How do I stop being jealous?

_the_shape_ · 2020-04-20T01:35:16+00:00

Because you haven't handled, perhaps even confronted, deeper questions like: what am I without a woman? what am I left with if she leaves? how much of my self-worth depends on a woman?

Meditate on those for awhile instead of more topical questions like the one you used to kick off this thread.

AshyLarry27 · 2020-04-20T03:19:20+00:00

Outcome independance.

The irony behind jealousy is that in being so invested in her, you give off "no don't leave me you're all I have and my well disguised, held together with duck tape and paper clips frame will shatter before you every time you even look at another guy."

Outcome independance isn't just some edgy take how to be James Bond around women. Your mentality should be "if she leaves, she leaves. Whatever. Her loss. What else do we have here?" This is because having this attitude projects you have such high SMV and frame that the last thing you fear is the idea that there are no more women left for you.

Jealousy arises because you don't have other options, and have subconsciously invested so much in this one option that you are convinced this is all you need. Funny how the girl we obssessed over in highschool is not the same girl we obsessed over in college, or even the girl after that ect. It's all mental. If you over work yourself mentally by taking her too seriously, your brain will assume she is extremely important and will hyper focus on her.

The message is simple, keep it light and fun. You're out to have a good time, she can join if she likes. You are to care about you, love you, and think you're simply a great person to be around and so fun. This is the mentality you want to project onto yourself. Your brain will fill in the rest over time by rooting this into your subconscious as your new mentality and it will show up in your body language, attitude, and mind set.

Batman-von-Pepe · 2020-04-20T08:40:27+00:00

She's not yours, it's just your turn.

Once you internalize that and stop viewing women as possessions the jealousy will dissipate.

imtheoneimmortal · 2020-04-20T11:14:55+00:00

Auto analyze yourself and your childhood

Probably u were jealous about your father because you can’t have the mother

This isn’t personal it happened to me to be jealous of girls and possessive

Title	How do I stop being jealous?
Author	depressedthrowaway3y
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	April 20, 2020 1:18 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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