Thought I was on track to getting unplugged, boy was I wrong.

TRP,
 

I'm a 23 year old guy. Just left the military after 5 years in. I was an on/off LDR with a girl one younger than me who I went to high school with. She was my first, I was her second. We broke up after a little over 4 years back in July. She drunk texted me a month afterwards but that conversation lasted a whole 10 minutes. I (stupidly) contacted her the week that I was planning on going back home (a month ago) and we ended up having sex but I told her I wouldn't do long-distance anymore and was sticking to my word. Things were going great though.
 

I was supposed to see her during christmas break but things happened (long story short, I couldn't see her when I said I would and she got upset thinking that I was just blowing her off. I didn't react to her message and just said "Alright" and she responded with, "What did you want me to say?" to which I responded with "Bye". That led to us not talking and pretty much that's where things ended.
 

I think this time it's hitting me harder than the actual breakup did a few months ago. I've slept with another girl both while sober and not but I'm just not feeling it. The fact that I've had trouble getting it hard a few times along with her being dry as hell probably hasn't helped either.
 

I've read the side-bar and some of the suggested reading. My biggest obstacle right now (just like a lot of the other readers) is the cold-approach. I always hype myself up but then bitch out at the last second. I'm currently in school and have been lifting for a few years and have been receiving compliments/comments on my physique by both girls and guys alike. I've used tinder, gotten numbers, but can never get them to meet.
 

I'm not sure where I was going with this or what I'm really asking as I'm all over the place right now. Let me have it.