I just wanted to get some feedback on this date I went on. It’s the 2nd I’ve been on since swallowing the pill. For reference, the first date when wildly well at first. Sparks flew getting drinks and she excitedly agreed to come back to my place. I took my time escalating, but she pushed it farther faster, and I ended up not being able to get hard out of nerves/porn ed. She ghosted, I developed a mini oneitis, but that was months ago. I’ve mostly been in monk mode since then.
So onto this date. I matched with a girl on tinder, got her number and immediately set up a time/place. I text to confirm the day of, she says it’s still on but mentions we’ve barely talked. I ignore and just hope she shows up. 15 min before we’re supposed to meet, she texts me and asks if it’s still on. I’m on my way at this point, so I say yeah. She says she’ll be a little late. She ends up showing up half an hour late. I contemplated leaving when she was 20 min late, but stuck it out due to being trapped at my parents all summer with minimal opportunities (scarcity, I know).
Date goes fine, no sparks or anything this time, but I invite her back to my place to “meet my dog.” She says why not. We hop in my car and drive to my place. I specifically chose this night because my parents were out of town for the first and only stretch of the summer after being here for almost 3 months. My younger brother was still there, and he’s weird as hell/didn’t gtfo when he needed to so that didn’t help the vibe. Anyway, after pointing out my dog we go in my room and I turn on some animal documentary. I only have this one single chair in my room besides my bed, so we both get on it and I kinda awkwardly hold her. But she’s receptive to the kino, so eventually I go in for the kiss.
She’s surprised at first, but doesn’t stop me so I ramped it up to a makeout. After a few seconds she pulls back and says “woa calm down.” This was my first time getting turned down like this, but I try not to act too butthurt and “do you not like kissing?” She said she does and we move onto something else while watching the animals.
I stopped trying to escalate after that, but she stayed pretty late till around 1. She’s ready to leave at that point, so I drive her back to her car. But before we get in the car in my driveway, I say “stop” then kiss her and makeout a bit. This time she doesn’t reject it, but I make sure to pull back first.
On the way back to her car, she gets a “ding” on her phone which I recognize to be the tinder notification. She says “oh that’s embarrassing” then I say I know that sound well. Should have just played dumb, but she asked how many matches I have, how many girls I’ve met on Tinder and she asks when was my last/how long were my relationships. To these, I leave it at “I don’t kiss and tell.” She laughed but the mood kinda changed after that. She asks when I’m leaving for school, so I tell her. This seemed like she wanted to point out that we could never actually be in a relationship.
We get to her car, she says thanks for night. I decide not to go for the goodbye kiss even though I think she was waiting for it, so she gives me a hug and I say cya. She texted me that night when she was home cuz it turns out she lived like 45 minutes away.
A couple days go by and the next day is the last day I have the house, so I text her “Hey I’m making fish tomorrow, wanna help?” (we both like seafood) She has on read receipts and I see she read it immediately but she doesn’t respond till a couple hours later with “what time?” then when I give her the time she says “I’ll let you know tomorrow if I can make it” I didn’t hear from her so it’s done. All good, just wanted to share my FR and get some advice on what I could do better.
Thoughts?
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