So after sex she told me "so last week you wrote down : going to the movies. You did not tell me. With whom did you go?"

(I actually never went to the movies by the way)

I quickly flipped the pressure and told her she just crossed a major red line by reading my personal thoughts and plans.

She broke down completely and started to cry like have not seen before. She begged me not to break up with her and told me she looked into it because she is afraid to lose me. She would never do it again she said.

I have just told her to go home and after I had thought about this incidence for a while I would call her.

So what do I make of this? On the one hand this was a major disrespect and break of trust. On the other hand she immediatly apologized and submitted to me. And I believe her that she did so for fear that I could leave her.