How can i break someone frame?

BadCopWithDonut · 2015-04-05T14:29:37+00:00

Have a stronger frame.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-04-05T17:24:38+00:00

The only frame you need to worry about breaking is yours. You misunderstand what "frame" is. Frame is your point of view and your personal outlook on things. Imagine a picture frame. Pick it up and hold it out in front of you. Look through it. You see the world through your "frame". Everybody has their own frame, some are similar to yours and some people see things very differently than you.

You want to have others step into your frame, so that they can share your perspective. You can do this different ways. You can use logic and reason, you can draw them in with a strong personality or you can use amused mastery and continue holding frame until they submit.

This is unrelated, but you can also think of a house frame. If the frame is weak, the house will collapse on it's weight. A strong frame can support itself and outside forces as well. You have to maintain frame - your point of view, your attitude and your self-control - under pressure. When you break frame, you submit to somebody else's will.

This doesn't mean you have to always be right or that you can't agree with others or do what others want you to do - that's just being a difficult asshole, and nobody likes that guy. Sometimes you have to submit for a boss or a GF or a friend to keep things flowing smoothly - even strong frames need some flex or they will snap - but if they are too bendy then they won't be stable.

For people to step into your frame they have to like you, trust you or agree with you.

Title	How can i break someone frame?
Author	cuckoo22
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	April 5, 2015 12:37 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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