How do I avoid this?

a_hot_sip · 2021-03-12T14:43:47+00:00

Hit her with “lol k” and then don’t think about her again until she texts you back or you never see her again. That’s how I’d do it!

TeddyMGTOW · 2021-03-12T15:21:07+00:00

Men are logical and like to plan things in advance. Women are emotional and follow their hot pants. #1 let her chase you more #2 don't text so early in the day. Text late afternoon "my place 8pm, bring a six pack". If the plate is to much work she's not a plate. Move on...

benhurensohn · 2021-03-12T15:58:23+00:00

I've grown not to reply to messages like that. Just dead silent. They always come back if they are really interested.

Also, follow what others here said and lead. Don't ask when she is free. In general, don't ask open ended questions, but simple questions that require a yes/no commitment. Just make a plan and invite her:

"Let's get dinner from xxx tonight. See you at my place at 6pm?"

That forces her to commit. If she's truly busy with something, she'll say "can we do 7pm?". If she's not interested, then you'll get messages like yours above

tiverma · 2021-03-12T17:54:00+00:00

If this is your thought process, she's not your plate. if anything you're her plate lmao.

No need to reply to her - go get an extra workout in or something.

silencedmajority1 · 2021-03-13T09:47:22+00:00

Lol you are a joke. Probably too ugly to have a "plate"

AshyLarry27 · 2021-03-12T14:54:31+00:00

"Relax, have fun, some friends just got back to me to hang out later so its all good."

Give her a week, if she texts back you're good. Otherwise soft next.

Some points to note here:

- She has friends, why is that a problem? Is your ego so fragile that you NEED to be #1 in every girl's life?

- She is offering to reschedule and hang out with you if things dont go as planned, she didn't have to say that. One plate I had, I could read her interest level by text. When I planned a day and time, she other agreed, or apologetically declined and hope for a reschedule. When the flame was gone, she would instead say "I can't, I am already hanging out with friends that day." See the difference? The earlier messages were afraid of "losing" me with apologies and rescheduling, the latter has a tone of "ugh leave me alone I am busy."

- Don't ask a girl when she is busy or free, lay out a time and see what they say. Girls HATE when the ball is in their court. This is a massive turn off. They would rather you say "hey lets grab drinks at 8pm at *insert location*" and then tell you yes or "I can't that time how about 9." They would rather this WAAAAYYYY more than you trying to pry into their schedule and fit yourself in.

- Women have their own lives. Understand this. Also understand there could be other guys in the picture. Welcome to the real world. Learn to not ever take things personally with girls. That's a moment you have to check in with yourself if you feel you're getting to invested.

Title	How do I avoid this?
Author	Mostass
Upvotes	4
Comments	17
Date	March 12, 2021 2:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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