24 btw and ltr for one year. She has one because she’s East African and it’s “part of her culture” but I told her before I was thinking about it(mistake) and she said “no don’t you’ll look gay/it’s not attractive”. Recently got it pierced lol because I wanted to in the first place and what does it matter what she thinks, plus if I didn’t I feel like that’s less attractive because I’m listening to her and doing what she says. Aside from it looking gay(save your opinions idc) what do I do about the whole attraction aspect? On one hand if I take it out because she doesn’t like it, then that’s failing the shit test/doing what she says which is unattractive. But on the other hand, if she genuinely thinks it’s unattractive, then it has the same result, so it’s like a catch 22 right? Also she used to dress promiscuous and have nipple piercings that she took out, and I hate her nose ring because of the slut connotation it has and I’ve voiced this to her but again it’s part of her culture. Note she doesn’t do any of that stuff anymore, only has the nose ring now. So what should I do, and how will it affect the relationship? What can I do to maintain attraction? Thanks