Gf may be polyamorous.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2018-02-04T01:58:59+00:00

she won't do anything without asking me first

hahah Oh man.

despite assuring me she isn't attracted by another male at the moment she feels like she may be happier in a polyamourous relationship

.....

has already had sex with a female friend of her.

that was really fucking fast

This is a sinking ship, that I guarantee will end badly for you and great for her. In order to have a relationship like this you need to be exactly in the frame of mind as Patrice O'Neal. That loveable fat fuck had a frame made of titanium. You do not. Break up with her, she basically told you she wants you to be ok with her cheating on you, whether you believe or not what she said isn't the point. She wants to feel like you gave the ok to go suck and fuck whomever and you'll be there to slurp the seconds. You had your fun it's time to part.

abdada · 2018-02-04T01:50:30+00:00

Don't LTR bisexual women. Plate them and invite their girlfriends over.

It won't an interesting thing, it will be total heartbreak for you.

SirKolbath · 2018-02-04T03:37:33+00:00

Polyamory = "I'm not really into you any more and I want to be a slut, but I want to pretend like I'm a good girl because eventually I'm going to want to settle down and I'll need a beta bucks provider."

soupladlelad · 2018-02-04T03:41:51+00:00

I am a poly man in a 7 year relationship. I recently discovered TRP. Basically, it was what I already was doing except I probably shouldn't have signed the actual marriage license and I didn't realize the extent of the damage done to men by 3rd wave feminism's focus on language and cognition. I also believe that polyamory favors women and alpha men, while monogamy favors beta men (who still get the shittiest deal in both systems).

This sub and the main TRP sub have a strong preference for monogamy. I'm not gonna come out and say it's because they are all a bunch of betas new to the red pill concepts who have not given significant thought to polyamory/nonmonogamy but I do think there are significant benefits for men in poly relationships that are over looked.

You are not going to find answers about polyamory here. TRP model is grounded in monogamy and differentiating "plates" from "whatever the hell we call a partner here". In one of those old threads people kept telling the poly poster that his gf was just another plate not a partner and that he should just hook up if he wanted plates. His response was basically "yeah AWALT and this is basically like hooking up but I also have a partner. Whats the issue?" He never really got an answer because TRP can't address that successfully. The model is monogamous in nature and they could not understand its application to a poly lifestyle.

Many of the principles still hold though. You can have a traditionally 'healthy' relationship and via polyamory and still accept red pill principles but if your beta you are gonna have a bad time. My wife is also bi but she does not date other men (she is allowed to but does not choose to). She dates women, most of whom I eventually sleep with too. I also date women and of course I can sleep with them too. It also changes the nature of commitment and communication in the relationship in ways that I believe are more true to reality and positive (fewer assumptions more explicit discussion). My personal theory is that if she is after women now that likely won't change because in y'alls social circles she can't do better in terms of commitment from a man and her sexual interest in women is an adaptive evolutionary trait that increases access to alpha men (but that's just some BS I made up, I've never seen date on it one way or the other).

If you want to be in a relationship with her and don't mind her sleeping with other women (which really why would you) then do it. Since your monogamous the benefits of poly don't really apply to you. So the question is really 1) do you want to be with her in a relationship at all vs playing the field (presumably this is yes because you are) 2) Do you care if she is sleeping with other women? Other men? (if no then stay, if yes then bail; don't try to stay monogamous that is a slow burn heartbreak for both of you, just tell her it's not for you but you still care about her and want her to explore that part of her life because it's important to her).

Please also note that the red pill idea that women are hypergamous liars that many of your responses will be pinned to largely does not apply to poly relationships. They are still totally always spinning plates and looking for something better (so are men!) but there is no reason to lie about it because its an accepted part of the relationship (though she may potentially downplay the intensity of her feelings at some point also she may not).

Edit: Poly is basically openly acknowledging that your both spinning plates but still enjoy the interpersonal relationship you share as well. The opinion you will get here is red pill but strongly biased to monogamy. The opinion you will get in the poly sub will not have the monogamous bias but will be very feminist. I suggest asking in both and synergizing the information to get a overall quality advice.

Title	Gf may be polyamorous.
Author	Tosma00
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	February 4, 2018 1:47 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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