Crosspost "My [29f] boyfriend [29m] of 3 years wants to record our conversations/ arguments in order to check who said what - way to success or devastation?" from /r/relationships:

Hi reddit,

my boyfriend and I frequently disagree on who said what and in what manner in a conversation or argument.

He's said 'we should have a recording device rolling' multiple times now, whereas I've said 'do you hear yourself?' on multiple occasions.

Today, he wanted to follow through with the recording.

Actually, I think it might benefit us, but at the same time I'm deeply hurt and don't even know why.

So I'm looking for opinions or experience from you on this matter. Has someone tried this? Do you think it's a good way to handle this problem? I don't know what to think.

TL;DR: BF wants to record conversations to determine who said what, any experience/ thoughts/ better ideas?

Edit for clarification: We both have mental health problems and work on ourselves very hard, so while this is somewhat about who's right, it's more so we can improve our conversations. I'm not sure this is the right way though.

Posted by throwawayaccountffs | 29 April 2018 | Link