Game is Unavoidable, Now What?

savagedealer · 2017-07-25T01:16:41+00:00

You don't cherish vagina you cherish being in love with a woman and hoping she loves you back to fix all your emotional baggage. Until you stop looking to be fixed emotionally by a woman you'll always have this problem : learn to stop falling in love so easy for all the wrong reasons or suffer in agonizing silence . Good luck brother

Frigzy · 2017-07-25T08:04:53+00:00

You're still stuck with the idea that every human interaction is personal.

You bump someone on public transport and he freaks out? You take it personally and think it's your -personal- fault for being rude or sloppy.

You talk to a girl who rejects you almost instantly? You take it personally and think who you are as a person just isn't 'worthy' of her attention.

You go do a job interview and get denied the job? You take it personally and think that you are simply not capable of doing what the job requires.

All of this stems from a false perception that everything you experience in the world happens because of who you are, or more specifically, who your ego perceives your own existance to be. As if everything that happens to or around you has a direct connection to your sense of self.

This is simply false. The guy on the bus was simply getting fucked over all day and you happened to be the final drop. The chick had a bf and didn't feel like having a conversation. The guy who didn't hire you simply didn't like the way you looked at him when you made eye contact the first time.

None of these things are personal. They are however emotional. And it is definitely possible to improve the emotions you induce in other people by learning how and putting it into practice. Body language, voice, eye contact, touch, ... All of these things come into play. Once you get better at them you will notice that other people don't care about who you are, they care about how you make them feel. Once you realize that, it will become clear how incredibly small the personal part of the interaction really is. Even in a longer relationship, the bulk of the evaluation will be done by the feels you can mutually generate with each other. You could theoretically take all of these emotion based interactions personally, but it's never going to be in your own interest.

The key to becoming more centered and less swayed by emotion based interactions is to ground yourself in honest and healthy self confidence. Realize that interactions with other people are very, very seldomly personal and that they should not have an influence on your sense of self worth. Be your own parameter for self worth. Improve upon who you are and what your capacities are. Slowly but surely become a better version of yourself. By doing so you will grow your natural confidence as well, which in turn will help you with inducing beneficial emotional interactions.

Once you get there, once you live life for you and you alone, you will be ready and confident to share yourself on a more personal level with someone. After all, you are confident and grounded. You know that even if it becomes personal, you will have an ocean of self worth to share, without becoming dependant. Even then, you will need a balance. The bulk of your interaction will still be emotional, but at least your emotional wellbeing will not be linked to the perceived personal interactions with others.

meh613 · 2017-07-25T03:12:16+00:00

You should have high standards -- to match your high SMV.

Title	Game is Unavoidable, Now What?
Author	CRGRO
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	July 25, 2017 1:11 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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