Getting older and getting more nervous/concerned

Mobile_Pepper · 2018-11-19T04:19:10+00:00

going back to school gave a me huge ‘strength of purpose’, maybe explore that? plus it’s a great avenue for women/social interactions.

effyouasshole · 2018-11-19T04:47:30+00:00

Firstly, you cannot make women or a family your purpose in life. That does not lead to happiness. You need to instead follow your path of self-actualization.

You feel like your current life of working two jobs isn't giving you the progress you want. That's a clear sign that you need to switch careers. Nobody can tell you what would make you the happiest; you have to find that on your own. But its clear that change needs to happen.

If you had 10 extra hours per week to put into a hobby, what would it be?

If you had 10 extra hours per week to get started in your dream career, how would you invest it?

The bottom line is if you get a proper mission in life, and make progress in your path of self-actualization, a good wife and family will easily fall into place on its own. Otherwise, you'll be lucky to fight an uphill battle for decades...

hudson_rogue · 2018-11-19T08:22:14+00:00

Let me preface that I'm in a similar position at 25. I feel like I've fucked it... clocks ticking.

First and foremost.

You are here.

Take stock of your situation. Rate yourself in multiple areas e.g. health, work, play, social, financial.

How do you score in each area?

Read a book called "Designing your life" is where the above advice comes from and provides a nice counterpoint to hardcore monk mode.

Sorting out your fitness is a big one. A lot flows from there.

Earning more and being financially smart is crucial. This takes time and effort. Theres lots of options for earning more.

Having friends and feeling good is going to be more important than women. You'll probably want to focus on women last or the least, depending on how much of an effect loneliness and horniness has on you.

To summarize, health and money are probably the most important. But you'll have to make a judgement call on how much you can neglect a different area and for how long.

This will change from week to week, day to day as you move forward. You'll have to inuitvelty feel it and experiment. Best to be consistent with one thing and do the minimum for the others. Scale each area as you go.

Tried my best to be tangible and not too vague.

OfficerWade · 2018-11-19T09:11:10+00:00

I see guys like you all the time trying to stay young or fit in with the crowd when in reality you stand out like sore thumb.

However , I see older guys scoring young women too. From the bar to the hotel clerk. It’s all about your positive attitude. You gotta keep the end goal in front of you at all times while being able to navigate your away around rejection because it does happen, you gotta feel it.

If a girl is just being nice and you try to seduce her because she’s giving you attention she will sense your desperation and ask you to kindly crawl back in whatever hole you tried to crawl out of, if however she is leading you on to get you to go for it this is something you have to practice. It’s called flirting and what makes this fun is when you go out and chat up hot women with no intention of fucking them and lightly make each other’s Day ever so less stressful. Everyone wins.

But when you feel the primitive need to get your needs met then you have to go for it and if you get rejected just be as polite as you can and go back to whatever mode of communication you shared with this person before.

randomviper41 · 2018-11-19T16:36:25+00:00

Main point ---- Why do you think having a "hot girlfriend" will magically improve your life, if you can't be happy by yourself don't drag someone else into it, a girl should be an addition to an awesome life (if you want an LTR).

Sounds like your spreading yourself thin between 2 jobs and doing roles you do not like. Write down a list of things you actually want and are passionate about and work towards them with little daily disaplines which compound over time (e.g. weight lifting, music practise ect..).

Minor point ----- Why have a dog when you are 26, your adding financial and time strains onto yourself, what if you meet a hot girl who does not like dogs, what if a girl wants to meet you but you have no cash because your dog got ran over and you had to pay for the bills? ect..

Title	Getting older and getting more nervous/concerned
Author	covertRedOps
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	November 19, 2018 4:07 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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