I have a fantastic plate that currently has a beta boyfriend who provides for her financially and socially, but she has been seeing me on the side for the past five months. The problem is she goes back and forth on wanting to stop, but then almost immediately goes right back to me. This has gone on and off for the past five months, but a couple days ago she really made the case of us not being sexual anymore and just going to friend mode. I feel the main hesitancy is because she doesn't want to get caught and have the repercussions. I feel like the other times were more shit tests for frame. I'm trying to understand what constitutes a shit test versus a plate not working for you anymore. She said this Monday night, but we were at a pub tonight and she was sitting next to me touching my leg under the table and such with her boyfriend sitting near.

I understand I could find somebody else, but she's pretty awesome and super hot. I am just curious if this is her way of seeing how much my frame will go to make sure I'm worth the efforts of her extra, or if this is her legit saying I want to stop. Thanks!