about two months ago i managed to get a girl's number at the cafe she works in chinatown. ill call her redhead

i see redhead often maybe 2-3 times a week. i have alot of time. im off contract at the moment and im using the time to be social, dating , go gyms well as learn new skills so i can get better contracts. she knows that im still dating.

after getting to know each other, she knows im seeing other people. she says no problem.

one night we arrange for her to come to mine after work for 12am. she can sleep over and get to work the next day. im 20 mins by bus from her work place. she comes over late about an hour and a half (1.30am). she comes by and shows me her bag which has rose petals in it.

she explains why she was late ; one dude spilt tea on her bag the previous day, and returned it with all her stuff intact but with flower petals in it. and because she ran out of battery, (shes really dumb with directions) he walks her to my house. a 30 min walk. she shows disgust with the gesture,so shes come over and is disgusted, and i joke around saying its cute and that hes romantic. she gives head and we fuck all night.

he comes up every now and then in conversation. i joke to her that maybe you should marry him since he loves you and that way, you can get visa.

another night she comes to my house (on time) but i have arranged to meet another girl (lets call her jane) the next afternoon. jane is early and calls me. redhead ends up blowing me and fucking me to make me late. shes done this before, giving me blowjobs whilst im on the phone, stopping as i hang up and then laughs but this time she didnt hold back. i promt that im late and we leave mine.

she tells me that shes gone to visit this guy at his store, and whilst im on a date i laugh at her. one of his collegues asks him who redhead is, and he replies "thats my girlfriend". so now theyre a couple. whilst she tells me shes only with him to learn from him. they go home and they fuck. he makes breakfast (ive never done) and he makes friends with her flatmates. (i was uninterested).

we have convo about this, and i say to her why you with him if you prefer me ? she replies i want the experience, he knows his way socially and physically. but still prefers me.

after their announcement, she still fucks me. but since shes in a relationship. its harder for me to go to her house to fuck. since her flatmates know him more. as i type this, theyre playing card games as he arranged it with he flatemates. all within a week.

ive told her i like her. and shes said if you commit to me then i will commit to you, but it might be too late.

what is this situation?