Help me

unclebenjamin · 2014-05-04T16:14:06+00:00

Change takes time man, don't worry too much

-drukpa-kunley- · 2014-05-04T17:25:50+00:00

To live is to feel pain. Be glad that you are feeling pain because that means you are alive. And if you are alive, you can change.

First, examine yourself and try to untangle what you are feeling about your mother.

Maybe you're having an identity crisis. Maybe you're feeling depressed because you will no longer have her guidance. And if that is the issue, then that is a GOOD thing. Become your own man.

Regardless of what the issue really is, the first thing to do is to commit to change.

Then make it your mission, no matter how you feel, to keep trying.

Find a good, caring MALE friend to help keep you motivated. His job isn't necessarily to console you, but rather to get you up off your ass and get active.

It's much easier to go to the gym when you know the other guy is going to be there waiting on your lazy ass.

[deleted] · 2014-05-04T16:50:21+00:00

A day or two at a time is quite an accomplishment for someone who has a lifetime of beta behavior hardwired. You should be celebrating these accomplishments, because that's what they are.

Cryocasm · 2014-05-04T23:49:46+00:00

You seem to have the temporary willpower to push out of beta and into RP for short periods of time, and you yourself say it always comes from reading, here is a primitive but (it should) work solution:

Spend all your time reading RP stuff, Men's blogs, theory posts, etc. Then lie down in bed, think all the stuff through that you read, think that over again, try to apply it to your future plans.

Another help might be to chat up lots of girls, because then you can apply the more longer-term RP theories of spinning plates, which will become an underlying motivation for you in short timeframes and it will just all around help you up again.

My condolences, don't drink too much.

LS_D · 2014-05-05T05:20:28+00:00

bro, just do it "one day at a time" or even 'one hour at a time'... and each time you are aware of having done even the smallest thing to improve yourself ... pat yourself on the back and remember "Rome was not built in a day" that is, nothing 'great' happens overnight, in fact I'd guess that most successful RP'ers came to realize their successes in hindsight, before they were able to "turn on their frame"

practice makes better ... nobody's perfect!

Jasmene2012 · 2014-05-04T16:08:12+00:00

Do you lift?

Title	Help me
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	3
Comments	11
Date	May 4, 2014 4:06 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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