So I will try to make this quick. My dilemma is that I find myself crushing hard on this girl at work, before anyone tells me "Don't shit where you eat", I am an intern and I will be down working at this place in a month.

So initially I got her to go out with coffees and lunch with me but only in the work setting. They were mostly 1 on 1s. I figured I should try and set something outside of work but found it difficult since she had classes 3 days a week, and does not drink. Also from a logistical standpoint with me living outside the city and her living in it, I just didn't bother putting in too much effort to set plans (I know stupid me). After a two weeks I said fuck and moved onto other girls.

She then came to me a few weeks after and suggested we have lunch since I just did not bother talking to her anymore and then I pretty much found myself drenched in a emotion today. Historically when I get this way I find that I come onto strong and struggle to find a balance between desire and chill.

So my questions are 1)How should I progress with this girl (I'm feeling oneitis coming on) 2) How do I learn to balance my emotions? 3) Should I be more proactive with my emotions from the start?