Gentleman.

I have a complex problem.

I am early 30s, have been married to a Western girl and have had a completely dead bedroom for 4 to 5 years. We moved to SE Asia a little while back for work and in an attempt to fix the relationship. It hasn't worked.

I've had a local mistress for 9 months now - casual sex, no questions asked - and this is not a sugar daddy thing. She has never asked for money. We just catch up for a handful of hours every fortnight for sex. I'm good and dominant with her in the bedroom, and she is lightly submissive. I give it to her well and she cums regularly. I sms her with a time and a hotel room, and she always turns up. We go for 3 hours, then leave no questions asked.

I should note she is also in a long term relationship - but her partner lives abroad in Europe, whereas mine lives locally.

We get along great, there has never been a problem even as she has been telling me over the last few months about her plan to visit her partner in the Europe in a few weeks. We are open about our situation.

But as the weeks to her departure have drawn near, she has gone completely cold within the space of a day - blocked me from all her social media and wont respond to my messages or invitations.

I'm seriously attached to her now - this girl is wild in the sack and i like her a lot. I don't want to lose her, and i'm keen to get this thing rekindled when she gets back in a few weeks, but I don't know where I stand. She has strongly indicated interest in being with me permanently as a partner in the past, but I've so far ignored this.

As a generalisation, i've played things pretty Alpha with her to date, however I worry my cracks have started showing - I sent her a slightly soppy message telling her how much she means to me after she blocked me (though I know she def recived the message)

I'm also at a loss as to who to choose - leave wife or not? The wife is my best friend and I truly love her, but there is nothing doing sexually.

Any ideas are welcomed.

Thank you.