I'm 35 years old, successful (300k/year), good looking, physically fit, etc.

Two friends, one now married and also 35, another 22 and single. Neither are successful. Neither physically have manly physique (not a lot of facial hair, not fat but not fit).

Both are naturals when it comes to women (although the 35 year is now married with kids, so he doesn't game as frequently). Qualities of these two individuals contrasted to myself I've noticed are:

Passion/Confidence: it's all b.s., as when words come to actions, they are not successful. The one would talk about his photography but his photos always turned out blurry. The other about his snowboarding, but he physically can only last 1-3 runs on the slopes. So, all talk, no walk, and the women buy it.

Non-judgmental: Women are sluts and I/we need to get over that. These guys don't care or look at life that way. They are natural, so slut doesn't exist. Beasts don't know the term slut, only humans/betas do. Alpha/beasts smell all pussy without judgment.

Fun: Through mostly linguistics, these guys know how to make a girl have a good time. I have witnessed on occasion they do something physically fun (sledding for example) but often a beer and a conversation is enough.

Having a Good Mom:. This one might be coincidence, but both had good moms in their life. Mine died when I was 10. My guess is that these guys potentially had more exposure communicating with women, while I remember communicating very internally or bluntly (no b.s./ to the point). Even today I find most communication pointless, only actions matter. However when I join in on the mundane discussion, women get wet.

Open/confident Communication: when I broke up with my last LTR and quit drinking (age 32), I went deep into beta mode. I'd say something is gay or make a sexual comment, and women and men would get offended. So I removed a lot of offensive vocabulary and went even more beta in observation of others. What I found was not the words were offensive, but the frame of communication. I can now say the same offensive things without being offensive.

Escalation/Kino/Moment: not sure why, but I choke during escalation. I always get stuck when it's time to take them home. Seems to do with fear of failure (rejection and performance). What's fucked is I am good in bed, have a big dick, etc but have a mental block that thinks I won't be enough. I've heard of guys with little dicks and shit in bed have more confidence than me. In any case, these guys always manage to keep progress and stay in the moment; whereas I miss opportunities due to above.

These two guys with lower SMV, have perceived higher SMV through the above. They have slept with 100+ women whereas mine is still in the teens. I've observed people with even less SMV than these two, but game trumps all.

The women I have been with have all reciprocated heavily during the escalation phase where I typically choke. If a women wants to be "taken," I fail 100% of the time.