First off before I come out and start asking questions, I want to thank the gentlemen who are making these posts. As to how valuable they are to me, they have become scrolls of truth, and knowledge every man must know.  I hope one day to contribute my piece when the time comes.  Im now 30 years old just turned in May 2017.  Something changed in me besides the fact of getting older.  All my life I realized after reading many articles on the internet, and life coach videos that stray away from the old blue piller behavior that all I ever known as a man was a bunch of lies.  To some men on the subreddit if your young take advantage of this knowledge for it will change your life and unveil the truth so that you will not go to war without arms.      When I was growing up I was raised by women in my household.  My sisters and my aunt raised me.  My father was never around, and my mother neither so I never had a man tell me how to be one.  There’s a lot of information to digest which I have already read through lots of post and the newbies section for TRP.  The main reason I came to this subreddit was, because of Illimitablemen, love his articles by the way.      I have been in a LTR for 13 years.  We first started when we were only 17….I know big mistake.  At that time I thought I knew what I wanted, I was so naïve that we ended moving to a different state together right after graduating high school.  For years we have had our ups and downs.  In occasions I have cheated, and just recently I have as well.  Nothing I’m proud of, but I have never asked myself why?  5 years ago we broke up for a year, and I took her back ever since, things have been different.  I started to realize that my wife was always so bossy, wanting things her way always.  She always wants things to be done when she says, and always expects me to be THE MAN.  After coming in contact with TRP, I realized that in reality she was acting more of a man than me.  She was always in charge, never let me go out with my friends without complaining, she kept track of my banking account to what I spend, even to the point to where she sometimes even tries to take my tools away from me when I am trying to fix things around the house.  She says that she wanted to fall in love with someone that is like her father.     I know this is my fault, I should have been in charge since day one, but I just recently began to open my eyes and started to see that I can’t do this anymore.  I’ve gained weight, stay all day at home, barley have any friends, and I don’t want to be a cheater, I never wanted to be that type of guy no offense to anyone here.  Slowly I am realizing that she’s the same way.  She’s gained weight and never wants to do anything if its not with me.  All her attention is on me…. We have no children.  I’m really coming to my breaking point, I do not want to hurt her, and do not want to continue living like this.  I know I have to end it but this will be the hardest thing I might ever do in my life.  I just want to know if anyone has ever been through something like this?  What can be done?  Right now I’m doing everything I can for myself to become a better man, but I feel that she has become an obstacle in my life that I have to move on from.  Any thoughts?