Give me hope

_Tactleneck_ · 2017-08-19T03:19:35+00:00

Realize that we all start the journey at the same ground zero spot you're at. There's nothing magical here we've done, just put in lots of hard work understanding ourselves and then making the necessary changes.

You've acknowledged there is a problem, now acknowledge you can do something about it, then, make a plan to do something.

Lifting is good. Try to read a book every week or two weeks. For you I would recommend awaken the giant within, the power of now, and models. There are lots of good books this community recommends, just dig around.

You'll go through different periods of growth but it absolutely will get better man. Look back at yourself and use that as motivation to move in a different direction.

Get comfortable talking to strangers and making eye contact. There's a ton I could write, but the key thing is: now that you've made a decision to be better, get an idea of your goals, and start doing little things each day to be better. It won't happen in a week or a month or 6 months, but stay the course.

Also, if you don't think you have time, look at how much you spend on social media, TV, video games, etc.

vandaalen · 2017-08-19T07:39:02+00:00

Hope? I'll give you something else. The best tip you ever got in your life:

Read the fucking sidebar in the mainsub you lazy pathetic excuse for a human being. There is even an elaborate story from an incel you useless dipshit.

Elfclan30 · 2017-08-19T03:24:37+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5euc8y/so_you_missed_out_on_the_fun_in_your_school_years/

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/5ry4sc/why_life_before_25_sucks_for_most_guys_outside_of/

jakeyv123 · 2017-08-19T09:50:58+00:00

I understand where your coming from OP. Heres a few things

1) Get rid of your toxic victim mentality. It doesnt matter that you didnt experience what other people have experienced. While other people are happy and content with themselves, YOU will be pushing it harder than everyone else. Thats more important than all the experience in the fucking world. Experience is irrelevant. Its your frame thats important.

2) Write goals for yourself then plan how you will achieve your dreams. Dont base your plans to achieve your goala on the reactions of other people. For example, a goal is i want to be stronger by going to the gym. The plan to get there is going to the gym and doing so and so 4 days a week. Apply this goal setting towards socialising. While your goal might be banging 3 girls simultaneously or getting a GF, the plan to get there is going out and socialisng 3 times a week.

jakeyv123 · 2017-08-19T09:53:49+00:00

3) Work your ass off. All day everyday. Dont be a bitch, dont fuck around. Go hard. Figure out what you want and fucking do it. Dont waste a second. People smell that on others. They respect it. It gets girls wet.

Essentially, step the fuck up and be a man.

lightsalreadydead · 2017-08-19T17:21:25+00:00

You've got to move past the high school mentality of socializing > everything else. It may feel like you've missed out. Maybe you did, maybe you didn't. But having good grades and being introverted doesn't mean you've missed out or even fucked up. There's no objective metric by which you've fucked up or not fucked up. What matters is how you feel about it. You've got a long life ahead of you and 4 years of it usually won't ruin the rest. It is very tough to adapt to, it can be, but you have to begin living life secure in yourself and not relying on socializing for your happiness.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2017-08-19T08:02:42+00:00

Yep. You pretty much wasted your youth. Now it's gone forever. What are you going to do about it, feel sorry for yourself? But you know......there's always tomorrow. No time like the present to do the things you really want to do.

I don't know about you but I'm more interested in what my plans are for tomorrow, next month, next 5 years.

If you don't have a goal, any kind of improvement goal, in mind at least for the next year, then you really are wasting your youth.

Title	Give me hope
Author	ThinkerB
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	August 19, 2017 2:30 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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