Help with kino?

Sepean · 2015-07-16T10:49:44+00:00

First off, stop thinking you have to get a good reaction. Your goal right now is to learn to kino, to practice it, and that means doing it.

If you were practicing shooting hoops, would you wait until you were sure could score every time before you took the first shot? How would that even work?

So your goal is to kino, many times. No matter how she reacts, you met your goal and did a kino. Get the idea of her reaction mattering out of your head. When you can kino with confidence, you can begin going for effect.

As to concrete advice, sneak kino in where it is a natural. During greetings it is easy. If she teases you, you can kino her. If you teased her and it worked, you can go "just teasing" and kino her. Anything with secrecy or directing attention is a good opportunity; say lean in, point with one hand and touch her arm with the other and go "look at that [guy/dog/whatever]". If she's looking away you can kino her when you want to talk to her. If you want to move somewhere you can kino.

Blake55 · 2015-07-16T07:07:05+00:00

Give some context about when you need it.

People often greet eachother with some kind of kino. Eg. blokes give eachother handshakes (no homo), or I always meet Tinder dates with a hug. It breaks that invisible 'no-touch' barrier and it really helps the situation lose awkwardness or tension.

Escalating on a date while watching a movie begins sitting shoulder-to-shoulder, maybe touching the leg a little bit at different points, then eventually an overt form (grab her head and turn it towards you).

Look up the DiCarlo Escalation Ladder. It kinda shows some of these same concepts. You advance from kinda impersonal stuff to intimate things. At each step you are overcoming a different barrier.

Title	Help with kino?
Author	4benny2lava0
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Comments	2
Date	July 16, 2015 6:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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