Ex LTR of over 3 years. Broke up a few weeks ago, on/off contact due to logistical reasons (she works at my gym).

Definitely had oneitis for her, and you could say I still do because why am I still trying to fuck her?

We have great chemistry and she’s my body type so fucking would be fun. I get IOI’s from her whenever we interact, but she’s done with me.

I’ve exhausted all options to hangout but with each time it was clear that I wanted to get back with her (I know I know) but now I don’t. Her switch is clearly off so any getting back together vibes she got would illicit a decline.

So my question is this... I want to ask her to chill, and I don’t know if I should do it as covert as possible and play it off like we’re just hanging out with no expectations then when she comes over kino and escalate? Or just go in guns blazing tell her I’m horny and this is just for sex no strings attached?

She has made it clear in the past that she doesn’t want to hangout and “pretend everything is fine”...

I’m leaning more towards overt because then this shows her I have no ulterior motives I just want to fuck, but she might perceive that as me lying about wanting to be with her in the past and result in her not trusting me enough to meet up.

I’m going to be OI, game other girls, and lift regardless - just trying to get the best strategy to smash.