Gay thoughts, need advice

TheWizardofBaghdad · 2017-04-22T23:28:54+00:00

Don't let it fuck with you too much. Everyone is on the sliding scale of sexuality of gay to straight. It is pretty common to get aroused by gay porn etc. I have a girlfriend who I fuck multiple times a day but I can still get turn on by some gay stuff. You're normal it's just a phase you are going through and you need to figure this stuff out for yourself. Try meditating to clear your thoughts, don't fixate on the idea

killcharlie · 2017-04-23T01:45:58+00:00

I went through the same thing when I was younger. What I can tell you from experience is that what you're feeling is normal, but probably unhealthily exacerbated by porn consumption, masturbation, and a pathological obsession with sexual activity in general.

Do a 90 day "reboot" where you don't masturbate, look at porn, or have an orgasm. You WILL be changed afterwards.

If you still feel homosexual urges after that, download Grindr, find a reasonably attractive guy who seems relatively normal, and meet up for a hook up. See how it makes you feel. Approach it with a "fuck it" attitude, like a scientific experiment on yourself. If you feel disgusted with yourself afterwards or during, congratulations, you're probably straight and you won't have to worry about it any more. If you enjoy it, well then maybe do it again just to be sure, and learn to accept yourself.

But from how you described yourself I'm guessing that you've probably just created an unhealthy "thought loop" in your head, an obsession that makes you almost pathologically aroused by gay thoughts and content, when in reality it's against your nature. I'm led to believe this because the way you describe your reactions to girls screams "straight guy" to me, and this problem mirrors one that I had myself.

If you ask me, this kind of nonsense happens to us because we are a generation that went through puberty with internet pornography, hypersexualized from the moment we started becoming aware of our sexuality. There has to be some kind of psychological damage associated with that, and I think I've felt it myself.

Best of luck to you, and if you need someone to talk to, I'm here.

EstusKnight · 2017-04-23T13:43:26+00:00

You've probably never done a reboot of no PMO for 90 days.

I would say you have porn induced HOCD.

PIeight · 2017-04-23T02:44:44+00:00

There's nothing wrong with liking dick if that's what you like. Just make sure you aren't skewing your sexual preferences with porn because that can fuck with you in a whole lot of ways. Some people like to flip shit over being gay or bisexual, but there's a reason a lot of animals fuck each other in the ass.

zopiro · 2017-04-23T01:44:03+00:00

You are not gay. There is no such thing as a person who is inherently gay, as homosexuality is a matter of conduct, not essence. Some people are overall more tempted into homosexuality than others, and of those, some will give in, while others will resist. Gay people are just people who continuously fail to resist temptation.

Being tempted to kill someone does not make you a murderer.

Seen as you are sex starved, you might be tempted by a bunch of weird shit, such as having sex with men, weird porn, watching animals have sex, or whatever. This is normal. Do not give in. Just try to focus on improving yourself and meeting a girl to pair bond. Promiscuity will eventually make you see homosexuality as normal, as once you fuck 100 girls, what new ground is there to break?

We live in a time period in which people attempt to turn homosexuality into the norm, and into a strong identity marker. It is none of those things. Gay people deserve our love and compassion as much as any others, but we should never praise anyone for acting homosexual, as it is a mistake. It makes men weak, as it deprives them of virility, and as a consequence society becomes feminized and prone to being dominated by a more virile culture. The result is, unfortunately, Islam.

Trust me on this one: you are not gay. You're just a young man being bombarded by mixed messages. Look to the past, into tradition, for therein lies the truth. It is a good thing to be a man.

throwawaymoray · 2017-04-23T19:52:06+00:00

Don't fret about it. Those are simply intrusive thoughts. They do not mean you are gay or bissexual or whatever. They also don't mean you need to "experiment" to find out about anything, just like having intrusive thoughts about eating poop does not mean you should gnaw on a turd to "find out if that's your thing." Just acknowledge them and move on. Realize your impulses don't have power over you unless you give it to them. Don't feed them, by indulging on what they compel you to do, but also don't fight them, making them into a bigger deal than they really are. Just distract yourself, disarming the trigger by changing your response to the stimulus. For a host of reasons, it'd be best if you just quit masturbation-- at the very least certainly pornography-- altogether.

Other than that, there are a few things you need to understand.

First, men have been having sex with men and women have been having sex with women since the dawn of time, but this whole "gay" thing is a very modern invention, less than a century old. In ancient Greece and Rome, men openly had sex with each other while being married with women and raising a family. This was no cause for drama or confusion, but merely a cultural arrangement. It didn't mean they were fundamentally "homosexual", "bisexual", or anything. It just meant they got off on having sex with other men, like one might get off on sticking their dick on a fleshlight or a cantaloupe or a car exhaust. It's simply an impulse in the pursuit of pleasure. Give it the wrong kind of attention and you might find yourself obsessed by it, unable to achieve pleasure in any other way. And yet this will not mean anything fundamental about you. It's just that, as concluded by Will Durant in light of his study of Aristotle, we become what we repeatedly do. But we are not our impulses. We are something else, much greater than any of our inclinations.

But this is not to say that, since it's all just "pleasure", it is harmless. Obviously some forms of pleasure are more wholesome than others. Christians identified homosexual sex as a sin-- a misuse of the natural order-- and, as such, deleterious to the moral fabric of society. It's interesting to note that, even though Rome was notoriously promiscuous and "sex positive" even by today's standards, it had no such thing as "gay marriage." The first man to get officially married to another man was the emperor Nero. Since Rome didn't last much after that, maybe the Christians were onto something. And this is not to say that gay marriage caused the fall of Rome, obviously. Rather, it was one of the many symptoms of widespread moral degeneracy, a warning sign for societal collapse.

And this is exactly why it's being pushed by the Left since the past century. It used to be that men had sex with other men, sometimes even developing emotional attachments (which is only natural, since, contrary to what the sex-positive crowd wants people-- particularly women-- to believe, sex is always an emotional involvement), but still went on to live lives fully immersed in the greater culture, getting married, having kids, contributing to society at large.

This came to a halt when the Left planted their flag in this area. Now, getting off on homosexual sex while still being married and having kids meant living a lie; not in regards to their marriage, but in regards to themselves. These people, made to believe they were "born this way", were then alienated by the Left into their own group, their own culture. No longer immersed in the greater culture, but concerned only with the advancement of themselves, in an adversarial relationship with society at large. It's just the classic divide and conquer strategy.

Now, if you so much as go to a urologist's appointment, get your dick touched or your butt poked and get even the beginnings of a chubbs-- WHOA-- stop the presses! Am I gay?! Am I living a lie?! WHO AM I??? What a load of crock.

Realize that these are the same people who spent decades saying there's no such thing as gendered things-- girls should play with trucks and boys should play with dolls!-- and now demand sex-reassignment surgery when a girl paints a mustache on her face or a boy walks around in his mother's heels.

They are in the business of sowing confusion. Their goal is to uproot the West, and its Christian heritage. Don't fall for their traps. There's nothing to it.

Second, there's this thing called hedonistic adaption. The more you do something, the more used you get to it, and the more intensely you will need it to get the same kick out of it in the future. It works the same for everything. You've probably experienced this with porn. At first, you can cum with boobs. Then you get used to it and need to see some cooch. Then some softcore sex. Then, hardcore sex. Anal. BDSM. Watersports. And so on and so forth. You ended up on homosexual sex. Whatever. The mechanism is always the same: we need increasingly extreme stimulus to get the kind of pleasure we are looking for.

This is slavery.

Retake control. Take responsibility over what you feed your mind-- you can never get it out!--, over what you do to your body. Be the master of your domain. I know it's hard, almost impossible, to forgo pornography. But as the same time as it's easier than ever to get your eyes on some naked people doing kinky stuff, it's also never been easier to get the help you need to overcome this. You just need to embrace the fight--which is more against the establishment than against yourself, so it's easier.

IronMeltsinmyHands · 2017-04-23T05:04:53+00:00

Everyone has these thoughts. These have something to do with OCD. There are people who get these thoughts about children.

What is important is you ignore it and you don't let it touch you.

GreenPiller · 2017-04-23T10:11:33+00:00

You are probably bisexual. I always say if a guy starts grabbing you and you don't quickly punch him in the face then there is something funky going on.

TheRedStoic · 2017-04-23T22:45:34+00:00

Hey bro, it's like my friend says. If you're watching sex do you want a guy with a for long or a micro?

"No I want an angry powerful throbbing... Oh shit I guess I am a little gay".

Really, your submissive fantasy is only going to be fixed by exposure. Get out there and begin fucking chicks, even and especially practice girls.

BullshittingNonsense · 2017-04-23T00:51:57+00:00

I dunno but the gay porn watching is not usually done by straight men

oldredder · 2017-04-23T13:41:06+00:00

advice: you are gay

just kidding: you are bisexual. No question. Just don't lie to yourself about it and don't put yourself down about who you are, or will become because that will accomplish nothing whatsoever. Whatever it is you want eventually you can't force it or change it

tralfaz66 · 2017-04-22T22:54:07+00:00

sounds like a good question for /r/needadvice or /r/gay

Title	Gay thoughts, need advice
Author	thorwaway4reddit
Upvotes	3
Comments	19
Date	April 22, 2017 10:45 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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