Background: Im a Mid 20s tall good looking (6/10 atleast) guy , She is an attractive and successful woman in her late 20s.

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I met her online and we chatted and agreed to meet up quickly. She texted me the day before to cancel b/c she was buying a car., and that she was busy the entire week and we can go out next week. She had 2 trips she was taking over the next 2 weeks for work and couldn't meet up so we texted for the 2 weeks and agrred ot meet up when she came back.

On the first date we met up and went to a restaurant, the vibe was okay. We left to go somewhere else and walking there it got super playful and flirty. We make it to the next spot and are chilling overlooking the skyline in a cabana tent with one of those large mattresses that have reclining seats. we chat for a little bit and start making out, its getting hotter and then I started fingering her. We continue making out and I suggest going back to her place, which she says not a good idea. I ignore it and we keep playing around. We decide to leave and were back in her car ( she drove me to where I was parked) and we start going at it again. She starts blowing me. I hit her up and we make plans.

2nd Date: we go to a bar and had dinner, 2 things happened that started an argument. She answered her phone on the date and I gave her a look "c'mon really?" and she said it was for her work ( was true). Later on the way out from the place were talking and I said "what are you thinking?" She says shes annoyed b/c neither time did I pay and I just had them split the check. I disagreed and said " you have a job". Maybe I should've, but I said "Nope, that's not how it works". The mood was gone and she said "Lets just go". I agreed and took her back to her car. I called her out for answering her phone and she didn't like that, oh well.

Im dropping her off and we agree we don't want to stop hanging out b/c of some dumb shit. We start making out and fooling around again, I say lets go back to your spot (Its late and she has work tomorrow whatever) she says " I bet youd like that".

3rd Date: We go to a good spot and have dinner and I paid. We made out at a this festival that was going on and went to go get some dessert. We get back to her car and make out and all that shit again, and agree to go to a live music show the next day.

4th Date: We meetup before the event and go back to her place to get ready. The show was great, after we had dinner and uber'd back to her place. once back she made a comment basically outright stating time for you to go home. So I said fuck this and didn't make a fuss and went on my way. She calls me when im driving home asking me why I was acting weird afterwards. I said I wasn't, everythings straight.

Its still the weekend so we go hang again the next night. This is when I make it known that Im tired of waiting, I know youre talking to other dudes, all girls do, im not gonna try and compete for you. If youre into me then youre into me and if youre not then fuck this. B/c I know that if you were we wouldn't be at this point. She assures me that she doesn't entertain other guys and insists she tells them she always busy and never makes plans w/ them and I do like you/have feelings/ am attracted. That she has hooked up w/ guys in the past and it didn't end well for her (surprise) and shes scared and doesn't want to just give it up and that's why nothing happened the 4th date b/c she knew if I came back up we would've done it. I tell her that's bullshit im not her to fuck around either you want this or not. she gets mad and leaves. Calls me again when I get home apologizing for leaving.

She texts me the next day asking to hang out. I agree and we go to a coffee shop for a "work date" for lack of a better term. both of us just chilling and working on our laptops. I drop her off we kissed im distant and leave.

I get a text in the morning saying im going out again tonight do you want to join me? I said im busy not tonight.

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Questions: Why the pull back in the level of intimacy? First date to now. What is she trying to do here? The ultimate goal?

My gut is that shes looking for a real relationship and doesn't want to give it up early. We all know the dynamics there.

Im not trying to keep that going so im switching to being unavailable. Need some perspective on what is happening here b/c im a lost. All I can say is im not playing that lets take it slow shit.

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