[FR] What went wrong ?

MrBowlfish · 2018-01-19T01:05:17+00:00

Sometimes when you game some girls too strongly they catch that "player" vibe from you and if they have experience with men they think "oh he just wants to smash and dash" and then they reject you first because remember sex comes easy to girls. You probably didn't seem genuinely into her as a human being. That would be my assessment here.

TheAverageOutlier · 2018-01-19T01:06:55+00:00

There could many reasons for the rejection, but what i think is more important here is your mindset.

To me it seems like you didn't have outcome independence. Even from the way you write i can tell that the whole time your goals was to kiss her (or more later obv.). From the moment you saw her till the very end you made it your mission.

Instead what you want to be doing is enjoying yourself, having fun and not focusing all your effort on getting into her mouth. Take her to the dance floor, enjoy yourself, playful kino. The iois should continue to come and when its appropriate you escalate.

Girls can sense when you actions are a result of trying to attract her. The more genuine you are with your interaction the better. Make it fun for yourself, not for her.

TakeEverything · 2018-01-19T02:54:42+00:00

It's push-pull, not push push push push push push push pull.

JerryMullin1978 · 2018-01-19T00:56:46+00:00

Ask yourself, is your behavior pretty much always the same? If so and other girls don’t have a problem, then she just changed her mind. The only other thing I can think of is you rushed the escalation. If so, just remember to take your time and enjoy it. Don’t worry about the end game.

LeRoIrOuGe · 2018-01-19T01:45:39+00:00

Mate... You did shit starting from line 3.

"Kino then Kiss on cheek"

ON CHEEK? Aim for the sky! Head for the lips!

"then Hugged her then grabbed her and took her to the dance floor to dance."

Again, she was clearly into you, why wasting time dancing? Isolate for deep make out.

"When I grabbed her ass she seemed offended in a playful way"

Of course! You didn't even kiss her and you grabbed her ass? What's wrong with you mate?

"so I just led her back to her table"

She's not your mommy, why are you following her?

You should sit on the corner facing the wall to understand how badly you played this.

Ofc, this is all hindsight, but I suggest you keep track of your various approaches: divide them into categories (success and failure) and analyse them well detailed like you just did. Try to find similarities to identify where is the smell coming from.

But well done for the intense eye contact and approach: some of my friends can't even understand eye contact, imagine understanding the game...

[deleted] · 2018-01-19T02:55:56+00:00

I think your problem here was you weren't fully congruent and she could sense that.

Strong eye contact & body language should be your natural frame not a "technique".

redhawkes · 2018-01-19T19:20:17+00:00

If you don't know the phrase "isolate, escalate", now you know. Use it next time to prevent ASD.

Also be aloof and outcome independent, you overinvested in her.

Title	[FR] What went wrong ?
Author	IStriveForRedemption
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	January 19, 2018 12:44 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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