First dates ends with making out. Never getting second dates.

Coppal · 2020-09-24T22:20:00+00:00

This has happened to me quite a few times, kind of mind boggling and demotivating tbf, and it does leave you thinking wtf happened... Honestly, when you're trying to kill the single game, you have to close your mind to all the possibilities of 'why', there's too many variables, girls going back to BFs etc. The only thing in your control is how well you game it, keeping the mystery there, confidence, working on your looks etc, just focus on that and keep moving forward

K3M1K4L · 2020-09-24T22:27:52+00:00

Because they know they can fuck you at any moment.

In the moment they are down but if you reach out to have a second date and don’t allow her the time to wonder, how can she keep those feelings. We aren’t attracted to what we can have easily. Women aren’t logical man

watstherate · 2020-09-24T22:37:45+00:00

I used to have this problem, this isn’t an immediate solution but the problem went away after I became more attractive by lifting and getting cosmetic surgery(not advocating for surgery just saying what worked for me)

Short term solution I would say go for it on the first date. Strike while the irons hot

bachbozo · 2020-09-24T22:38:53+00:00

only call, you're reduced to pixels when you text

Emervila · 2020-09-24T22:43:14+00:00

There's no one explanation but one for each girl. The fact you are dating this much and get to first base means there's good frame.

The only real or possible advice is to increase as much you can those first dates, the more girls the more chances to get a second date. That's the way women are doing it nowadays, they "try a guy on a date" but they are also trying several ones and filtering.

falecf4 · 2020-09-24T23:12:44+00:00

Could it be that they are expecting sex and you aren't quite getting them there?

HurricaneHugues · 2020-09-25T01:21:31+00:00

Is a kiss all you can go for dude? You should be trying to fuck

Andrew54321 · 2020-09-25T01:23:23+00:00

If you kiss, be ready to fuck. If you fail to close, you’re all lips and no dick.

yacrazu · 2020-09-25T05:32:39+00:00

https://blackdragonblog.com/2015/03/01/5-easy-ways-to-get-a-second-date/

"Don’t kiss her on the first date. Kino, sex talk, but don’t kiss.

This is huge. I’ve talked about this before both here and on my podcasts. Today I’m going to be as clear as I can about this.

On a first date, unless you know for 99% certainly that you are getting laid on that date, if you kiss a woman, your odds of ever having sex with her on any subsequent date go DOWN.

I have empirical data in my own spreadsheets to back this up, and every guy I’ve given this advice to has reported back that it did make a positive difference. On a first date, kino her, and sex talk her, but do NOT actually kiss her.

If you kiss her, you destroy some of the sexual tension. You also boost post-date ASD and buyer’s remorse. “OMG I don’t even know this guy’s last name and I made out with him!” All bad.

It might feel nice to kiss a woman on a first date, especially when she’s really hot and seems really receptive. But I promise it won’t be nice when she blows you off for the second date, or agrees to a second date but gets pissy when you try to escalate to sex.

I know this may not make sense to your logical male brain, but don’t kiss women on first dates. Trust me, you’ll get laid way more if you don’t kiss. Touch her, have a sexual vibe, talk about sex, keep the date to just 60 minutes, then get the hell out of there. If you want more detail on first-date technique, go here.

Save the kissing (and sex) for the second date."

michael1962-01 · 2020-09-25T06:53:17+00:00

You are bad at escalation.

Title	First dates ends with making out. Never getting second dates.
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