How did I handle this shit test?

[deleted] · 2013-12-20T20:35:18+00:00

I absolutely guarantee she has texted at least 3 or her friends telling them how fucking weird you are. This is like yousa going to the bosses, Ja Ja Binks level fail.

The response to this:

Her : How's home? :)

Should just be quick and to the point. She just wants to communicate with you. It's not a shit test. You don't have to game her in your response. The whole rip her clothes off thing just seemed false, and totally set up what followed:

Her : Feels weird not talking to someone your 'exclusive' with, just reminds me that this is just sex to you and I don't think I can do that.

Yes, that's right. You set up your own shit test. If she knows that your arrangement is about sex to you, there is no need to tell her how amazing the sex is. It's completely the wrong thing to do. It will only make her think that now she has the sex thing down, she can start moving on to trying to make you commit. Which is exactly what happened.

Then we move on to some more Gungan Mesa caused mabbe one, two-y lettle bitty axadentes, huh?

Me : Really? You think that's all I feel about you? Or are you looking for the easy way out because you cheated..? This is a lot more than sex to me, so be honest and tell me what's going on in that brain of yours.

What the fuck is this shit about cheating? You are acting jealous over a hypothetical situation regarding a girl you refuse to be exclusive with? Or maybe you are exclusive. I'm as confused as she must be, but this final (I chose that word deliberately), gungan master stoke:

Me : Truth be told I was planning on ringing you tonight drunk with romantic intentions and what not. We aren't going to be repeating this conversation though. I like you a lot more than you think so relax. Texting everyday isn't my thing but yeah I'd like it if we did talk more. Don't be so dramatic. X

Really seals the deal. She has totally manipulated you into revealing your inner insecurities.

jobs33ker · 2013-12-20T20:48:31+00:00

Wow.

In a matter of like 3 texts, you managed to display sexual desperation, emotional needyness, and a downright cringe worthy level of immaturity. I agree with the above post saying she already on the horn with her friends asking / telling them about what you said, and they're probably telling her to stop seeing you. And rrightfully so. Trust me once the friends are against you and possible to recover..

[deleted] · 2013-12-20T17:29:40+00:00

"Failed" is putting it lightly.

Atleticomadrid · 2013-12-20T17:57:57+00:00

2/3 rule dude, as you already know but don't practice, it's huge. Talk in person and only use texting to set up that meeting.

-Anteros- · 2013-12-20T17:03:41+00:00

Hire an editor.

redpillshadow · 2013-12-20T17:39:39+00:00

Personally this is the best i've ever handled such a situation but obviously need improvement.

That is the best. Scary. I do not want to imagine what normal is for you. What you did is just horrible all around. I have to hand it to her. She stayed amazingly calm for what you did throw at her.

neoday · 2013-12-21T00:40:19+00:00

Here I thought I won't fall for the trap and be boring, lets go sexual

This wasn't a trap, she was asking how home is after not speaking to you for an extended period of time. Instead of engaging in regular conversation you started being sexually aggressive, which leads to

Feels weird not talking to someone your 'exclusive' with, just reminds me that this is just sex to you and I don't think I can do that.

She's feeling insecure. She thinks the relationship is just sex to you because that's what your words and actions are telling her. She asks how you're doing and you talk about ripping her clothes off? In your eagerness to avoid a shit test (that never even existed) you've come across badly and made her start questioning your feelings.

Really? You think that's all I feel about you? Or are you looking for the easy way out because you cheated..?

Where the hell did this come from? She was looking for reassurance from you that your relationship is more than purely sexual, not trying to tell you she cheated. You look paranoid and weird here.

We aren't going to be repeating this conversation though.

What the hell is this? Seriously? Unless you're trying to come off like a total douche on purpose.

Your problem is that you come across simultaneously uncaring, needy, and socially awkward. You're overthinking the simplest of social niceties. Chill the fuck out, this girl likes you and was thinking about you so sent off a text, and you probably came across drunk or high.

Reddit_SLC · 2013-12-21T02:41:04+00:00

Keep them shorter and more concise and don't tell her your feelings over text. Otherwise, they aren't bad.

For example, your second text should have been just "Really? You think that's all I feel about you? Or are you looking for the easy way out because you cheated..? "

Third text should have been just the first line "Truth be told I was planning on ringing you tonight drunk with romantic intentions and what not."

[deleted] · 2013-12-20T20:55:12+00:00

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Title	How did I handle this shit test?
Author	RiseAboveIt
Upvotes	10
Comments	31
Date	December 20, 2013 5:00 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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