So. I'm 25, and in a LTR of 1 year. All started great, i was the alpha, fucked every single day, she said i made her a nymph and so on. Fast forward to now, nothing nymph about her, no initiating to sex and there is usually a couple of weeks between.

I fell like beta in the relationship, we've had discussions about me not doing my chores in the house. Cleaning, dusting, all that shit, and she has actually used alle the house-work as an excuse not to have sex, because as she says " She is stressed " of all the things she has to do in the house.

I started doing some of the chores, and it did help in a way, that she was happier, but not in the bed.

I give her gifts and compliments, while she buys stuff for the house, which she again uses the excuse "Things we need, so it stress me less" She is kinda OCD with cleaning, and i think it's out of control. I've tried to put my foot down, but everytime she says " No, i'm to embarresed to have company," and bl.a bl.a. Ohh, and btw. the mess she make, is okay, because as she says, that's in every house, but as soon it's something in the kitchen, in the sink and dust, it's hell.

I have a feeling, that i currently love her more, and have more feelings for her, than she has for me, and that needs to be changed. I need to step up, become more alpha, but i really find it hard on where to start, and where the line is between an alpha, and an asshole, she doesn't want to live with.

Couple of facts:

We moved to a city in Denmark, that is with similar distance to both our families, but she'd already stayed there for two years, had some friends and different things. I had nothing. I have a lot of things to do on my computer, my sports-website, that i own, so i do like to sit there a lot, which has also been a complaint for her.

I'm rarely out of the house, always avaliable, and that is a problem. But i really like being at home, and doing work on the computer.

I played football (soccer) twice a week and matches in weekends, and i workout at home. I've gained around 6-7 kgs since we started dating, and that is ofc shit. I'm starting to loss that weight again, and that is the first step ahead to a new, stronger me/alpha.

But i need guidence. How do i do the dread game, without it seems like i'm trying to make her jaloux on purpose? I have a tons of girlfriends, that i could easily fuck, but she doesn't know that the girls i'm talking to, want's me, she thinks they are just friends (which they still are, but they want more) Some of them i fucked before dating her, and she doesn't know that. But i couldn't just tell her, that all these random girls wants to fuck me. That would seem inappropriate and wierd, right?

I want to spend more quality time with my girlfriend, which is not just sitting in the couch watching netflix. I want to go on vacations with her, fuck her brains out and more, but it's like she'd rather do the fun things with her friends. I've had the "talk" with her, why it's always me who initiate everything we do, and she's just like " But i don't know, what we could do? " Or, we just think different things is fun"

It annoys the shit out of me. She's my fucking girlfriend, and she should want to do whatever the fuck i want to. She should want to skip plans with her friends, because she'd rather spend time with me.

Please help me with some guidiance. Maybe some links to a similiar problem, or to some things i should read up on. I want to become more alpha, like in the old days, but i find it difficult to find the line.