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Guide to first dates?

StockBoat · 2019-03-31T02:55:36+00:00

Are there any proper guides to first dates? I feel like I always fuck it up somehow which is why they are not interested in followups. I really fucked up here....

StockBoat

March 31, 2019

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Title	Guide to first dates?
Author	StockBoat
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	March 31, 2019 2:55 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/b7j6la/guide_to_first_dates/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/guide-to-first-dates.223824 https://theredarchive.com/post/223824

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[–]BornOnMay3rd4 points5 points6 points 7 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

[–]StockBoat[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Sure. Never really been on dates before after my oneitis left me.

First girl from my class, I was really good on the kino side of things. I cold approached her randomly one day asked for her snapchat, and talked to her. Talked to her about my ex and found out she was alpha widowed. Later in class I did some of kino, I complemented her every now and then and made small talk. on valentines day, stayed 30 minutes after class and talked (went through her hair), just a little bit of kino. afterwards took her to my car, gave her some flowers, and kissed right there and then in the parking lot. took her out to dinner, afterwards listened to music and made out, but she was not at all into it for some reason (i was a bad kisser). before dinner she took me to the place she worked and we kissed in the parking lot, she let me grab her ass and suck her tits. during dinner she said she was "scared" but i had no clue what this meant. made an excuse afterwards i think (headache) for me to drop her home, hasn't spoken to me or been receptive ever since and is dating other guys. a little disappointed because she was extremely into me esp when she was showing me around her place of work, but flipped like a light switch. i might of might not have asked if she wanted to go in the back...

[–]Red-455 1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]StockBoat[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]BornOnMay3rd1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Okay let's be rational here. Reading your 'report' I am sure you missed out some minor details that could have played a major role in the interaction. Regardless, I think you did fine in terms of kino and isolation. The part about the roses: I know she was your oneitis, but you could have done something fun instead. Create an experience. For example, print pictures of each others' favourite characters and she can color your favourite and you, hers. Maybe you didn't have that one key piece of information to seal the deal or lacked the knowledge to do so. That's fine, more girls will come along.

Okay now let's get back to the original question about first dates. What are your logistics like? The simplest date I ever had was for us to grab a couple of beers (use this time to establish rapport and kino) and simply walked. Lots of opportunity for more kino and adventure if you go to the right places. Keep it simple usually works for me but it really depends on what you are comfortable with. The coluring of each others' favourite characters has been great for me.

[–]StockBoat[S] 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]Endorsed Contributormallardcove1 point2 points3 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link