ashamed of your job, or trying to avoid gold diggers. Since I'm not fabulously wealthy, nor ashamed of what I do - Why would I lie. I could care less what she thinks about my job, and it aligns with my interests and passions. Helps weed out chicks that will eventually bore me
/r/askTRP22/01/16 02:39 AM
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love it dude.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 05:02 PM
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The quickest way to find out if shes interested is to ask her out agian. If she makes another excuse, you have your answer. Guess what, if she's not you brush yourself off and move on to the next one. Most of dating is a numbers game, don't forget that.
/r/askTRP19/01/16 12:58 PM
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I'm a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. I understand how it affects the mind. The best thing I can say is this: find something you want bad enough, and discipline wont be an issue. But my secondary advice is to develop discipline in small, sustainable ways. Big sudden changes = relapse. Build incrementally, and each time you build sustain that new habit for a few months before you change out.
/r/askTRP19/01/16 12:57 PM
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We gave each other oral. No sex. Yeah, she might be a bit nutty. I'm thinking I need to slam on the brakes and see how she reacts. Although TBH, if she is nutty - I probably need to play things relatively cool. Just a gradual wind down
/r/askTRP19/01/16 12:49 PM
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Definitely. Always appreciate the perspective man, thank you
/r/askTRP19/01/16 12:47 PM
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Honestly, "whatre you up" seemed like an obvious deflection, so obvious that she'd get i was just avoiding her question...hence drive her crazier. That was my strategt at least, but i get what you mean. It comes accross as me being more interested in her and her life than my own. thanks for the ffeedback
/r/askTRP19/01/16 12:47 PM
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good question. She sent me a picture and i got roped into a conversation about what i was doing tonight
/r/askTRP19/01/16 04:05 AM
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What I like most about this is that it's a time saver. Why waste time on a girl that can't keep interest in you for a couple of days? Obviously it's a situational thing but in 9/10 I'm having a hard time believing this isn't essentially the right approach. If shes into you, you'll know it sooner rather than later. That's the difference between TRP and PUA. This isn't about charming ANY woman, it's about finding the women you actually want in your life.
/r/askTRP16/01/16 09:12 PM
2

Great post, thanks.
/r/askTRP16/01/16 09:11 PM
2

Frame is simply defining your own reality/truth and then drawing others into it. It's what good leaders do. They make reality, and others buy into it (or not) but the leader doesn't get sucked into someone elses reality.
/r/askTRP16/01/16 08:39 PM
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I like that rule.
/r/askTRP16/01/16 04:38 PM
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I have plenty of other girls to text, but in this case I was more interested in suggestions about what the way is to handle someone flaking/rescheduling multiple times edit: oops sorry missed the first line. thanks
/r/askTRP16/01/16 04:34 PM
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Look the way that makes you feel attractive and confident. If you're on here second guessing your appearance, then change it. But to answer youq uestion: full beard + long hair = anti-social projection. You're hiding your face behind hair. It's great if you already have power/authority that's recognizeable but not so if you're trying to pick up people that don't know you.
/r/askTRP16/01/16 03:59 PM
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you do you bud
/r/askTRP05/01/16 01:57 AM
1

My feeling is not to knock an experience before I've tried it. If someone spent a solid couple of years living a TRP lifestyle, and then walked away from it I'd respect their decision although probably disagree. My feeling is that most people who MGTOW never fully worked a TRP lifestyle, just make excuses that it's "too much trouble"
/r/askTRP04/01/16 02:22 PM
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Sit with your feelings, accept them as your current reality but ultimately something that will pass. Date more girls. Get out and have fun. Work on things in solitude.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 02:14 PM
1

choking and fingerblasting the office lesbian. at the office. Aren't you worried about getting fired?
/r/askTRP04/01/16 02:14 PM
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You had feelings for this girl. That's the difference, and why time is the best suggestion. In time your feelings will go away. In the meantime, focus on yourself, get laid a few times, and move the fuck on.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 12:12 AM
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You handled it as best as you could. You were in sort of a no-win situation, yet you come out looking best. The other dude just lost major points. As an aside, don't shit where you eat. Workplace flirtations are a terrible idea.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 12:09 AM
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I guess my opinion is you have a few options: deflect/ignore the question (just change the subject to the next meetup), agree amplify "everything should be for fun, that's the whole point of life" Etc.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 12:06 AM
1

careful with the fetish sites. If you crave the kinky sex bad enough it will fuck with your headspace and game. just my .02, good luck.
/r/askTRP03/01/16 09:48 PM
1

She's throwing you scraps as she sees you pulling away, trying to train you to wait for her attention and then feel relieved when you get it. she's running a dread game on you, basically, and you'd be playing into it by caving so quickly. Next her for a couple weeks, ask her out. If she gets back to you quickly and behaves you can replate her.
/r/askTRP03/01/16 09:47 PM
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"another time then. take care" and then just ignore for a few weeks, even if she tries to lay anything on you emotionally.
/r/askTRP03/01/16 09:24 PM
4

Are you attracted to her personality? It's not something you even mentioned. Maybe you simply don't love her anymore.
/r/askTRP03/01/16 09:21 PM
5

SO go talk to another plate?
/r/askTRP10/12/15 11:29 AM
1

Definitely don't want anything with this girl.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 04:49 AM
1

To be clear the way she said it was not casual or flippant. If it was I would've just ignored her and left. her tone was flirty and (for lack of a better word) princessy. Like delivering an order. and then she smirked.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 03:52 AM
2

Eh. If you ever talk to these guys in their 30's and beyond, a lot of them are totally jaded and burnt out. They complain that no one is looking for real relationships, everyone is shallow (just wants hot abs and a big dick) etc. There are plenty of downsides according to my gay friends.
/r/askTRP24/10/15 07:38 PM
1

Yeah its crazy how through my chaotic life I've sought honesty and to let go of some of the games...I had forgotten this is what it feels like.
/r/askTRP28/09/15 01:35 AM
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I am looking at for a map
/r/askTRP27/09/15 05:13 PM
1

Yeah. Honestly it makes sense, but why do girls take everything so personally?
/r/askTRP27/09/15 04:56 PM
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Healthy humans partake in mutually beneficial arrangements, which has nothing to do with manipulation. But you can attempt to spin it however you'd like... fucking here here! And to all the people who think they are getting away with being manipulative: people always figure it out, and when they do they will hate you for it and it will destroy not only your relationships, but your reputation. Your reputation is the 401k of socializing. Invest in it now, so you won't regret it later. TRP is not a…
/r/askTRP19/03/15 06:06 PM
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Hang in there brother. There's a lot of people out there struggling, like you did, to make sense of their own confusing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. I'm struggling myself right now. Another close relationship with a woman that I love and care about may end for good because of my own strange sexual compulsions that are directly rooted in what happened to me. I'm sorry though, I wish I could go back in time and steal away my own memories and those of yours so maybe we'd have a shot at normal…
/r/MensRights20/02/15 10:03 PM
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I appreciate your story man. It's funny because I don't remember the exact dates of what happened to me either. Or even exactly how old I was. I think I was 9 but it could've been earlier, and for all I know happened more often than I remember. The actual details of what hapened are precise but all the context is fuzzy. For years after it happened to me I doubted my own memories because they were so strange and the abuse stopped so abruptly. But when I got to a certain age certain of them became…
/r/MensRights20/02/15 09:56 PM
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Yet that IS the primary criticism of his work, and other psychologists who have done work along these lines. It's a theory that works well when you narrow your focus to "20-something Americans making over X dollars a year who were college educated" but it often times falls apart when you broaden the scope across time, religions, cultures, and geography. Agreed. I get that between say...two 23 year old women of equal hotness and intelligence levels you could say...oh there is definite competition…
/r/MensRights03/02/15 12:31 AM
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Honestly the most successful guys I know aren't always thinking about themselves or coming out on top, no. They invest in others, especially those they care about. They are kind, generous, and know when to compromise. I would take some time for about a year and focus on generosity, compassion, empathy, and fostering social interactions that are healthy and mutually beneficial/enjoyable. You are you going to miss out on so much that life has to offer by obsessing over winning/alpha bullshit. It i…
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I think you are on the money about most things, except that first bit. You are forgetting all women have orbiters. The most idiotic thing you can do is start mate guarding against every ex your girl has ever dated. Many women, quality or not, remain friends with ex-boyfriends. You want her to smell beta all over you instantly? Throw a little tantrum about her ex-boyfriend and how "inappropriate" it is that they still talk. Seriously, nothing dries the pussy up faster than her being open and hone…
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TRP doesn't degrade women for wanting to fuck hot, successful guys. We simply make the choice to pass on women who ride the CC extensively because it indicates a desperation for validation that will likely never be satisfied by one person. And don't say "Women love sex, so maybe they just want sex" - sorry but if that was the case then they wouldn't be fucking only HIGH SMV guys. They'd be fucking anything that would plow them which proves an inherent difference in the psychology of sex which pr…
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I appreciate your post, although IMO some elements are not totally self-aware. If you had "felt" something for him then, you'd have made it work - no matter your situation ("not looking for anyone). I don't think I'm off base saying that your sudden interest likely came in part from a combination of craving validation, fear of being alone, and the crushing realization that the man you passed on has grown into a high SMV individual. Don't blame yourself though, it's actually as much a cautionary …
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I have my crew, and I have the guys I like to hang with on occasion. One we give each other friendship with very few caveats. We hook each other up in a lot of ways, and it's not a "power struggle" But I have the guys I party with, and with them it's most definitely always playing power games. That being said, it keeps me sharp and I like the competition. It makes me feel alive. So I guess what I'm saying is - why not have a crew for your different moods. If you're feeling exhausted by your frie…
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Women's lives revolve around relationships, not their word/logic/"the right way of doing things" That's why you'd call someone back, and they wouldn't.
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Calmly say "How were you using it?" If he escalates, let him fume himself out in front of everyone. Maintain frame, act amused - not threatened or angry. Ultimately it's not worth an assault charge or problems at your gym so keeping calm and using your words is the only avenue you have.
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We're saying the same thing.
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What you get out of it depends on the person, not the drug. If you got nothing out of psychedelics, it's on you - not the trip you had.
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Immediately. edit: also, when you do break it off - frame the discussion not about the sex being withheld but instead about her reaction to an important issue for you. She used bizarre threats and anger and didn't listen or respect your needs. Tell her you can't be with someone who insults your honest sharing of feelings and then on top of that uses over the top threats and accusations. Women hate the idea that they might not have respected someones feelings - it drives them nuts. She will do an…
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lol
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Being comfortable with generalizations doesn't mean you are too dumb to realize there are always exceptions. Many, many women I know cannot change a tire...that doesn't mean it's impossible to acknowledge there are "car chicks" out there who likely know more about cars than many men. The fuck are you smoking?
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Dude, it's all posturing. The problem with TRP is much of it attracts newbies who are so deep in bitterness and denial that they need to hear extreme shit to help them rewire their brains. Some of the most alpha guys I know are also some of the most loving and caring of their girlfriends. They don't have decades of frustration fueling their hatred. That's why I can always tell the ones who came here through a long and painful journey, and those who came here because it just "made sense" inherent…
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lol...
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She likes you. You aren't ready to commit. She's freaking out. If you want to keep her on the line, do something sweet for her. Some small gesture. It will give you another few months of "do whatever I want" credit
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Tone of voice is playful, wording is usually mostly a joke about picking baby names, etc. Frequency is basically twice - we've been seeing each other only 2-3 months
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Honestly? Whatever I want. I like all types of music, depending on my mood. The only shit i've never been able to get into is like emo or john mayer type stuff. I don't feel love that way, it doesn't resonate with me. Some RNB about love does though.
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I don't see this as you having a girl give up. You maintained frame and then you decided to leave. She followed you to avoid losing you because of your hard work maintaining frame.
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It sounds like you're working on it - understand that most of this just takes time, self awareness, and hard work
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Self-awareness is the first step to defeating any behavior you don't like. You started the journey by admitting this is apart of who you are. Instead of hating it - accept it first and foremost. No change can happen while you still hate yourself. Hate will lead to frustration and depression. A few options: You could try Al Anon or CODA meetings, which revolve around defeating this type of behavior by building self-awareness. Be aware that these meetings also have a lot of non-trp slant to them. …
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If you haven't dated and fucked a few girls since her, then go focus on that.
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goddamn dude, no wonder - get your diet in order. YOu need to eat like motherfucking goku go to /r/gainit
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Are you eating enough? You're saying that you can no longer add 2.5lbs (or whatever in grams) to your lifts and complete the routine?
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does BJJ cover striking, or is it all groundwork? While obviously common knowledge is that fights go to the ground - that seems to ignore the fact that most self defense situations I've personally experienced on the street is vs multiple opponents or a much bigger person where going to the ground would be a bad idea. That's why I've heard many people who are casual (read: not going to compete) suggest Krav Maga, Karate, and Boxing as the best self defense systems. You're just learning to block, …
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Intense and regular inner dialogue with yourself that is supportive and affirming about the things we can't help, while being tough and honest about the things we can help.
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If you feel empathy, you're not a psychopath. The Dark Triad is always on a scale unless you're 100% clinically diagnosed x,y,z
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You didn't actually ask a question
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To be fair, plenty of TRP and PUA people are bullshitting themselves too. It's one thing to learn the correct responses, it's another to do the hard mental work to internalize and change who you are. I would go so far as to say for many men it's simply unattainable to expect to go from a true 100% beta male and transition into a true alpha. Childhood patterns are difficult to change. In fact, Omegas have a much better chance because they can transition from a decades long monk mode and realize t…
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Honestly, I'm not THAT concerned about herpes. In my opinion is sort of the "price of doing business" Just curious, so you never tell girls but eventually a LTR might find out. How do you cross that bridge if you've previously implied you don't get them. "I didn't know I had it" comes to mind as most people are asymptomatic. Also - What's your stance on oral sex? I personally love giving and receiving it.
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Do you have family? You may want to lean on them for support. Also, some relationships simply fall apart. Blaming yourself is not worth it at this stage. Why don't you have friends?
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Rough man, sorry to hear that. Focus on just moving things forward: getting a lawyer, keeping your life mostly together, etc. Don't worry about the pain and why yet - you have time in the future to analyze, grieve, etc. The central thing here is to protect your interests and treat this woman as the enemy now. She has chosen her own way, apart from you. You can no longer trust her word, especially about the divorce/assets/money etc.
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Honestly I sometimes feel like the "only used for logistics" rule is for guys that don't know how to talk to women. Texting is a tool, juts like anything else. Use it well and it works wonders. If you suck at it and it fucks you over then obviously don't use it.
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So you're saying I shouldn't spend 15 minutes de-pedaling two dozen roses for my standard 5 minutes before I blow my load?!
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I don't want her at my place right now since I'm in the process of a move so I just said "let's throw those on your bed tomorrow night" (we have a date planned already) Will report back for future searches
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I feel like taking credit would backfire and just not be authentic to me. It could be funny for the right type of personality. Ignore it seems like failing the shit-test, IMO
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Does that mean you just don't have much of a sex drive?
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I guess on my deathbed I won't be thinking "I'm really glad my life was really uncomplicated" Shit gets messy, things get fucked up, to me that's okay...so then the question is are you limiting yourself needlessly by simply trying to avoid "complications" Besides, a truly TRP relationship can be remarkably "simple"
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...are you serious?
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the fact that you even care about being "in the game" with a girl you've never met and already gave you a bogus excuse tells me you are clinging to scarcity mentality. talk to her in a few weeks, in the mean time spin other plates.
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I should have clarified in the OP, but she was acting flirty with her tone, body language (turned towards me, suggestive smirk and eyebrow raise when she said it). earlier that day she invited me to eat lunch with her, and she consistently sends me chats throughout the day with videos/funny stories. I believe she's probing to see if she's interested in me. Also - you're right that it's rude (flirty or not) but I think it's actually her sort of crude attempt at flirting otherwise I would've just …
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So simple. Thank you.
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appreciate the measured response. "Next her" is basically worthless answer.
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It's one thing to hang around, it's another to be flirty or try to play cute though, right? I mean I've had girlfriends who are part of the conversation without seeming flirty.
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I'm balding fast. I've gotten more ass since going bald than I did at 20 with a full head of hair. Shave it, who cares if you're deformed. Power and confidence come from within.
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Controlling how your emotions make you act isn't the same as not feeling them. Of course a breakup will make you upset if you liked the girl. But an alpha wont beg them to come back, and will understand that all things end for a reason and that in no time he'll be back with another cool girl (if he chooses) or will enjoy the single bachelor life for a while.
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Disagree with the last bit, but will definitely keep your analysis in mind. IMO it's about her insecurity when she's with me. She tries to occasionally remind me other guys find her attractive, but it reads very hollow and so easy to spot when shes doing it. She is in love with me, she is simply trying to maintain some semblance of power in a very one-sided relatoinship.
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Exactly. The object is to give her a chance to say yes in a way that doesn't make her feel like shit about herself. If she says no to that, then she's just not interested which is fine, but the way you set things up she HAD to say no.
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This is precisely mate guarding. You are disallowing a behavior specifically to prevent her from being around other guys. Y'all can hand wring all fucking night, but this is mate guarding through and through. He was vague about it and trying to make it sound like her choice, but in the end she will feel controlled/unhappy. She will probably lie about it too. The only thing OP can do in a situation like this is base trust on her past behavior. Has she ever given him a reason to not trust? Okay, t…
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cool enjoy your HR visit and public shaming. OP ignore fuckwits telling you to game a chick at work. Laugh off her bullshit, throw a few jabs her way when you can, and otherwise just ignore her.
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evry single AWALT box checked lol y is this story so common tho?
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You don't need to build comfort. You need to stop wasting time on chicks that require this barrier to be overcome. What kind of comfort does the chick need to go to coffee with you? If she is reticent and hesitant, next.
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