I know this is a bit of a field report, but I have questions about the scene so based on that I am posting it on askTRP instead of TRP

Me and my mate joined up with 3 others (2 female, 1 male) for some drinking/food. I know the other male because of earlier meet ups, but the females tagged a long (they are friends). Girl A is 3/10, nothing interesting. Girl B is interesting, 6/10 big breasts. Has some interesting attitude/behaviour now.

Random talk during food/drinks. I noticed that her attitude towards others are distant/bored/vullgar and towards me calm/warm during several topics. She even actively decided to sit right next to me when we took our seats. Any way, eventually the topic hits about roller coasters. Girl B mentions how she wants to ride a specific coaster in nearby location but her friend (girl A) is scared. So here I started paying attention to the setting. This is potential field experience and first time Game opportunity. I have to start somewhere right? Even if I completely mess up or not entirely act according to the side-bar advise, I didn't care. Got to give this a go.

So I didn't even ask or suggest. I merely said: "Funny, I was planning on checking out that coaster. Join me and afterwards we'll hit a local pub for drinks". She suddenly perked up. Body language changed from slumped/bored during other conversations into wide open eyes + sitting straight up, facing towards me. She says: "Really? I would love that!". I smiled and responded, "Right, then you and me do this". She agreed with excitement and returned the smile.

Now comes an interesting part which I am wondering how I handled it. After more talking with the group, I noticed from the corner of my eye that she is playing with her hair and glancing towards me several times. I didn't look at her. Just kept talking with the 2 other males or listening. She then suddenly out the blue asks me whether I can sing. I said: Yea I can. Then she asks me if I am fancy for karaoke after the pub. Note: She asks me if I am want to. So here is my thought, this girl is extending our plans. I don't consider this manipulation of my own plans. Plus, karaoke is convenient place to escalate and apply my first experiment with Kino.

Check, so I just settled in an informal fashion a date. She asks me when and what time. So side-bar material popped into my mind. Plan everything and logistics and do it back-wards. As in, the final goal is ONS. So in my mind it went like (Reversed) ONS -> Karaoke -> Pub -> Coaster. We would meet up in two days. I set the time, location and exact details. I also only texted her logistics. Nothing else. She agreed fully to everything. Not even tried to bend time/location or activity order.

Fast forwarding two days forward, 3 hours before the meeting time. Fuck, It is raining. Like quite hard. No way we're going to be able to ride the coaster. She texts me: "It is raining". I don't immediately respond, after 15-30min or so message back: "Ya, seems so. It isn't time yet." I then shut up.

Forwarding 1 hour before meeting. Raining isn't stopping. She texts again what to do. I say: "we go pubbing instead then karaoke".

Forwarding 15min before meeting: I am in the train, going to the station where we agreed to meet up. She suddenly texts me following: "We're already here, looking at stores". And in my mind I am like we're!?. So I text her back the same word as thought. She then replies: "Yea me and friend A".

My mind just shattered and I was left extremely confused. She had brought Girl A with her. She didn't even ask me at any moment. I collected my thoughts, as a newbie how do I respond to this. Obviously I shouldn't argue or start to text things like why did you bring her.

Now I read around normally that you should fuck it all and cancel or reschedule. People called it man up and tell straight forward. I probably should've fucking cancel this but I decided to find out more about this. Plus this is a field experiment for me, rather fail multiple times than quit and not learn a thing, right?

I responded with the following: "Why, was she scared to be all alone in a big city like this?" She replies: "Hahaha, she just wanted to come along for the pub."

So I am thinking, okay. Just for the pub. Meaning that the Karaoke is still a 1on1. Still potential Kino experiment there to escalate and then change locations. So I text: "Right, so afterwards you and me Karaoke"

She first texts me "Ya". Then a minute later she texts "Idk if she wants to tho, lemme ask."

Okay, at this point I already knew and was 1000% sure that she flaked on me. The whole plan was blown up and left in dust. There was nothing to salvage about this any more. As a foolish attempt I text back: "No need" in which she replies: "Do you not want her to come?" which I finally said: "I am hanging out with you and not her". As in stating: I am your date, not hers. Her last replies were "Fuk, I already asked. Sorry. What do I do?"

I stopped giving all fucks at this point. Didn't respond to that. Neither did she continue to text. Was radio silence until we actually met. I did went on with the pub + karaoke because self-enjoyment. And seeing if she was still flaking or perhaps isolation was possible. It wasn't. Game over.

So questions/confusions:

  • Did I correctly set and planned this date?

  • Validation: She definitely flaked right? Even though two days ago her attitude was willing.

  • Her suggesting/asking me to extend the date with Karaoke and me accepting it, was that good or bad?

  • What should I have done with the last scenario, when she flaked out by bringing her friend.

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