Honesty and plates

KeffirLime · 2018-07-14T13:39:48+00:00

If she's a plate she doesn't get to make demands that you tell her if your'e seeing other people. By defintion a plate is someone who is aware they are not exclusive with you, which means you can fuck whoever you want.

If she asks tell her, you owe her nothing. You're not being cruel, you're being honest. What she decides to do with the information is up to her but shouldn't phase you seeing as she's a plate.

In my experience telling my plates im seeing other people has only made them more keen.

sinchurch · 2018-07-14T12:31:00+00:00

Personally, there’s way too much yapping about rules and stuff going on. I keep it vague. If they force the convo, then I set my foot down and ask if we’re having fun together and tell them I’m not going to label it.

Also - for the clingers (and there will be a lot of them in the 26+ age bracket) - I add “We can talk about it again in 3 months but not before.” (Sidebar material btw)

They know the drill. They don’t need it defined. And they don’t need to know names and specifics - that’s LTR stuff and they aren’t LTRs.

Sounds like you’re doing good. Keep it up.

CalvinRichland · 2018-07-14T14:26:39+00:00

You owe her nothing beyond honesty of her place.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-07-14T15:02:23+00:00

A. You don't have to let them know SPECIFICALLY, you just have to not "take the pledge" as it were. My OLTRs understand that I am not monogamous, but they don't "understand" that they understand. I never text OLTR1 that I'm going to go over to OLTRs place and nail her.

B. Fine. A plate is a plate. They get to do what they want, too.

RedSkeller · 2018-07-14T15:22:12+00:00

I have straight up told plates I'm fucking other women. They'll ask and I'll answer, if you don't like them fucking other people then just say it - if you set the tone early you have nothing to worry about, embrace your abundance. Typically women are not interested in having multiple partners, if they got good dick on tap they won't stray, even if that good dick is slamming some other local talent. She's most likely trying to bait you into a conversation about exclusivity. Tell her you will always be honest with her but think women who sleep around lack class. Give her a reason to think she's special but never surrender your options unless she has proven herself over a long period of time and is well vetted as a quality ltr.

Title	Honesty and plates
Author	Marriedman85
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	July 14, 2018 12:06 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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