First shit test after a month: Thoughts?

fatgymrat · 2016-09-03T22:41:06+00:00

if this was a woman without kids, fair enough. to play devils advocate, imagine being a single father with a small child, and you wanna go on a date. you cant just drop everything for this woman. same applies for her.

if she did dump off her kid anytime a man wanted to take her out, and there are women who do, shed be a shitty mother. maybe shes not. maybe she couldnt get a relative to look after it, or she cant afford a baby sitter, or the childs sick, or.....

in hindsight, it would have been better to go with the simple 'no worries'. instead you seem slightly pissy in that text.

youll always be second to her child.

deci-mator · 2016-09-03T22:41:41+00:00

Single mother. You know those come with baggage. Best way to handle shit tests is to stay unfazed and default to an abundance mentality

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-03T22:24:12+00:00

She then sends me a very, very long text about being a single mother

I stopped reading here.

No single mothers, period, full stop, the end.

nastynickdr · 2016-09-03T23:53:49+00:00

You talked too much. Seemed butthurt.

Next time just a "no problem" and dont contact her until she contacts you.

JvSOUL · 2016-09-03T21:53:01+00:00

The trick about Shirt tests is to be indifferent to the test. She can't make the plans?... K Something came up?... K Second thoughts?.....K

A "K" would've sufficed then you should've soft Ghosted until she contacts you back. You already tried to make plans, don't do it again cuz Once is enough. Always keep it balanced, she plans, you plan, take turns.

Title	First shit test after a month: Thoughts?
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Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	September 3, 2016 9:34 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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